Do you think your partner should have the right to check your phone?

[Anonymous]

Ladies and gentleman, I just want to let you know something important I have learned over my many years of online dating and meeting men online.

Please check your partner or husband's phone. If he is cheating on you, there is a 90% chance there will be evidence on his phone. This is based off of years and years of experience 10 years. And what I have found is that the wives / girlfriends that are the most confident that their spouses will never cheat , tend to be the ones who get cheated on. It's not the women who are constantly suspicious of their partners cheating.

Please check his phone. Do not let him delete anything before you check it.

Its unbelievable to me how often women never check their spouse's phones. I have met countless men over the years who go online to cheat on their wives. And I do very pity them very much. So I just wanted to share this with the rest of the world. Your amazing marriage isn't as wonderful as you might believe it is.

[Rei13]

My significant other would let me go through his phone and he can go through mine, we just don’t. We know each others passcodes and I have taken his phone to take pictures. The only time he ever got cagey about it was before he proposed to me lol. He was worried that I’d see the messages about him planning it.

The women that I know that have been cheated on go through their partners phones all the time before it happened and after. Their husbands deleted the messages, just got sloppy at one point. If a guy is gonna cheat he is gonna cheat. I’d rather trust my partner fully then try to find evidence to the contrary

[myTake Owner]

because those women are the ones who keep harassing their husbands to see their phones. He usually says "no, you can't see it! its invasion of privacy" or argues with her for a long time before he deletes the messages.

you need to check his phone when he least expects it.

Knowing cheaters very well, they usually have tons of emails, snapchats, texts on many different platforms. It is very hard to just "delete" all of them within 1 minute. And its usually more than 1 girl.

This is insider knowledge that married wives do not know about.

[Genie23]

No, they shouldn't. That's invasion of privacy. If I'm dating someone and he asked me to give him my phone for a minute just to make a call or send a picture that we took on my phone to his phone? Sure. I wouldn't mind but if he ask me to hand my phone over so he could go through my messages and pictures thinking I'm flirting with someone or worse. I'd put my foot down and say you can't do that. You need to trust me or it can't work out between us. I would trust him and won't intend to check his phone, I wouldn't want him to check mine either.

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too native.

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too NAIVE.

[Genie23]

I don't think I'm naive. I'll tell you what's naive. Some people think they can caught their cheating partner easily if they check their phone. Phone these days have so many hidden vaults, be it in Google photos, file folders, instant messaging app like WhatsApp that can delete all the messages, photos, videos with any contact without leaving a trace. There's disappearing chat options, there's one time view photo/video option and set up a fingerprint/face lock for contacts which only you can access, others would only be shown that you've never even had a chat with that person. You can delete call logs, too.

Some cheaters are too careful, they choose to never contact the person they're cheating with because they know you'd keep an eye, so they have a secret place to meet and let each other know the time and day they'll meet again before they say bye. Nobody can track me down no matter how much they try because I know ways to block access to my location. I've never cheated nor do I ever intend to but I know many can keep secrets from their partner until someone else see them with their secret girlfriend and tell you about them or until they feel guilty and decide to come clean.

Many people cheat whether it's a man or woman whether they're married or not but that doesn't mean we should be so suspicious and constantly worried that they're doing things behind our back. I don't want to be paranoid.

[myTake Owner]

@genie23

what you don't realize is... cheaters usually cheat with multiple women. And they usually send messages all throughout the day. It would be literally impossible for them to delete every single message / email they have sent to these women.

Plus, if you ask to see their phone without giving them a chance to delete anything... he won't get to hide it from you

Most of the married men I have seen over the years, use text rather than communication apps. This is because not all of these women use apps that have the disappearing feature function.

As for which apps to check, its communication apps. You don't know this because you have never been "the other woman"

you are correct that checking your partner's phone is not 100% fool proof way to eliminate cheating. But if you can't find any messages that indicate cheating, there is already a 90% chance he isn't cheating on you.

He might put this other woman's name disguised under a man's name, which is why you should read ALL the texts in his text log.

[myTake Owner]

[Some cheaters are too careful, they choose to never contact the person they're cheating with because they know you'd keep an eye, so they have a secret place to meet and let each other know the time and day they'll meet again before they say bye.]

they use their phones to schedule to meet. why do you think I'm telling you to check his phone?

I honestly don't know why you chose to be this ignorant.

[Genie23]

You still don't understand, do you? You can't find anything on his phone if he has disappearing chat on and you don't NEED a phone to make plans with the person you're cheating with. I told you how can people cheat without even using their phone as a medium to connect and plan. Read my last comment again you'll understand who's ignorant

[myTake Owner]

You'd be surprised how many men don't use communication apps with a disappearing function. I've had men set up craigslist postings for sex. I've seen married men who constantly harass me for sex or beg to see me because they want some affection. I've seen married men who want to go on trips with me because their wives suck.

