Before continuing keep in mind I ALWAYS suggest the girl I'm with to exchange social media passwords, and for either to check each other's phone at any time giving (meaning I give full access to my phone and accounts too). I slow down the moment I feel I can trust the girl. I believe trust is earned, never be a beta chump who gives away trust like nothing without truly knowing the other person and then get surprised when cheated or dumped for some other dude.
Ok, moving on. Some years back I was with my at-the-time girlfriend and she was telling me about her friend, lets call her Avril.
Avril had a skater boyfriend who she met in high school. Avril loved Skater boy in high school. But now that she was graduating college it become apparent that skater boy lacked real career prospects so she began mentally distancing herself from him. Avril began going to clubs and flirting dudes.
My girlfriend was complaining to me about how controlling skater boy was and how he insisted on reading her texts. She then nervously asked if I would ever do that. I said no I would never ask to read your messages. She was happy and the conversation ended with her telling me how she was so happy that our relationship is built on trust.
You see I would have never asked to see those messages because given enough notice she would just delete whatever is incriminating. Anyway, a woman's friends are a reflection of herself; that's when I took the hint and began reading her shit.
I got a piece of paper wrote out her messages (flirty and a couple of sexual exchanges) with times and dates. I later cross referenced those times and dates with when we were together, and when we hung out.
Here is the unsurprising thing I found out. You know how our generation, 20+ year olds are constantly texting? While your fine dining your girlfriend she is flirting with dudes, getting attention from beta orbiters, and telling her friends how hot her boss is. You could be snuggling in bed, going on a hike, watching a movie, introducing her to your mom, it doesn't matter. Women are constantly seeking sexual gratification in one way or another via texts. Don't believe me? Try this experiment for yourself, maybe you are right and -Not All Women Are Like That-, but realistically there is only one way to test your theory.
As a man you are very easy to lie to. You gaze longingly into her eyes and think about your future with a big house and kids in some weird quasi hypnotic state. You are not that difficult to deceive.
Eventually in my next relationship I did discovered my then-girlfriend cheated (physically with another man) when I snooped to her phone. I was wiser at the time, so I played it cool like I never was going to do it, and then suddenly she left her phone in the table while she took a shower and there it was "Hey babe, want to come over tonight again?".
In my opinion, the best thing to do is to fully snoop through her phone and get the full truth. That way when you look back on your life you can have an honest accurate understanding of the situation. After that just move on to another girl. You don't need to explain anything to the girl that cheated on you and you certainly don't need to give her the breakup validation that she wants.
Read this article, and then picture this:
Try to picture this life, except with the sex roles reversed. Every one of your trivial observations or random thoughts gets “upvoted”, literally and metaphorically, by throngs of admirers, mostly female but some male too. Your lauded accomplishments amount to sharing cute puppy pics. Say something stupid? No one will call you out on it. Make a lame joke? Everyone laughs uproariously. Post a drunken photo of yourself? Hundreds of chicks “like this” and cheer in unison, “you go, guy!”. Tell no one in particular that you are sad, and you’re having a bad day? Hundreds more line up to offer uplifting messages of support.
Social network mediums like Facebook and Twitter have contributed to the bloating of the Western female ego by giving her access to the admiration of ARMIES of would-be suitors (the equivalent of a handful of suitors in pre-internet fame times), and to an emotional support system that numbers in the hundreds, even thousands, over the relatively tiny social circle her grandmother was grateful to have in her day.
Today, it is insidiously easy for a woman in her peak attractiveness years to attention whore. If you want to know why so many women so readily whore for attention, the answer is simple: because they can. Cute puppy pic —> cascade of likes. Who wouldn’t avail themselves of that quick ego fix?
If a chick doesn't have facebook that's a massive plus as far as I'm concerned, they use that shit for the ego validation beta orbiters and girls are willing to provide, to flirt with alpha dick and use it as a massive psychological crutch to feel good. Chicks without facebook = GOLD.
But still, all girls have phones, right? And they feel important when their phone is buzzing off to "oh u look so pretty in this pic!" and "you look cute" or "hey how u doin?" in IM from 5 of their orbiters. Girls are all fed on e-validation, rather than being concentrated on getting her man's (your) validation.
And that's why you must exchange social media passwords and for your own good ALWAYS check her phone. It's the way it is or you'll learn the hard way. Honestly:
1. I'll be dismissive of any girl who refuses this suggestion,
2. and just as I have in the past I'll dump any girl who flirts with other men on my back or cheats on me in the drop of a hat.
So you either catch her by snooping through her phone like this bloke (not saying cool for publishing it on social media, but he dodged a bullet):
OR you will end up being THIS soldier:
^^^Their daughter was in the house even when all happened.
EVEN WORST YET, you don't want to be this man:
YOUR CHOICE!
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