If they say they don't have time for you, it means THEY DON'T CARE

[HawkPerception]

I've seen so many questions everywhere... not just Girls Ask Guys, where people ask something along the lines of

"If they're not messaging me after 3 days, does that mean they're not interested?"

It doesn't matter if it's about friends or significant others. The fact of the matter is, if they don't take the time to communicate with you, they're just not that into you. It's better not to waste your time with people who don't put in the same effort as you. Know your own value and move the f*** on.

Let's break down the math!

There are 24 hours in a day, which translates to 168 hours in a week.

Let's assume you're getting a solid 7 hours of sleep a day. That's 49 hours a week.

Let's say you have a full time job and you're working overtime, so say 12 hours a day 5 days a week on average. That's 60 hours a week.

Let's assume it takes you 2 hours to commute a day. That's 10 hours a week.

Let's assume you have kids and drop them off and pick them up at school and that takes about another hour each day. That's 5 hours a week.

And let's say you take about an hour at the start of the day to get ready. That's another 5 hours a week.

Finally let's say your errands and chores takes about 1 hour a day. That's another 7 hours a week.

Even with that pretty busy schedule of getting a full 7 hours of sleep a day, working 60 hour work weeks, commuting 2 hours each day, picking up and dropping off your kids at school, taking an hour to get ready in the morning on work days, and doing an hour of chores each day, that's still only 136 hours in the week, which leaves you with 32 hours left in your week (which works out to about 4 hours a day) to do whatever you want with, whether that's recreation (going for walks, watching shows, working out, talking with friends or family, engaging in your hobbies, or communicating with your partner or potential dates).

So don't be fooled by someone's excuses. If don't communicate with you or say they're too busy within the WHOLE day that they have, they honestly just don't care to talk with you, or they feel like it might drain them more, or you just aren't high on their list of priorities, in which case I say, don't bother with that. Either lower them on your list of priorities to match where you are on theirs or stop wasting your effort altogether.

Time is the most valuable commodity we have. Don't waste it on others who aren't willing to do the same.

[DishLady]

Agreed, we make time for those who deserve to be in our lives. We don’t make time for those who are not worthy.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea you make time for those you wanna be around. I dont believe excuses like that

[PeachyPie93]

I know this is true because most guys bring their phone in the toilet while they sit for an hour long shit. You can't hit me up? They don't care, you are completely right lol.

[HawkPerception]

I think the toilet scenario is an entirely different concept. It's the only safe haven when you live with a partner that doesn't really give you space

[PeachyPie93]

That isn't true because my ex always did that even when I was in my room all day not with him, he still went in there for an hour. Even friends while I was at their house chilling, my dad who was just watching tv by himself, guys at work, guys take really long shits or just dick around. So if they have that time but they can't hit you up they seriously don't care.

[HawkPerception]

Ah I see what you're saying. Agreed.

[YeetMob215]

There is a lot more nuance to this than what you're explaining. Context is everything especially with stuff like this. There are way too many variations in how people as individuals prefer to communicate for it to be chopped up as "They don't care". Getting to know someone thoroughly and asking the right questions can help with stuff like this TREMENDOUSLY. If an individual hasn't taken the time to this, and jumps to that conclusion, it may not be "right" but I think it is fair to say they are lazy or perhaps close-minded. People have different communication languages the same way people have different Love languages. Taking the time to understand that in someone you're interested in or whose presence you value can be the difference between something lasting as hoped vs failing unnecessarily.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not necessarily, they maybe going through something with a family member or friend that is consuming their time. Sometimes things like that can be justified. I try to give the person, the benefit of the doubt for a little while.

[Miristheiss]

It means you are not a priority.

[Enginn]

%70 agree

[HawkPerception]

Care to elaborate?

[Enginn]

It could also mean they are busy with work or something. But putting it like that is rude.