Is it wrong to hook up with a guy the first time you hang out together? If so, how long should you wait?

[Anonymous]

guys do you consider girls slutty if they hook up with you during the first hangout?

[Warren]

No, I don't consider it slutty or wrong. If you both want to have sex, why not? Just use your judgment. If you're looking for a relationship and you're having sex with a guy you just met at a bar, you're going to be disappointed. If you're just looking for sex, however, you have the right guy! If the guy you're about to have sex with is interested in a relationship as well, sex on the first date won't stop that from happening. The widely-mentioned stereotype of a guy leaving a girl shocked and dismayed after he screws her is hardly as widespread as people seem to think. I'd say most of that happens on what is obviously a one-night-stand. Or High School/College. You can see them coming from a long way off.

'Wrong' is a point of view, don't let anyone else define it for you! ;) If you want to have sex with a guy, go for it. You don't have to wait a set period of time to avoid being seen a certain way..

[St-Dank-Tanks-LG]

Whatever feels right is right. It doesn't matter if it's the first date or 10th date, whenever the feeling is right.

[honeyblond]

You should read Steve Harvey's book, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" -- it's a VERRRRY insightful about men and dating and relationships, etc! Have a little respect for yourself (and he would respect you too, if he's genuinely interested)-- when you hand it over on the first date, it's meaningless really, sex should be so much more than just a first date hook up... for you and him!

[chuy_tomasin]

yea many straight guys actually think that because then when your done he is going to thiink about just hooking up and you will be just a game to him and he might not respect you and he is going to maybe have a girlfriend and then your might be the other girl so he can sleep with so don't hook up!

[burdiac]

Something I always tell my female friends... Make a guy work for it ;)... Everyone likes to play the game... Plus if you don't indulge yourself and he keeps coming back you have a much better idea if he wants you or just your body

[Warren]

Work for it? What is she, a new boat? Oh, and her body is part of who she is. A man doesn't lack interest in "her" simply because he's interested in her body. The two aren't mutually exclusive. And most people hate "the game". Lastly, a good way to see if he's interested in more than just sex is to do things other than sex in combination with sex. You know, like spending time together. Unless he's ONLY having sex with her, he's generally interested in her *and* sex and not JUST sex. Heh.

[tyrantfuryre]

No. Just be careful not to fall too hard too fast.