He’s just a “player”…..

[LiaRaven]

Ah yes, the modern love story. Girl meets boy online. Boy says all the right things. Girl catches feelings. Boy? Oh, he’s already in five other DMs, copy-pasting the same “good morning beautiful” text like it’s a full time job. Welcome to the thrilling world of online dating where some guys treat loyalty like it’s a glitch in the system.

Let’s be real, there’s a special breed of guys that thrive on the internet. They’re charming, attentive, emotionally available for 30 minutes at a time, and somehow always “different from other guys.” Except they’re exactly the same as each other, walking talking emoji-sending red flags. These are the players of the digital era and oh boy do they play the game like it’s the Olympics.

Online players have it down to a science. They know the exact moment to drop a “you’re not like other girls” or pretend to be fascinated by your favorite childhood memory which, let’s be honest, they forgot the second you sent it. Their WiFi might be weak but their manipulation game is five bars strong.

You think you’re the only one they’re talking to? That’s cute. Meanwhile their Snapchat score looks like a stock market graph, their “typing” bubble never disappears, and they somehow always fall asleep just when you want to FaceTime. Suspicious? Never. I’m sure they were just praying for world peace or journaling about how much they “vibe” with you.

And when you finally catch on? When the math isn’t mathing and you realize you’re part of a rotation wider than a Netflix series cast? Get ready for the gaslighting. “We never said we were exclusive,” or the classic, “I didn’t want to hurt you, that’s why I lied.” Oh, how thoughtful. Truly, a gentleman.

But let’s not be too harsh. They are putting in effort. It’s not easy juggling multiple girls, managing multiple lies, and keeping a straight face while pretending to care about your day. That’s multitasking worthy of a LinkedIn endorsement.

In conclusion, online players are just misunderstood romantics if romance means emotionally draining five people at once for a little ego boost. So next time a guy online tells you, “I’m not like the others,” remember neither is malware but it still crashes your system.

[Chazmatazz269]

It will never change until you admit to yourself that you are part of the problem.
People like that are only successful because you let them be. You accept the lies, half-truths and clichés long after you suspect something is amiss. Meanwhile there is always at least one guy with a good heart trying to get your attention and failing because you’re addicted to the drama of bad boys and players.
It’s widely recognized as a means to avoid working on yourself. The rude dudes make you feel like a good person by comparison. A nice guy will force you to examine yourself and likely compel you to be better. That’s scary because if you fail, then you have to admit that you’re no better than the players who played you. That you are part of the problem.
Never fear! The internet is full of people just like you who refuse to accept accountability for their own lousy choices. They will commiserate with you and console you and enable you to go on pretending that you’re the best version of yourself that you can be and you’ve done nothing wrong. Right up until you’re too used up and jaded to make a healthy relationship work long term.
Good luck!

[nastyb]

The typical uncompassionate man. You need to realize that people why some people accept half truths, lies, cliches. Maybe they're going through a rough time in life and have no one else to talk to so they latch onto anyone they could find. Maybe they have a history being abused in their childhood so they think accepting mistreatment is a normal thing.

I know because I have been through this myself. Not everyone has the luxury of having an amazing childhood where they were treated amazingly well, had everything.

Also , There is a difference between saying "working on yourself" versus actually being able to fully accomplish "working on yourself". Being able to successfully accomplish "Working on yourself "a thing is complex and requires a lot of attention from professionals along with a lot coaching. Most people aren't even aware they need help.

[nastyb]

" A nice guy will force you to examine yourself and likely compel you to be better"

you will rarely ever meet a guy who is genuinely nice nowadays. Most of these nice guys aren't even actually nice. The only men who are nice tend to be the ones who chronically can't get any women.

[Pohjolan]

If a woman doesn't like fuckboys then she just shouldn't date one.

Most fuckboys don't have to somehow mislead women but rather consider being one a badge of honour. Women merely don't want to admit they just wanted to have the D.

Imagine telling everyone else that you don't like chicken nuggets while piling them on your table at a buffet.

Sure there's some cases where the guy hasn't yet build up a reputation or everyone else and her parents know that the guy is a FB but she doesn't and some who lie.

However take Andrew Tate for a example. Guy is famous for being a FB, rapist and human trafficker yet desirable among women.

If you never agreed to be exclusive then you never did, that's not gaslighting.

You can't keep your cake and eat it.

Either leave it on the table or don't tell everyone else how bad it is while stuffing your mouth with it.

[LiaRaven]

Ah yes, women just “secretly want the D”, thanks, Dr. DeepThoughts.
Clearly emotional manipulation doesn’t exist, and dating is just a buffet where feelings don’t matter unless there’s a sign that says “exclusive.”
Also love how Andrew Tate being popular online = all women want criminals now. Flawless logic.
Truly, thank you for mansplaining relationships using chicken nuggets.

[Pohjolan]

@liaraven
Well it's not exactly a secret if she chooses FBs over a committed relationship.
You either are exclusive or you are not. There is no grey area in between.
It's not that all women want Andrew but that there is a queue of women who know what they are getting themselves into.
Look it's totally fine to ride the cockcarousell but don't get on it and pretend that you are not doing it because you like it.
Your fathers and brothers are no longer gate keepers in this day and age.
You are responsible for your own choices.
Not anyone else.