Reddit, email, craiglist, text, kik, snapchat, facebook. The list just goes on...

Saying that you won't check his emails or texts because he can use the disappearing function is just stupid. You have no idea. Most apps don't even have the disappearing function

[myTake Owner]

[You still don't understand, do you? You can't find anything on his phone if he has disappearing chat on and you don't NEED a phone to make plans with the person you're cheating with]

most apps dont have a disappearing function. Plus, most men find their side chicks online. These side chicks usually do not live next door nor are they at their jobs. So in order for him to tell her where to meetup, it would usually 95% of the time be via phone.

[myTake Owner]

Cheating tends to happen through online much more often than in real life because it takes way too much effort to try to chat someone up at the bar. It takes too much effort to go out to search for someone to cheat with. Because he knows that if he is missing from dinner a few times or go missing a weekend day, it would send red flag signals to his wife.

Online is the easiest way to find someone to cheat with. Very low effort, high access to large number of women.

And where is he going to coordinate to meet? through the phone? email! text

[ohsheeT]

I don't think anyone has the right to check anyone phone with out asking and if I was married I would have it out anyway so she could get on it any time...

The reason why is because if married I would know if my wife was cheating and if I couldn't trust here I wouldn't be with her. And I would hope Vice versa.

[myTake Owner]

what if your wife was actually cheating on you and she was using "privacy" as a reason why you should never go through her phone?

[ohsheeT]

Well, I know how to communicate, and anyone who is lying to you will tell you the truth almost in the same breath. There are tell tell signs if someone is cheating on you.. You can't make anyone love you they have to want you in order to truly love you. If you're not happy, don't drag it out and lie about it. And hurt each other even more down the road. Cheaters always get caught, and anyone I'm with knows if you're not happy to get out of the relationship that's 100 times better than cheating

[myTake Owner]

No, there aren't always tell tale signs someone is cheating on you.

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too native.

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too NAIVE.

[ohsheeT]

No, you're 100% right in helping others out , and even me,
And I thank you for the heads up.. most people who cheat think they are smart and won't get caught

[ohsheeT]

But I will still say if I was married. And I felt she was cheating he phone is her phone. Same as my phone, it's my phone. No one has the right to break and enter in either phone. So I say if you think your spouse is cheating, find proof another way.

Just because you're married. Doesn't mean anything

So if you snap and say I want to see what's on your phone, they say no

Then ask why.. you say your cheating they say no I'm not. They don't have to show you anything. But know it's going to be hared to catch them

[AviatorTom]

No, my partner does not have the right to check my phone. I may decide to give my partner the privilege of using my phone, but that's not a right.

My phone is my personal property, and I have the right to keep it private, if I so desire. She has the same right with her phone.

[myTake Owner]

even if that means she will divorce you?

[AviatorTom]

That would be her right.

[Finchie40]

Yes, if there is solid proof of suspicion then it shouldn’t be a big deal to let your partner see your phone , if you loved and cared about your partner and your relationship letting them see your phone shouldn’t be a big deal whatsoever . Partners that try to keep things secret on their phone to avoid their partner to see what they are doing behind their back , are only damaging the relationship they chose to be in. If you or your partner cannot trust and respect and be honest with each other , that relationship is more than likely not going to last period. What cheaters don’t realize , is that their partner can access their phone no matter what , if they really wanted to , and if you give them a valid reason to do so , Just because you put a password on your phone or you delete texts etc. it doesn’t mean your partner can’t access into your phone and see everything that you are doing behind their back , there are certified hackers that you can pay to get access into your partners’ phone without holding their device whatsoever, and your partner will be able to see all the sites and texts you receive and send , whether you deleted it or not , your cell phone is not a private journal whatsoever. If you can’t be loyal and faithful to someone , then don’t get into a relationship with someone whatsoever, stay single

[HawkPerception]

I think yes. I always give my partner fingerprint access or let them know my phone code so they have access whenever and I would hope they do the same. It's a matter of honesty and integrity. All of my partners except for my first have given me access to their phones without me even asking.

Trust is built over time through actions that prove it. If you're always shady with your phone, that makes you suspicious. I've never actually went through my partner's phones. And they've never went through mine. But the act of giving them access shows there's nothing to hide and shows you're being fully transparent.

The same thing applies to when you go out. You should always say where you're going and who you're going with.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

What about aiming for the prime cause of cheating instead?

Because giving access to a phone won't prevent the intent of cheating, it's just decreasing opportunities and practicality. So, if really want to be REALLY sure, to be productive or effective, don't aim for the consequence that is the phone, aim for the cause.

Since the cause is inside someone's mind, you HAVE TO dig their minds which will give you the full and unlimited control you wished for. Please aim for that, so we can all live in...

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too NAIVE.

