If a girl asks a guy out, does she pay?

[m8ash]

If a girl was to ask a guy out do you think she should pay for the date? or do you think it's a more gentlemen thing to do?
Personally if I ask someone out I pay because I was the one who invited them, so what do you guys think?

[Anonymous]

I went out with a guy as friends and he forced me to let him pay for what we were doing but let us split the cost of the food. Turns out he liked me but was too nervous to ask me out on a date so 2 months after this he confessed his feelings then I asked him out and he is now my boyfriend. I offered to pay cause I asked but he wouldn't let me and he offered to pay but I didn't let him so we just split it. I think it's nice to offer but it's probably easier to split it.

[brellca1502]

I think it’s always nice to offer to pay at least half, no matter of which sex you are. Or if he pays one time, you pay the next one. That’s how I’m doing it with my boyfriend. But that also might be because I don’t personally like to have someone paying for my drinks or food 😅

[HayleyMarie]

That makes sense I suppose. I usually offer to pay-even if I’m the one asked out. But that’s me and I don’t always want someone to pay for me. Offering is nice even if the other person ends up paying at the end.

[coachTanthony]

The guy is so trained to pay for the first date that in the end the guy will probably end up trying to pay but... YES if you initiated the date then you should pay.

My advice is if you are having a good date and want a second date let HIM know early on I got this you get the next one. This does two things, it lets the guy know you aren't looking for a free meal and it helps relax both of you if you were at all worried about the bill.

[nickyg1443]

It also expresses interest in the next meeting, providing something to look forward too for both parties if the date goes well.

[Anonymous]

It makes sense, otherwise she's not asking a guy out, she's asking a guy to take her out and buy her dinner.

[shaweet]

honestly it depends, if the guy is broke then yes hahaha, but hel deff take a blow to his pride, thinking youl like him less because of it. but if its not a bother to you, no, but if your always paying for things then no. now i hate being sexist but guys feel like they have to pay because they feel they need to be strong for a woman, and not having money is a form of weakness to us. and if a guy doesn't pay a bill for a date out of several, then he's just in it for the free fun of going out, and is a panzy ass. but a woman paying for things occasionally is pretty cool imo. it shows that your not all about being spoiled and want the guy to blow money on you, and that you really care about having a good time with the guy.

[JIGDada007]

Being raised with the "Old School" traditional Gentleman ways, I always pay.

I've had a girl ask me out in a direct tone though with a smile. When we went out I did pay and I did rush to the check. It was nice that she reached for her purse not knowing I had gotten to it first.

Times are different now so I usually start going dutch after the third date. But, as hopefuldancer stated, if i were told it was her treat in the begining then it'd help. I won't lie, it might feel a bit strange the first time around but i would also feel a bit honored.

[godfatherfan]

I think she should at least start to reach for the bill or act like she is paying.
When I was young I was very steadfast in the belief the man always pays.
Today that is not always possible and really it she should at least treat once and a while.
Usually I will pay but my finances are not great so if we end up going out a lot, she will need to pay sometimes. If we go out a few times then mostly go to each others house to hang out then it spreads it out more and I am more likely to pay each time.

[Mesonfielde]

It makes sense to start out that way, and the guy might either insist to pay at least half of it or his own portion or all of it. It depends, but "whoever invites the other should offer to pay the whole thing or at least 75%" makes sense to me.

[m8ash]

same! it shits me when friends of mine ask someone out on a date and expect them to pay even though they were the one to ask them. Its ridiculous

[Mesonfielde]

That is stupid and I wouldn't ask them out again because they are spineless. I might consider paying my half at least if not all, but only if they aren't basically just using me as a financial resource for free dinner, heh. If you want me to pay the whole thing despite the invite, notify me prior, for example if you don't have much money but still would like to go or something. Just don't try to *use* me just because I am male. I get ticked off if someone feels entitled to something just because of their biological sex.

