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My now ex boyfriend decided to broke up with me over text. we arguing about kept clean. he did blame my trust. every time we did argue when we were together. I am getting fed with same things. of breaking up. I know he wasn't right for me. he did change for the worst. it toke me 3 tried to break up. he didn't want. I said a nasty word. I want a bit crazy.
I don’t believe in dating because my time is precious. I usually get to know people 1 at a time while keeping my options open. I have too much of a busy schedule in my life and mind to spend time dating numerous people.
Dating is definitely something fun to do with someone you're attracted to when you have the money to pay for the other person
You don't have to pay for me. I can pay for myself. :)
Also in my experience no girl has ever tried to change me, if anything I've tried to change them, because i had a girlfriend who i loved very much and tried to help her with their personal problems, she was loyal yeah but her mental issues got in the way of our relationship. So no girl has or will ever try to change me, i can detect that from a mile away and if anything I’ve done my best for girls that I’ve cared about so much in the past
I think you’re way too simple minded. I hate men and dating. 24 years old and never had a boyfriend. The only dates I’ve been on are with dudes online. Never fell for any one of them after so many guys. I’ve fell for nobody I’ve ever met at school either. Only the dudes I’m not interested in, hit one me and call me beautiful all the time. I’m ready to just become a single mom to two kids by the time I’m 38. I’ve almost given up
Maybe you just bat for the home team?
@Malik00 nahh it’s just no guy has been worth my time. Most Men are shallow assholes anyways
If you have that much of a judgmental attitude then i think you better get used to being single, cause that sentence right there just made you come off as a female incel.
@Malik00 every female is an incel to you. I’ve never seen anything positive that you’ve written in here to any woman
Well i'm sorry i don't worship the ground you walk on and praise you for simply existing. The only reason i'm critical is because I've seen too many women act like they are owed something and expect everyone else to bend over backwards for their own benefit. I've seen and known plenty of women who have proven themselves to be competent, capable and reliable and if all these apply to you then nothing I've said up to this point should bother you. But if they do, then all i can say to you is "Be Better" maybe then you'll find a man willing to take a chance on you for more then just a quick fuck.
@Malik00 maybe it’s not cus women are entitled, it’s more so because you have nothing that women are look for. There’s a difference between having standards and just settling for someone you have absolutely no attraction to. Don’t chase high flying women If you’re not high flying yourself
Oh really cause i honestly imagine your "Standards" would look something like this.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3XkgbOFyJU
@Malik00 well those actually aren’t my standards. I only like funny decent well educated guys. Apparently no guys are like that out there nowadays
@Malik00 and certainly you don’t have what I need either
So in short you only date men with lots of money.
Oh im sorry. Obedient, submissive men with lots of money.
@Malik00 hmmm maybe that is simply your way of hating on women cuz you can’t get one? No, it’s not true at all
And now we get to the "Well you just hate all women" angle when people like you can't come up with a proper response. Face it. Men aren't the problem, you are. Deal with it or enjoy remaining single for the rest of your life.
DONE! Blocked
@Malik00 I think you’re way better off on just working on yourself than just hating on women on here. Work on yourself and you will get a woman, otherwise you will be on here hating forever
Ahhh...@nelly83 really does hate herself. Proof is right here. This makes a lot more sense now.
@coastisclear I think you hate yourself. I’m not the one still single at 35
Oh I got a feeling you will be single for the rest of your life with the attitude you got right now. You came on here just fight and hate on all men. I wouldn’t be surprised if you identify as a feminist.
I admit I dumped out some frustrations about female behavior on here. Most guys agree with what I’m saying but at the same time we ultimately look for solutions. Not a bitchfest. You just want to focus on misery and negativity.
@coastisclear you were the one who hated on me first in the other comments. And now you’re coming on to hate on me again. Why would I still be giving you smiles?
Malik still has time to work on himself to get a woman. You don’t because you’re 35, time is up. You are much more likely than me to be destined to be single for life.
I feel the same.
Marry me.