[Leon1]

You should see how many women are romantically mailing convicts. Something doesn’t add up!

[Pohjolan]

@Leon1
Depends on what you mean by adding up.
Human instincts haven't changed much since the stone age and women act more on instinct than men.
Sometimes the consequences of this are less than ideal for said women but that does not change that they chose it by themselves for themselves.

[Leon1]

What doesn’t add up is what they say and what they do. Right the difference was cultural upbringing and societal expectations from older gen compared to now post “liberation”. But of course men still are required to do their gender duties.

[wynning]

Sounds like you've just described the online qualification in the fine art of pick up artistry... well the new, updated version turbocharged with optimisations for mass deployment digitally! Perfectly tailored seduction techniques for primed targets even en masse for maximum coverage!

Feels like a sales pitch now. And it sells. Because there all always buyers who get drawn in by how "it just works" and targets who don't know better.
Not just men either but definitely more popular in related circles like seduction groups.

[Josey29]

I have ZERO respect for players or men that sleep around. I would never let one touch me! They're easy to spot because they're overly sexual wayyyyy too soon which gets them blocked fairly fast.

0/10 - would not recommend.

[CuriousFlo03]

They all say that but then sadly, they fall for it.

[Avicenna]

I think it was actually much easier to be a player in the days before social media and smartphones.

[nastyb]

you would to have been a player in order to know this

[Avicenna]

@nastyb: LOL, not necessarily- maybe one or two of my friends were players.

[Miristheiss]

LOL, girl "catches feelings".

Relying solely on feelings when making huge life decisions. Probably one of the biggest things wrong with modern dating in the west. That and that the majority of people date just to have fun, have casual sex, meet as many people as possible instead of meeting just to vet for a spouse.

Now people expect to date around for 10-15 years before they start thinking about spouse. The divorce rates and abortions rate show things are working out splendidly.

"FEELINGS"... LOL!!! What lunacy.

People's feelings change like the freaking wind. Wise, logical choices of attraction, shared life goals and compatible values and beliefs about core issues is the long term ticket.

Feelings? Do people really think they'll feel the same in 5 years? 10 years? Idiots. That is why they always want someone new in 5 years. The tingles didn't last forever. Need new tingles and butterflies.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Despite your distaste, the fact the matter is that guys behave like players because it works. There are enough girls out there who want something easy and adventurous, and don’t want to get entangled. Connecting with those girls takes the work of communicating with lots of girls who decide you are not for them; at least not just now.

If I start my weekend by messaging a dozen girls I’ve matched with on dating apps, I’m going to end it by getting laid. I don’t pretend to be anything but a “player,” and I don’t need to because, like it or not, it does work.

[Paul_in_Indy]

And I disagree that this amounts to emotional manipulation or seduction or whatever else. Just because a guy doesn’t want anything serious and is playing the field doesn’t make him a predator. He’s looking to connect with someone who is looking for someone like him.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

My fav parts were:

• "Their WiFi might be weak but their manipulation game is five bars strong"
• "you realize you’re part of a rotation wider than a Netflix series cast"
• "That’s multitasking worthy of a LinkedIn endorsement"
• "remember neither is malware but it still crashes your system"

I'm still sorry for the genuine guys saying "I'm not like the others", because I'm sure they exist. On the other hand, I often found that such naivety is emotionally harmful in the end, because lack of self-awareness is certainly bound to hurt.

[spartan55]

I don't have the energy nor the desire to juggle multiple women. And let's not kid ourselves, women are every bit as likely to have a bench of simps in waiting. This is why I put VERY little value on online communication until something real has been established.

[RavVid]

There must be an app to save on all this effort of copying and pasting.

Something like texting the entire group list of girls the "Good morning beautiful message" the moment you first pick up your phone in the morning. Would need to be customizable with pet names of course and give reminders to change the message occasionally.

[Sam1133]

You know there is no value of true love now days...

I asked you how're you today?
I asked you did you smile today?
I asked you did you had your breakfast lunch dinner on time?
I make sure when you go to sleep you have smile on your face.
I don't make you jealousi make othergirlsjealousfrom you..

In return what i get? Oh you're player.
No value of guys true love. 😞🥺.

[Leon1]

Were you looking for sympathy points today or did you ladies finally have the epiphany required for accountability.

[LiaRaven]

Aw, did the truth hurt your fantasy world? No sympathy needed, just calling out facts. Try accountability sometime, it’s character-building

[Leon1]

That was a convoluted way of saying “ no u”

[LiaRaven]

No you

[MinaV]

Ur husband still peaking at you?

[PeachyPie93]

This is why I don't talk to guys online.. as soon as the discussion goes towards sexual or complimentary bs I ghost them lol. Fuck getting to know or meeting anyone from online lol.

[Shiprex]

It's like scammers and OF types who make promises that are almost too good to be true yet... you buy into it.

[msg321]

Never trust a guy who tells you "you're not like most girls' and listen Hailee Seinfeld's this song

https://www.youtube.com/embed/qBB_QOZNEdc

[bddddd]

Many of us are just looking to let the right one in.

[SotiCoto]

Maybe you should be asking yourself why you're attracted to douchebags in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just likes to play video games?

Joking aside, you have a very good point... very good myTake.

[strateguy632]

Nice mytake