Please note that I’m not dating anymore because I’m happily taken 😅
These are just examples of the red flags I would be looking for if I was dating again.
I’m leaving out the obvious red flags like physical abuse or obvious signs of cheating. I think we’re all on the same page about those things.
Some of these flags listed aren’t meant to be taken too seriously. Theyre mostly for shits and giggles.
“Straight” Guys in the closet / Guys who want something ‘low key’
There were times I have dated (nothing serious) or messed around with “straight” dudes who weren’t out yet in high school. They were always the guys who would turn on you out of nowhere. One second it’s “I really like spending time with you teehee 😜” and then it’s “ew I never said that, you’re a f*g 😡”
Of course that was high school, people are more insecure about their sexuality as teens so I kinda get it. But today, I’m too grown to be somebody’s ‘secret,’ and you’re too grown to be afraid to admit that you’re gay when you have a whole boy toy on the side. You’re a homo bro, it’s okay.
-They have more than 10k followers on social media
You don’t just organically gain 10k followers, you had to put effort into growing your account. To get 10k followers, you need to CARE about having 10k followers.
I know people who are trying to be ‘Influencers’ and they’re absolutely obnoxious. They’re obsessed with how they look and how other people think they look, they think they’re the shit because they get a lot of likes, and their DMs are filled with thirsty people trying to get with them which also gives them a huge ego boost. And they almost never have any personality.
These little influencers are really out here thinking they’re Beyoncé because their TikTok dance got a thousand likes 🤨
(This really only applies to those who have clout from posting their selfies. It’s different if they have a lot of attention from art or another talent)
This red flag also applies to “Facebook comedians”
People who try really hard to make funny statuses go viral on Facebook (or Twitter). Especially when they COPY AND PASTE another persons status. Do you know how fucking BOLD you have to be to copy and paste a status that 40 thousand people already shared? For some LIKES? I’m embarrassed for you. I’m embarrassed BY you.
Using any of the following emojis
“ 😈👿😂🤣💯”
Absolutely not. Do NOT use these emojis while texting me because I will end the conversation. Blocked. Reported for hate speech.
Moving things too quickly
A long time ago I was talking to this guy that I met on Tinder. We were texting and FaceTiming here and there but it was nothing serious. I could tell he really liked me and wanted to take things further but we never even met before so I wasn’t THAT into him yet..
He invited me to meet him for the first time but he failed to mention it was at a family event. This dude introduced me to his family, the first day we met. Not the first day we were dating, the first day we MET. I thought that was super fucking weird.
he also lied about his height LMAOOOO. Maybe if he was taller I would of gave it another chance 🙄 (just kidding…sorta)
His friends are hoes and cheaters
If his friends are for the streets, then HE’S for the streets. Stay safe out there.
Or if he doesn’t have friends at all.
If you don’t have ANY friends, then there’s most likely something wrong with you. Not only that but if they don’t have friends of their own, they usually end up being super attached and obsessive because they have nobody else to talk to. 🥴
They only listen to ONE genre of music
Then every other genre of music is “trash” to them. It’s especially a red flag if the only genre they listen to is mumble rap. You want to tell me that my music is trash but your number one Spotify artist is NBA Youngboy? The nerve, the audacity, the gall, and the gumption.
Honestly being a fan of NBA Youngboy is something that’s a red flag by itself and I’m not even joking about that.
If he wears jeans with those ugly lines on them
I want everyone reading this to please follow these instructions. If you own a pair of these jeans then please proceed to take them out of your closet and burn them.
Not only are they the ugliest pants I've ever seen, but every man I met who wears these, was a douchebag.
If he wears a wife beater in public
First of all, who came up with that name? 😭
and I don’t even have a ‘second of all’, it’s just ugly.
If he doesn’t like cats
Men who like cats are superior. Cat guys > dog guys. I don’t trust people who don’t like cats. sorry, not sorry.
They don’t drink water
I’m surprised by how many people admit they don’t drink water. First of all, you probably stink. Second of all, if you think I’m going to go down on you when I know all you live off of is Mountain Dew and Big Macs, then you’re sadly mistaken. I know your nut tastes disgusting. It’s probably toxic. Are you trying to kill me? 🤨
They don’t care about my interests
I know that you’re not going to like everything that I like. But when you’re in a relationship, I think at least PRETENDING to care is really important. I don’t want to date someone who constantly talks about themself and their interests but tells me they “don’t care” when it comes to mine. My partner talks about shit I don’t care about all the time, but I listen and engage in the conversation because I know they’re talking about a topic that makes them happy.
I definitely have other red flags, but I can’t think of anymore right now. So yeah that’s it, bye 💀
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