I had romance in my life. Love, excitement, engagement, heartbreak, experience and I’m talking to more women again. I’ve slept with dozens of women including two 3somes. Short of marriage and kids I’ve lived much more of a life than you have.
You in the other hand are a 24 yr old girl who has never had a boyfriend. You said it yourself. At least I had my first girlfriend in HS.
If you are an attractive young girl there is no way in hell you never has a crush on someone unless: you are 100% lesbian and can’t come to grips with it, a narcissistic sociopath (my guess), hate yourself and your appearance (my close second guess) or were badly abused sexually/physically in your youth. Either way nobody is that nasty to other people if there isn’t something they don’t absolutely hate about themselves.
Either way pointing it out. Go ahead and deny & defy what I’m saying. But nastiest insults I’ve ever gotten from were from people who hate themselves. I can still remember my fat ass former female roommate once making a drunken comment about me being “shoved in the friendzone”. A year later she came home to see me and my girlfriend cuddling on the sofa watching a movie. She walked right back outside and slammed the door. The slam was the most satisfying sound I ever heard. It was the sound of her shitty attitude slamming her right back in her face. It’s going to slam on yours if it hasn’t already. I can already hear it.
@coastisclear well you’re obviously bitter and in pain if you’re constantly spewing so much negativity on this website. I’ve seen nothing but anti woman hate in all your comments
Uhh guys... Let's not forget she literally said "I hate men" in her opinion lmao
Please don't put your children through a single-parent household!!! You could at least find a female friend to help you, or you could hire a nanny if you save up enough beyond the baseline necessary to raise kids.
@DonCachondo no it’s rather “ I hate “ women hating “ men”
And if you’re one of them, you’re also gonna be blocked
Literally your second sentence...
"I think you’re way too simple minded. I HATE MEN and dating. 24 years old and never had a boyfriend. The only dates I’ve been on are with dudes online. Never fell for any one of them after so many guys. I’ve fell for nobody I’ve ever met at school either. Only the dudes I’m not interested in, hit one me and call me beautiful all the time. I’m ready to just become a single mom to two kids by the time I’m 38. I’ve almost given up"
But maybe you misspoke? That's fine idc...
And, no, I'm not a woman-hating man. Granted, I am rather critical of women, but it's not out of hatred :D
@DonCachondo that doesn’t mean I hate men like the way these guys in here hate on women. I meant to be more that I am sick of men after a whole series or failed dates. Doesn’t mean that I go write nasty disparaging comments about men like these folks
Dating can be fun everytime. But paying everytime gets depressing. Can go on hundreds of dates, and apparently I have to pay every dam time. Well 1 times a girl bought me a drink, that was impressive. Now, just even harder to have anyone go on a date. Even before this covid stuff. I just want to connect with someone.
I had a story to tell of a weird woman just wanting some free breakfast (she only stuck to her phone during the date and even asked for money before she left), I got the confirmation that the wrong women always wanna be invited to restaurants, and I spent most of my time with trying to forget about that weird time.
This is why you don't ask women on dates that you don't REALLY know, and I mean REALLY know, not just knowing their name, like KNOWING who they are, like knowing each other for years.
@mattl338 knowing them or not does not make a difference. all women date for this same exact thing he just mentioned
@CasaNorba Nice generalization there buddy. That's a load of shit depending on WHO the fuck you are on a date with, if you meet a chick at a bar and ask them to go on a date, they're more likely to be the type of women who want free meals and then ghost you compared to if you are ALREADY FRIENDS WITH the girl and then ask her to go on a date, because knowing that she isn't a gold digger is pretty important, so yes it does make a difference otherwise you won't know if they're a gold digger or not, so quit your "all women are the same" asinine bullshit.
@mattl338 what just said yourself isn't so different than an actual generalization. seriously, someone needs to loosen up their black and white goggles a little more often, do you have any idea how many stupid fucks have actually been MARRIED with gold diggers for years and didn't actually knew they were gold digger until it was already too late for them. Jeff Bezos is a prime example of this.
but what's really funny is that most of these dumb fuck sounded exactly like you at the time they commited to these gold diggers.
" oh I known for a while, she's not capable of that!"