[m8ash]

well its good to know there are people like you that will put them in place. Some chicks think that they are queen of the world and need men to provide for them. Its stupid i hate woman who feel the need to feel as if their sex is what makes them a higher contender.

[Mesonfielde]

Be the change you want to see, I agree with you :P

[slackercruster]

Forgot to mention... If your friends for a while it may be understood that each pays their own way. A gal invited me ziplining. I told her OK, just let me know when. In any case, we are friends for a couple years. I don't expect her to pay $80 for me. We are not romantic either, but we like each other and would possibly be romantic if I wasn't married and a little younger.

[Mesonfielde]

@slackercruster okay, but she wouldn't expect you to pay her 80$ either along with your own, right? It makes sense that you'd pay for your own if you can. It's pretty much part of my pride not to be catered for like that, heh. The hypothetical situation was about how she invites you, and she expects you to pay her dinner or ticket or the like.

[holograph]

I don't think there should be any such expectation. If you're not okay with paying for food you should turn someone's invitation down. Do you all pay for your friends if you ask them out to eat too? I wouldn't be surprised if at least one person replies to me saying yes they do, but I'll be highly skeptical of such an answer being true.

[Anonymous]

I like it when both take turns to pay for each other. Personally speaking, I hate splitting the bill.

[cantsaylol]

Although I try not to spend much on the girl for the first 2 years, I always offer and insist to pay. Just to be a gentleman

He may really appreciate the thought, its rare now a days women doing this

[slackercruster]

Girl pays unless she says Dutch. If he wants to pay some that is fine, but don't expect it.

If your broke, invite out for low / no cost dates. In the old days, there was lots of low cost fun to be parking and necking.

[Amduscias98]

I don't care if you're female or male. If we are going out to eat we are paying for our own separate meals. I'm not into all that oh you pay for this because you're a guy or you asked me out bs. If you a knew we were going out to eat and you agreed to come then you're paying for your own meal. I don't babysit adults.

[Anonymous]

Depends if I was also interested in the girl. If I am definitely would always pay. If not lol no way would I pay.

[m8ash]

I seee, very nice x

[Klaatu51]

"or do you think its a more gentlemen thing to do? " <---- that's stupid, both should pay their own. the guy isn't a fool to pay for both.

[m8ash]

hey im going offf what people say to me, i personally do not care. If i were to ask him on a date i would pay. But im talking about girls who think a guy should pay regardless wether you asked them or not.

[Klaatu51]

those girls are stupid, it'd be better to leave from the dinner and let her pay for both to have her lesson hahahah

[hopefuldancer]

I'd ask out but day that it was in you to begin with so he knew what your intention was or else he'd probably grab the bill.

[theENFJ]

I wrestle them for it, but if I ask them out the best I'll allow them to do is go dutch. I always try to pay (at least on the first date).

[koko124]

wrestle to pay?

[theENFJ]

All the guys I've asked out have still insisted on paying for some reason, so I refuse to let them.

[WhiteShoulder]

I'm an INFP. Don't think I ever met an ENFJ.

[Freiburger]

The initiator of the date pays. This rule is fair and gender neutral.
So yes if a girl asks out a guy, she should pay. Equally the guy should offer to split the bill (just as a girl should offer to pay half to the guy when he asks her out).

[cheekspreader]

I suppose from a logical standpoint since the girl ask the guy out she should pay. I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm quite old-fashioned so I usually pay. However, I certainly wouldn't argue about it. If she had her heart set on paying then that's how it would be.

[decemberxblue]

I feel it's best to look inward and start doing what YOU feel you should do. Then it is genuine, and a guy would notice and really appreciate that.

[Kewlkaelyn101]

Yes, I agree with you.
If I’m inviting someone out I’ll assume responsibility for covering the bill. And if the guy refuses, I’d at least offer to split it.

[Melizabeth]

I think who ever does the asking out should exspect to pay, but if he was raised well he would be already prepaired to pay. Back in my parents day there was no such thing as a girl asking the guy out at all. Only the guy was allowed to ask the girl out & of course he'd pay.

