Women are the ones who are told the "tips & tricks" on how to get a good man, but men are only told to get a "pretty girl" and that's it. Most men actually go by women's looks as a way to know whether she'll be a good partner or not. Men rely on trial & error in relationships. But this is something that will not last and may not make you happy in the long run, and may even make you feel like relationships are not your thing. The thing is, you need to look out for red flags when choosing who you want to be with.
[I'm writing this Take because of my male best friend, who has been facing a lot of abuse by his current wife. I don't blame him one bit, but there are a lot of guys in this situation who need some sort of guidance on the dating field.]
❤️ Anyway let's start.
Red Flag #1: She focuses more on her phone than you.
If a woman pays more attention to her phone than the date, then you're probably going to be very annoyed by her a lot as your relationship progresses. She'll be a source of frustration for you. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, this girl is not it.
This girl is the type to behave as if you have to pay attention to her but she can do anything she wants, she can be distracted at any time and you have to accept it. An absolute nope.
Red Flag #2: She always blames you or justifies her wrongdoings
If the woman you're interested in always finds a sneaky way to justify what she does or says, even if it's a "white lie", you are a lot more likely to find her doing worse stuff behind your back. These types of girls are backstabbers and always think that everything they do is okay and correct. Honor your integrity and find somebody humble and honest.
This type of girl always finds a way to act like she's right and you're wrong, no matter what. She will gaslight you and make you believe that you're just being too exaggerated or controlling, even if you're not... This is just her way of making you feel bad and making you accept her misbehavior.
Red Flag #3: She treats you like an ATM Machine
Seriously, it can be very sweet if you want to buy her stuff out of your own will but when you start to feel like she's using you for your money and expecting you to pay at all times, then you have to stand up for yourself and tell her to take several seats. Being in a relationship with you does not give her the right to suck the $$ out of you.
Red Flag #4: She's a Daddy's Girl
A lot of people will say that if a girl doesn’t have a good father figure, that she's more likely to be slutty or promiscuous, but it is actually the daddy's girl you need to stay away from. Daddy's Girls expect men to bow at their feet, providing them with everything they desire at any cost. This used to be honorable in the middle ages, for men to do anything for women, but today this is called being the victim of a narcissist. Daddy's Girls are very spoiled, they don't expect you to ask anything from them, and you need to 100% accept her as she is, BUT she can demand anything from you. Not a great deal in my opinion.
Daddy's Girls are also the type to think, "I'm a girl, so I can treat you like shit but you have to respect me, because I'm such a princess." (I literally met a girl who said something along those lines, AND she was completely serious about it.). They expect a fairytale out of your relationship with her. This type of girl lives in a dreamland.
Red Flag #5: She's too conservative or too feminist
Women who are overly conservative will always act like they're a damsel in distress and even though you may find this charming at first, there'll be a time when you'll start to get annoyed by it and will want her to act like a real person for once, rather than a helpless and dumb barbie doll.
And women who are overly feminist will always find a way to make you believe that you're just trying to control her, or that she's somehow oppressed, and that you're just being a misogynistic a$%hole even if you aren't... This will make you lose your self-worth over time and when you least expect it you'll become an insecure doormat with no self-esteem left.
Thank you for reading this random Take. Just wanted to share my thoughts.
Stay awesome 💕💕