@mattl338 oh I just realize you're only 18, might explain why you still sound like a naive pushover. I guess having this conversation with such inexperience rookies can be a waste of time of energy
Here’s the thing buddy, just because that happened to a few guys, doesn’t mean it’s engraved in a womans DNA to where all women are gold diggers, that’s my fucking point, but that clearly went over your head and you clearly aren’t paying attention to what im saying. Regardless NOT ALL WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS. My age has nothing to do with this and if i was a pushover I wouldn’t be having this discussion. Also underestimating me and condescending me because of my age isn’t an argument. Im realistic is what I am, I’m not a bitter guy who gave up on love, I don’t know what you’re circumstances lie with how you’re speaking, but you come off as a bitter asshole who thinks all women are awful because of a few bad relationships.
What’s most funny to me is that you did hardly any research on why Jeff Bezos and his wife got divorced, it’s not because she’s a golddigger, it’s because she had an affair! You fucking moron. Clearly too impotent to do 5 minutes worth of a quick google search. And incase you’re going to bring up that she still got money out of his billions, well guess what buddy? Because he didn’t sign a prenup, his ass got screwed, doesn’t make her a gold digger, he should have made better decisions, which you clearly are enabling. You’re victimizing men who lost money from a divorce when they should have been more careful and just got a fucking prenup, that’s what they are for. You’re talking like an incel making men out to be victims, and making all women out to be these horrible parasites who ruin mens lives. Grow a fucking backbone and grow the fuck up. Not all women are the same, some are better than others, you simply need to understand that, and making inaccurate statements don’t help your case. Fuck off.
@mattl338 getting overdefensive by calling people "fucking moron" and telling them to "fuck off" along with other insults isn't an argument either and it sure as hell doesn't mean you're correct. but it does show however how butthurt you are. you just proved my point by the way
you sure are coming off as a typical 18 year old virgin who thinks that defending women and believing they're all fragile angel is gonna get you laid. if this is how you think then you my friend are in for a very rude awakening when you enter your 20s.
Jeff Bezos was one example, so you can stop having more bitchfits. and how the fuck do you know that perhaps his wife had that affair to JUSTIFY their divorce? and yea very few men get lucky after a divorce; you obviously dont know shit about marriage if you think that simply signing up a prenup is enough to save your ass.
till then you shouldn't be calling other people incel when in fact you're again coming off as one yourself. cause apparently you have no experience with women and aren't aware of how much privileges our society gives them. but you obviously think tha being in denial and justifying your ignorance is gonna help you not come off as the incel you are.
@CasaNorba "getting overdefensive by calling people "fucking moron" and telling them to "fuck off" along with other insults isn't an argument either" I was getting aggressive because you are being arrogant and generalizing a whole gender based off a minority of a few shitty women, that would normally piss someone off who doesn't like people who are like that. Regardless my insults aren't the point. I wasn't in the best mood that day so my apologies, but I still provided actual facts that you could have just looked up on google.
"and how the fuck do you know that perhaps his wife had that affair to JUSTIFY their divorce? and yea very few men get lucky after a divorce; you obviously don't know shit about marriage if you think that simply signing up a prenup is enough to save your ass." I never tried to justify her affair I was clearly just judging his poor decisions but regardless he has billions of dollars so what does it matter? Also what do you think prenups are designed to do? it's a document designed to work out an agreement between two spouses to determine who gets what if they decide to divorce, including who gets how much money and who gets the children if there is children. You're acting like these documents are just fake and are a fraud when the reason why it was created was to make things fair back in the day when things were not fair. Unless you can provide proof that this not the case and is the opposite, your opinions are just opinions and hearsay.
"till then you shouldn't be calling other people incel when in fact you're again coming off as one yourself." Lol really how? Please explain, because I'm not a bitter virgin who thinks they're owed sex and is desperate enough to pick the shittiest woman in the room and views women as sexual objects. I have a girlfriend actually and we both treat each other fairly and with great care, take that how you will.
