It doesn't matter when you sleep with the guy, if he likes you enough he won't care.

[101dalmation]

So often I think about the different ways I've approached seeing a guy, I've slept with them on the first date, I've waited weeks, I've waited a couple of months...I haven't slept with them at all.

And guess what?

They've all ended the exact same way. The guy ends up blowing me off as they've started seeing someone else exclusively or they just don't want anything serious with me. I genuinely think it doesn't make any difference when you sleep with the guy, if he doesn't want to pursue it, he's JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.

I think with the right person it doesn't matter when they give out because that person will see into you more than sex, they'll want you for your personality and for you.

[Anonymous]

And what do they all have in common? You! You put the same amount of effort into all those relationships.
You make the same crucial mistake most women make. It's all about you.
I don't want to just sleep with women but there's one undeniable truth when it comes to women you can give them nothing or you can give them the world. Most are selfish and it always revolves around them.

[101dalmation]

I don't understand, please explain this. I don't think it has ever just been about me with any of them, I have always been invested in the other person.

[Liam_Hayden]

I am definitely not the right person, because if a girl wants sex on a first date I assume that this is her normal and to me it should be special. Not only will I reject the sex, but I won't ask her out again.

[101dalmation]

like I said above maybe its a younger generation thing though, I don't think millennials care these days

[Julietchicago]

I don't have sex with them until much later anyway because I don't like being used. If I wait 2 months then he leaves me, well at least I got to use up his time and money

[likelyOK]

I'm so sorry things have always ended so bad for you. Maybe ask for what they want first and make sure they take you out first you need to break these patterns.

[Guy13]

Maybe you should try to meet a guy who is not sex only driven. We all like sex bu tit is not necessary. Any woman who is in a rush to jump in the bed with me is obviously jumped into a lot of beds in the past. At least that is what my assumption is, therefore, she does not hold the same worldview as it relates to intimacy. Yep, I could easily dismiss this one after banging it. She really does not care anyway.

The only other option is that there is something in your character that rubs people the wrong way and they just can't do it long-term. Have you ever asked anyone, why not?

[bluehen46]

I really do not think time matters as much. I have done it on a first date, but we always either knew each other or talked on the phone or something a bit. Sadly there is a bit off a double standard but many guys will wonder how many guys you hopped into bed with on the first date if you do it with them.

[Ricebeans]

I think you're hitting on the wrong group of guys, step back regroup, reorganize, rethink. For example: I will never use Tinder to look for a serious relationship when I know Tinder is 95% if not a 100% a hookup app, I will always end with the same result ( hit & go).

[Shamalien]

yeah but if you sleep with a guy too quick, and you keep doing that over and over, by the time mr. right comes down the pipe, you'll have all this emotional baggage and self worth issues and he won't be sticking around to put up with that.

If a guy really likes you, he's not gunna push u to do something ur not comfortable doing, he won't even push you to do something he believes isn't in your best interests long term, whether it works out between u 2 or not.

[theCobbler]

Sex is sex not love or making love! Love is built over a lifetime not by orgasms! You just haven't found the right person for you !

[Anonymous]

True. Guys have been saying that forever.

What matters more is number of partners. So it’s only a problem if that behaviour results in you having had 10 partners or whatever.

But if you’re a virgin, that’s attractive on its own, but if you’re also cool and friendly and I like you etc, then having sex on the first date isn’t going to change that I like you and if anything it’s going to enhance what we already have.

[akanetuk]

Sex is not the most important aspect of any relationship. Establishing that trust, communication, affection is very important.

[esotericstory]

Pursuing is useless if the girl doesn't have any life plans. Where does she see herself in 5 years? can't answer that question, well sorry. Not interested.

[robertKugler]

I appreciate to openness of sooner rather than later... only cause should she decide to dip.. cause the Romeo she was really waiting for show up... my efforts aren't in viegn

[Ellie-V]

I agree... and I LOVE that movie 😂

[jimmy2]

You so right many guys go for another knotch in the belt

[Redstang88]

👏 Finally someone gets it

[Iron_Man]

I care and guys do care

[101dalmation]

maybe its a younger generation thing though, I don't think millennials care these days

[Iron_Man]

All Christians care now in the past and in the future

[Anonymous]

You just have shitty taste in men.

[101dalmation]

most likely

[LEADFOOTboi]

i hope everyone sees this post...

[MeatPuppet]

Exactly.