Listen to someone who had been from the business.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It seems VERY important for you to let people know, that's okay, but I don't get why this urge would be so intense. Because this urge seems so striking, it even makes you assume, by default, that people aren't aware of what you're saying. But many are, because it's not a groundbreaking perspective you have brought to the table

[bddddd]

If you distrust someone sufficiently to check their phone then the relationship is already over. I'm sure you had your reasons, but violating their privacy by reading their phone is never okay. If you want to leave, just leave. I have never lied to anyone I care about

[myTake Owner]

what if your wife was actually cheating on you and she was using "privacy" as a reason why you should never go through her phone?

[bddddd]

If you go through her phone it will take many years to rebuild trust either way. Just leave.

[myTake Owner]

It has nothing to do with inability to trust.

you can very well trust someone who shouldn't be trusted.

[bddddd]

"Such is life" to quote an infamous Australian.

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too native.

[myTake Owner]

Im just telling you from another perspective as "the other woman" that married men ran to for their needs, don't be too NAIVE.

[alli-112]

Um... ideally I would have the sort of relationship where we have free access to each other's phones, but if you feel the need to check for evidence of cheating something is already wrong.

I don't think it's a "right" though and it definitely depends on the specific individuals and their boundaries, expectations, and agreements.

[grace1289]

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[McLlovin]

If you’re married both parties the wife or husband have absolute right to ask for your phone. There is no secrets between the married. However if you need to do that it means you need marriage counseling. Because there’s no trust. Boyfriend and girlfriend’s dont have that right only after many years not a few days or months.

[Tracy2025]

No, I don't think your partner should have the right to check your phone. Everyone deserves personal space and privacy, even in a relationship. Trust is key — if you feel the need to go through someone's phone, maybe the issue isn't the phone, but the trust between you.

[Jersey2]

Yeah, I don’t care. We are in and out of each other’s phones at times. I am often installing software/adding Apps, updating it or updating the OS and software switches. She is charging mine most morning. No snooping really but the opportunity is there.

[Bubbles934]

Depends how it’s done. I think you should have access to their phone and PIN code. Whether you check is down to how controlling you are. My partner and I can both access each others phones when we want but we don’t. Your phone is full of secrets and a lot of them aren’t cheating. I use this app. If he knew I was in GAG he might get the wrong idea but im not here to cheat

[BDRick]

I don’t think it’s ‘right’ or ‘wring’ I. Particular, as much as I let my partner check my phone whenever because I have nothing to hide and I do think she and I are one so in my personal life, she can check my phone, she can check Love you bank, she can check my everything, as I can, hers.

[Valdemort]

"The right" 😭

If I had a partner, I honestly wouldn't care if he'd go through my phone or not—if it was to check on me though, then we have a bigger problem

[avery58]

Not the right. But if someone finds something suspicious then they have a right to *ask* their partner. Also, some people are just comfortable with using each other's phones. I think that's perfectly fine as well

[Geo1970]

Not at all.
If what I am right about this question, if a partner suspects either girlfriend or boyfriend then for crying out loud, have it out with them.
If you know your partner’s character then you will know if they have something to hide!!!

[myTake Owner]

I have seen people great characters CHEAT like crazy.

Character has nothing to do with cheating.

Listen to someone who has been in the business of being the "other woman"

[Geo1970]

Then I’m staying single.

[Shiprex]

IF men were to check a modern young woman's phone who has any social media you can guess there' THOUSANDS of men in her DMs so if THAT isn't disloyal then neither is what men keep on their phones.

[Anonymous]

I trust my wife, and she trusts me. There is literally no reason for me to want to check her phone. It's a violation of her privacy.. And here is the fun part. It's actually illegal for her to check mine, my phone is company property, meaning it's loss of job and jail time for her to access my phone..

Perhaps you should work on your trust issues.

[molonski2]

Absolutely NO ONE has the right to order a check of another's device , and even if it were okey that changes nothing..
This kind of controlling attitude must NEVER ever happen , disgraceful action.

[LiamJHayden]

If she asks, I will allow it and then immediately dump her. If she doesn't trust me, and I her, there is no future, and once she goes to that spot there is no return.

[myTake Owner]

Most of those who get cheated on, tend to be the ones who are never suspicious.
I say this after a decade of online dating experience

[LiamJHayden]

If I'm suspicious I end it. If I have a reason then I won't trust her, so again might as well move on.

[myTake Owner]

sometimes the person you trust the most, may betray you the most.

don't just assume that if you can trust someone, then that means they will never cheat on you

[nawtee_me]

I think if your partner feel a need to check you phone then their are real trust issues or you have done something to cause them to have that need. Either way you both should reevaluate your relationship and probably end it….

[myTake Owner]

Most of those who get cheated on, tend to be the ones who are never suspicious.
I say this after a decade of online dating experience

[myTake Owner]

The ones who get cheated on do not tend to be the ones who nag their husbands all day that he's cheating on her.

[beenherebefore]

He can check my phone every time he asks me. I don't think he should be checking it behind my back tho.