@CasaNorba
"cause apparently you have no experience with women and aren't aware of how much privileges our society gives them." I do know the privileges society gives them but that's the fault of THOSE people, not the women, a lot women don't even want special privileges, so why is it the women's fault necessarily? You CANNOT accuse all women of wanting the same thing, not all women want the same things and some are better than others, is that really so hard to understand?
Most REALLY strive to be equal with guys and do a great job at it, there are women serving with the Navy SEALs and highly covert special ops units right now! That is true equality if I've ever seen it! Also, I actually have quite a lot of experience with women and they weren't always great but not always bad because they were high schoolers, it is what it is. I may not be a master but I am grounded enough to know what I'd like in a partner. Regardless, as I just said I have a girlfriend, and I've had many in the past, if you don't want to acknowledge that as experience, fine, but like it or not, it is experience. People can be awful and it doesn't matter what their gender is, women can be horrible to men but men can also be horrible to women, we're human, it's unfair to say every woman is the same, why is that so hard to understand? You're so prejudiced towards women that you come off as actually not an incel, but an MGTOW guy, the people who are widely known as mostly bitter weak guys who hate women.
@CasaNorba
"but you obviously think tha being in denial and justifying your ignorance is gonna help you not come off as the incel you are." How am I an incel when I'm simply calling you out for being prejudiced? Buddy you need to look at the definition of an incel and take a look in the mirror! There's a pretty big difference between being someone who calls someone out for their prejudice and someone who wants to fuck a girl so they actively go for the throat of any and all of a girl's supposed offenders even when a guy makes a joke or picks on a girl lol. There isn't even a specific girl here that I'm defending! LOL. I've acknowledged what you say and give reasons for why I said what I said and I tell you like it is, you're just too intolerant to listen to me just because I'm 18 and therefore refuse to give me any credibility which is very unfair, if someone gives facts and provides pretty good points you should acknowledge it, I've done that with you here.
Listen dude this argument is going nowhere and it's useless. I'm just gonna cut it off here. Let's agree to disagree because I've tried to explain to you why the way you think towards women is wrong and very prejudiced and I've tried to be nice in the beginning and you're just super narrow-minded and have a pretty big chip on his shoulder and it's impossible to have any kind of progressive discussion with you. Anyway, I'm out, have a nice day.
@mattl338 your apology does not change the fact that you were butthurt when you said those things. again if you had more experience with women and dating you will realize that women who date for free stuff aren't minorities at all. men have been the one paying for dates since the start of time and you'll be surprised how many women will throw a bitchfit at you when you expect them to at least pay for their half.
also you clearly dont know shit about how divorces work. the
- 97% of the men who pay alimony
- 84% of men who lost custody of their kids
did not just happen because they all decided not sign a preup. it if was that easy dont you think the % of these men would be a lot less?
@mattl338 "because I'm not a bitter virgin who thinks they're owed sex and is desperate enough to pick the shittiest woman in the room and views women as sexual objects.
well you sure are coming off as one for the fact that you dont sound like you have a lot of experience with women and using NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT puts you behind the 8 ball as that is a statement use by feminists and women in general to deny responsibility and continue to live in denial.
"I have a girlfriend actually and we both treat each other fairly and with great care, take that how you will."
wouldn't be surprised if that is your first girlfriend and you both only been together for a few months,
@mattl338 "I do know the privileges society gives them but that's the fault of THOSE people, not the women, a lot women don't even want special privileges, so why is it the women's fault necessarily? You CANNOT accuse all women of wanting the same thing, not all women want the same things and some are better than others, is that really so hard to understand?"
I guess you never heard of feminism ey? seriously dude you are far more naive than I thought.
"Most REALLY strive to be equal with guys and do a great job at it, there are women serving with the Navy SEALs and highly covert special ops units right now! "
dude women in the military are an extreme minority. they are not the voice of ALL WOMEN out there.
" not always bad because they were high schoolers, it is what it is."
high school is only the beginning buddy. you got a lot to learn and hopefully, you don't find out the hard way
and yes I am MGTOW, glad you finally got something right for once. and yeah we are just as bitter as the Black Pathers were in the 1960s during the time MLK, Malcolm X and Rosa Park were around.
