My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months. But she hasn't ever really been affectionate/ needy, and I'm really getting tired of trying with her. It pretty much drains all of my energy! It wouldn't kill her to at least invite me to do things or something to show that she's interested. She will still make out with me and everything, it's just that she won't take initiative on ANYTHING. And I've kind of prodded a little bit at this, and she said that it's hard for her to be needy because the last time she was with someone, he broke up with her and she was devastated. But if she really liked me, wouldn't she easily be able to be needy, and easily show affection, and try to do more things?
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She must've found her sense of independence after being burned by her previous boyfriend. Sadly, I can relate to her. I'm with a guy right now, and I'm not very needy and find it hard to be affectionate. I feel like I'm this way because I'm afraid. I'm afraid to let my guard down and give my all to someone. I feel like you just have to give her time and let her find trust within you. Sometimes it's hard for people to let down their walls that they ever so carefully built up.2