[Anonymous]

Good on you for being equal.

But, generally, I think girls should pay for their own ass regardless.
They all claim to be "strong and independent" and "don't need a man"... So they should stop acting like children and use this "girl power" they claim to have and be equal about the whole thing.

The "gentlemen" concept is a shaming scapegoat now-a-days. Men are only gentlemen to females who are ladies, and most females today aren't ladies in any stretch of the imagination.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I think the person who askes should pay. They are the ones who are prepared financially for a date, where the person being asked might not be.

[AngelAimée]

I would always offer to go halfs but I mean I'd be flattered if the man offered to pay but, I would never expect it.

[Sauximami]

Come on guys. Its 2019 if y'all are going on a date , no matter who asked who out... just split the bill , equality is dating 🔑

[Sammy189]

If it was me, I would pay. It’s me that asked the other person out so I wouldn’t expect him to pay for me

[WhiteShoulder]

I'm not sure. I only asked a guy out once, and that was to a party.

[nerms123]

Yeah it’s really weird to ask a guy out then expect him to pay. At least go dutch

[thegirlfromthething]

Of course. Whoever asks the other person out should pay.

[existing_not_living]

I guess that would be the right thing to do. I'm usually all about going Dutch. :/

[Avicenna]

When I have been asked out, she's usually paid. And that's going back 30 years.

[genericname85]

i generally go for splitting the bill either way xD

[Gedaria]

The guy. It's just ridiculous, he cannot afford to pay for the girl , on a date. Not a very good start to a relationship...

[TheDonDadda]

We split. It's only fair. But if the bitch insists then she can pay.

[dannyhansen999]

I personally believe in each person paying half. But if anyone was going to pay the full amount it would be the person who offered to go out. in my opinion

[lconchola1]

To me as a guy I would rather pay for the date instead of her if she wants to pay half and he would pay half I would say yes but to me I as a guy would rather pay for the female

[e92brah]

girl asking guy out ha ha ha funny joke

[m8ash]

i ask guys out O. o..

[e92brah]

well then good for you i suppose you must have lots of self confidence

[m8ash]

not really, just dont want to regret anything in life or miss an opportunity

[StephR95]

Personally even when a guy asks me out I don't expect them to pay, I disagree with the stereotype. Halves is always the safe bet 😂

[Anonymous]

I think the women should always pay from here on out to make up for centuries of men doing it

[mistixs]

Yeah and men should start having the babies to make up for centuries of women doing it

[Opinion Owner]

@mistixs yeah we all know that’s different. You women have been getting a free pass for a while and you all think you are entitled to free shit that’s not equality

[Anonymous]

After my experience with men, I would never ever ask a guy out unless they initiate

[ErikHunter]

No. But that's an old fashioned trait. Even if a woman asks you out you still pay.

[Anonymous]

That's a good fucking question. I wouldn't allow her to pay but that's just me unless she insisted.

[Iron_Man]

For once I would be up for it

[Grobmate]

Yes. Whoever does the asking pays.

[IlyaTheImpaler]

oh she will pay, eventually.

[MrGentleman94]

No never which is why I don't take a girl out!

[rosebeinghappy]

I think girls should pay half of the bill.

[buttcrackjoe]

Girls dont ask me out

[Unit1]

I split the bill because 2019.

Sue me.

[Anonymous]

Heck no, the bot is always suppose to pay.

[elman123]

heck no...

[Liam_Hayden]

The Asker should pay.

[bubbletrouble]

Yes go Dutch, then split the bill.

[kuame]

Either way, it's okay

[Anonymous]

A woman actually paying on a date, yeah right.

[Billlewis]

Hell, no.

[kathy1121]

I pay if I ask

[Just_someone23]

Yes you ask you pay

[Chance13]

Thats a great question

[sakib0171]

I think it’s a matter of mutual understand.

[Agape93]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Lol she pays even if I ask her out

[CT_CD]

Yeah

[Rahulmariner]

Girls r money digger