" it's impossible to have any kind of progressive discussion with you. Anyway, I'm out, have a nice day."
yea very true, as I mentioned earlier it is waste of time and energy to argue with an 18-year-old who apparently just graduated high school and still has few experiences in the real world
Yeah you are bitter as fuck towards women and that’s what makes you weak, you aren’t strong enough to persevere through the pain and give any girl a chance ever again so you just think they’re all worthless pieces of shit, also you certainly seem to THINK you know me but you don’t and you’re talking like you do, and you don’t at all. If it’s such a waste of time to argue with an 18 year old then why didn’t you just stop replying a long time ago? What’s the point then? Because this discussion is useless on both of our parts. Again my age had nothing to do with this discussion that’s just one of the only things you had to try to use as an argument event though its not and if you were mature enough my age wouldn’t even be a topic of discussion but you made it so, because I never brought up your age before you brought up mine. Again fun talk dude but im just gonna block you now so I can stop seeing your notification pop up. Have a good day, again.
I love this :) the only issue is finding someone willing to go on a date with me :)
Plenty of women are willing to date a guy for a free meal.
Excellent point in particular about it being both fun and a learning experience
Do a mytake on how to date only for hook-ups please? Like what to keep it mind, before, during, after, and whatnot. What's important to know and what isn't.
I can try and do one but I’ve never actually just hooked up with anyone before so it might not be the best 😂 I will give it a go though 😊
Thank you so much. I'd appreciate that!
I don't view it as a waste of time just not a priority like my weathifcation or my business matters
1. If you like some one, then spending time for him/her worth his/her happy ness.
2. Dating caused your happiness. And happiness is the most valuable in the world.
3. It keeps mind fresh. And a fresh mind keeps you healthy.
Yes, even if it doesn't work it can be great fun. It gets you out. I like your take. Admittedly I think some women do it just for that , for fun.
I thought this was going to be a fluffy piece but while it is very positive it is very logical and follows a constructive thought pattern - Well done , a good positive description of dating
Yea i agree. Every person you meet in life has a reason and you can learn from your dating life in relationships.
Dating is a waste of time, and there are always other things to do that have a better cost to benefit ratio.
I got 3 reasons dating is a complete waste of time.
1: you gain nothing from it.
2: it's a huge legal and financial liability
3: it never has a happy ending
HAHAHA! 🤣
Next Tinder description:
"Not dating, just fucking"
1. Women get free meals
2. Women get free drinks.
3, Women get free gifts.
Only pretty women. If your an ugly chick it's like a man 🤣
@snappysierra I got to agree on that. It’s true that unattractive women don’t have that pull. But they can also openly complain about it and not lose face. But at least they can relate to how the man feels.
@coastisclear women can't complain freely take it from a unattractive girl herself. All you get is lies and pity when really some of us just want to vent our struggles freely without it being treated like it doesn't exist DX. Ugly people in general get the low end of the stick no matter male or female.
@snappysierra I've gotten "catfished" with a few heavy girls on dating apps before. They were at least 20lbs heavier when I met them.
I still treated them well on the date (cheap dates) but I had to be straight up honest with them afterwards that I wasn't interested beyond being a friend.
However 2 years ago I met girl at a party that I made out with. I got her number and setup a date a week later. She came to place and gave me this awkward stare and ask "how old I was". I told her my age (8 years older). She then ditched me for being too old. I kid you not that this really happened. And I fucking made out with this girl in broad daylight just a week earlier.
However I got some divine irony that night. I chatted up a girl your age on tinder and I ended up hooking up her that night. The girl who ditched me was 27. This girl was 21. So I guess that was God's way of paying me back after a huge insult. 21 yr old wasn't that bad looking either. Not a bombshell, but cute.
Still though attractive or not women have it easier overall with this.
Conclusion, pay none.
