I've had this lying around on my tablet as a draft for some weeks and finally said to myself, "What the hell. Stop tweeking and just post." These are things I've experienced or noticed about females on the Internet, and some other people also might have while others haven't. Some of it is stuff that men are doing too but what I think is much more common with the other gender. Either way I would like to share the details.
Hiding their circles…
I usually see this on Facebook and Google+. I’ve seen some male users do this, but by far I mostly see females have their profiles set to where you can’t see anyone in their circles. And what’s to hide exactly? Well, many times they do it if they like getting attention from lots of guys or are fucking around with lots of guys. These females don’t want them all knowing each other or confronting each other in vying for her attention. And if their followers are all male or mostly male, she may also not want the women in her circle to see that and either judge her for it or get jealous.
It actually is pointless for her to hide her circle because if you add her and she adds you back, you’ll still see many of her friends commenting on her posts, even if you can’t see them on her friends list, you still know that whoever is giving attention to her material is most likely already in her circle.
Trolling/bullying…
The media and web articles often try to spin it as if females are the most hated and attacked group online, when there are really just as many of them being the perpetrators! And to each other! Females may be the largest demographic of online bullies and abusers, especially towards other females but they like doing it to males too.
In my experience, most male Internet bullies generally attack you in disagreement with your views, being aggressive or ranting on and on with abusive comments, but female bullies are often much more insecure and will follow you around a forum to attack you like a high schooler so they can feel better about something you say/said that bothers them, and will keep tabs on all your comments. They're quietly watching or reading everything you post, waiting for their moment to attack. Usually I will either ignore them or may give a response if I feel like it, but when they keep showing up everywhere to assault even I run out of patience and bring the hammer down. BLOCK. And report.
Another common thing with female bullies is trying to create circles or influence others - usually other females - to also hate the person they hate or join in against them. They will all message each other about something you’re saying or what you posted and share links in the hopes that they’ll come and agree with her, vote her up, help her attack you, or flag your comments. Females have more of a group-think mindset, and they will usually follow. They also think nobody knows about how they operate especially in these circles, when some of us are actually very aware. On other sites in the past I’ve had more females than males in my circles and it is by far the females who inbox you about someone they hate and want you to bother them too.
Telling you to stop messaging them…
This isn't exactly sneeky, just immature. If it’s one thing chicks online love doing is having any reason to find you threatening or irritating enough to tell you to go away, or even block you altogether. I think many of us guys have had this experience even when we’re saying nothing sexual or rude, and mostly it happens with young females, though from time to time it has even happened to me with a few older women.
For some reason women like being able to tell you, “Please stop messaging me,” “Do not message me anymore,” “I’m finished having this conversation with you,” etc. They want it to seem like you are more of a threat or an irritant than you really are so they can feel like a big girl for shutting you down. They narcissisticly like having a sense of control over the situation where it’s not even as necessary or important as they think it is, but their ego likes that feeling of being justified and doing away with you. It's partly the female habit of needing to cut somebody out and feeling empowered by it, but also could be the drama side of them that needs validation *throughs back of hand up to forehead* “I am in DISTRESS! This guy is giving me so much ANXIETY! PUHlease go away!”
Ghosting...
Both genders have ghosted the other, but I think we all can agree that women do it much more often than men, at a rate of probably 70% to 30% of men. I've heard women say how they get ghosted by guys too and I'm sure it does happen but I believe men experience it much more. What's worse is that a lot of women actually do admit to it but try to justify their reasons for it when they really do ghost guys in some of the dirtiest, most low down ways. They seem to think ghosting is more noble than courage, or that as a female it's more necessary from their ego's view of self-justification.
Many women refuse to acknowledge that you simply need to be honest with the guy, making excuses that "I've done that and he still hated it." Whether or not he did and if the next guy does too, by being honest you're still doing the right thing. In the end, even if it hurts I still am glad I got some kind of closure from a female instead of being left on blank indefinitely thinking maybe they're just busy.
Ghosting ultimately is sneaky and cowardly, and honestly? I can understand how some guys who've been through it enough can have negative thoughts and feelings about women. When they're acting like that it definitely does make you doubt their integrity and honesty, question their character, and really can cause your faith in women to be shaken.
Privatizing their profiles…
Again, much like hiding their circles, the vast majority of people on the Internet I see who hide their pages have been female. To be fair, anyone has a right to make their whole page private, even I have a private Instagram account because I don't want co-workers or certain others in my phone contacts to be suggested to my page when I prefer to keep my personal life private. Some women do it for probably the same reasons, or not wanting guys to see them or message them, or even not wanting their employers to know.
But other times it’s because their intentions are to troll or bully other people, and not have someone retaliate by being able to come on to their page and reply to any of their comments. I think this is a very big reason for why many of the females even here on GaG do it, especially if their avatars look like some kind of random photo that’s not even typical of your average female user, even though you know it is indeed a real female behind it by the way she talks to you. Believe it or not, males and females do have a different structure of speaking.
Other times females privatize their pages because they actually don’t want other women coming to bully or harass them. But in a lot of my personal experience over the years, most of the females who hide their profiles or make it that you can't add them do it because they think of themselves as slick and cheeky towards others on a forum and don’t want someone else doing it back to them. Females online often think having a snappy, smartass, or bitchy response to anyone and everyone is cool, witty, or wise or will make them popular but then can't handle it when you tell them what they really are. They take pride in their arrogant sarcasm and rudeness towards other users until someone does it back in a very unpleasant way.
Pretending they're not looking for a hookup…
Although many times a female will post on her profile - especially on dating sites and apps - that she’s not looking for a hookup, this actually is often a lie. Some really are sincere about this but others are lying about it because they don’t want guys to message them in hopes of getting a hookup but want to be the ones to choose which guys they want to message for a hookup when/if they feel like it.
I even remember once on Whisper I caught a girl in a total lie about her intentions. She posted a Whisper one time about looking for a friends with benefits, then later on someone else’s Whisper she was agreeing with another female about how females on the app hide from guys because the guys are looking for sex. I messaged her about her contradiction and got no reply. She was probably shocked shitless that someone remembered what she first said elsewhere.
Turning off their ‘message read’ receipts…
Anyone can mask Sent, Delivered, Received symbols so that if someone sent you a message and you read it, the other person won’t know it and it’ll just still have the symbol for Delivered on their end. Although apparently people do utilize this (though I never do) I believe a lot of females are doing it. There have been times where I sent her a message that showed forever that it was never read even though I had cause to believe from other reasons that she did indeed read it.
Some women mask their message read receipts because they want to pretend that they’re ignoring you or “never saw your message” when they really are reading everything that comes through that wire, and they know well that guys are smart enough to do the math and ask “I know you saw my message so why didn’t you answer?” if we’re just seeing how they are, asking when they would like to get together next time, etc.
Quietly removing your number…
Nothing is funnier than a chick who stops talking to you little by little or you just haven’t spoken in a while, and then when you want to know how she’s been doing and text her, you get…..
The funny part is how embarrassed they get when you tell them who it is and they lie with, "Oh! Hey, how are you! Sorry, I got a new phone awhile back." Uh huhhh lol.
If I forgot any or anyone wants to add their own, please do share.
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