The other night while my boyfriend was asleep, I looked through his phone and found loads of texts to girls saying things like gorgeous and do you want to come round mine and stuff like that. I feel so hurt and keep comparing myself to these girls, its horrible. I can't forget it, its just there in my mind. However, he said there was nothing in these mesgs, it didn't mean nothing and that he loves me. So I forgave him and have taken him back because I love him and feel so weak with out him. Even though he's hurt me, I still needed his touch and just wanted a cuddle. Now though, I feel like a mug but I can't be without him. He's a ladies man and very flirty, I feel like the trust has just gone. What should I do?
please help me, I'm so frustrated!
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I've had a similar situation like this in my early days of dating, the only difference being the girls I was texting and interacting to were actually my girlfriend's friends, and she used them to test if I was really faithful to her because I was popular a guy (I still am where I am :D ). I didn't know any better, because loads of girls would just get my number somewhere and text me, so I had no idea these 2 girls were actually helping my girlfriend at the time. She confronted me, and I said those text didn't mean much and told her I loved her, but she was so hurt that she wouldn't even talk to me for so long.
In this case, I think that he does have feelings for you, but he also wants to get the other girls; I think it's part of a guy's nature that just about any guy would take the chance to view himself as a ladies man, or even date two girls at the same time if he can. I don't know much what he said to the other girls, but I do know this much: he is not 100% loyal to you.
You can punish him in some sort of way, or perhaps you could leave him; what you do is totally up to you, girl ;)2