@coastisclear ugly women dont have it easier. if it was I would not be suicidal in the past. I dont know if maybe your just nicer but the guys I have met only pretended to like me. used me and ditched me many times. if your trying to say ugly women dont get ditched you complete wrong.
any relationship i had the guy pretended to be attracted period and then i had to find out the hard way. some guys are desperate for anything
The other person will always think the other has it easier when really people exprience this in different ways. i dont compare like that. you may on the other side thought it was easier for "me" but believe when i say this i truly do wish it was easier...
@snappysierra are you overweight?
@snappysierra semi attractive women with good personalities can still do well with dating. They still have options. A semi attractive guy with all else equal still has it tougher.
I’m guessing your overweight. That’s not fun but you are also 20. You CAN change a lot easier vs. an older guy who is losing all his hair or a 40 old overweight women.
I had a long time galpal who was 20 to 30 lbs overweight. About 2 years ago she made a big lifestyle change and really slimmed down. I never felt attracted to her earlier. But for the first time I found myself looking at her for an extra second. Not that I tried to date her. But still she had the ability to change things.
@coastisclear this is why assuming doesn't help a situation nor is a good idea im not over weight my body is the only good thing but im what you call a butter face so its even harder for me to be attractive then a overweight girl.
im not semi attractive if i was it would be a lot easier. ignored left and right rejected and when i do get a date its someone who just wants to use me ghost me afterwords then i find out they are dating someone else or better yet someone i did date but the guy was so desprate for anyone and just wanted to not be alone and date someone he picked me
trust me I would not believe it either if it didn't happen to me hell most likely why im so bad emotionally because i took the other peoples advice and said "you can get a guy its eaiser for girls " :(
@snappysierra I’m sorry this happened to you. I can see where you are coming from.
You need some good female friends. Not bitchy ones, but supportive confident ones.
@coastisclear what does female friends have to do with this?
@snappysierra they can help support you to find ways to dress better, exercise, find your feminine wiles, etc.
@coastisclear i had friends who did my make up and hair and I dress decent cardigans and jeans... Doesn't help much...
@coastisclear and I'm extremely feminine would you date a ugly girl with a flower dress? Now of those things change my face and I probably would need an opinion from a guy to even be attractive but again my face is not something that can be easily fixed...
@snappysierra I think your underconfidence in your appearance is the bigger problem tbh. There may have more decent guys than you know who had crushes on you. But you are not picking up on their vibes. They think you are more attractive than you think of yourself.
Look I grew up chubby, semi redhead and I got a big nose. I have a “cerebral” appearance. I was also a “nice guy” and I had undiagnosed ADHD. I was a huge target for bullies when a kid. 5th grade was hell on earth.
BUT I didn’t accept that. I worked hard in school and I got in sports. I was a good wrestler and distance runner. I did MMA in 20s (also bleached my hair). I was a fitness model.
Now while they does help as a man I still had very deep insecurities from my childhood. However I still got dates, sex and love. I’ve had attractive women fall in love with me. I’m single right now and I’m hurting a bit. But I’ll figure something out.
If a man my age can stay optimistic than a girl your age can too.
@coastisclear its easy for you because you just said you got love you actually got people and yes you "think" but you dont KNOW thats why im trying to explain to you. Im not trying to be rude but its like what im saying is being pushed aside as "an easy fix" believe when i tried hair makeup what cloths looks good on me but guess what nothing worked. a chubby is a easy fix someone who is good wieght but ugly face is way more harder and you know that.
I would like it if a guy told me whats wrong with my face rather then stick to there idea of "your a girl its easier for you" or "your not ugly your pretty in your own way"
and this proved my point that women can't complain freely... issues get well, denied... as a ugly girl if you tell another girl about your problems its "everyone is beatiful" if you tell a guy its "you have it easy just fix it" :(
But it is a waste. I only attract good looking shitty guys
never kind ones that are decent looking
so I am done
That's weird😆
Interesting viewpoint. I do wonder sometimes whether people who say they’re happy single And don’t ever want to be in a relationship really are.
It's bittersweet. On the plus side you dodge all the bullshit, but that comes at the price of having to learn about all the bullshit. Once you learn it, you can't unlearn it. Long story short, I'd be much happier if there weren't so much bullshit out there LOL but what can you do?