I went out with a guy as friends and he forced me to let him pay for what we were doing but let us split the cost of the food. Turns out he liked me but was too nervous to ask me out on a date so 2 months after this he confessed his feelings then I asked him out and he is now my boyfriend. I offered to pay cause I asked but he wouldn't let me and he offered to pay but I didn't let him so we just split it. I think it's nice to offer but it's probably easier to split it.
I think it’s always nice to offer to pay at least half, no matter of which sex you are. Or if he pays one time, you pay the next one. That’s how I’m doing it with my boyfriend. But that also might be because I don’t personally like to have someone paying for my drinks or food 😅
That makes sense I suppose. I usually offer to pay-even if I’m the one asked out. But that’s me and I don’t always want someone to pay for me. Offering is nice even if the other person ends up paying at the end.
The guy is so trained to pay for the first date that in the end the guy will probably end up trying to pay but... YES if you initiated the date then you should pay.
My advice is if you are having a good date and want a second date let HIM know early on I got this you get the next one. This does two things, it lets the guy know you aren't looking for a free meal and it helps relax both of you if you were at all worried about the bill.
It makes sense, otherwise she's not asking a guy out, she's asking a guy to take her out and buy her dinner.
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honestly it depends, if the guy is broke then yes hahaha, but hel deff take a blow to his pride, thinking youl like him less because of it. but if its not a bother to you, no, but if your always paying for things then no. now i hate being sexist but guys feel like they have to pay because they feel they need to be strong for a woman, and not having money is a form of weakness to us. and if a guy doesn't pay a bill for a date out of several, then he's just in it for the free fun of going out, and is a panzy ass. but a woman paying for things occasionally is pretty cool imo. it shows that your not all about being spoiled and want the guy to blow money on you, and that you really care about having a good time with the guy.
Being raised with the "Old School" traditional Gentleman ways, I always pay.
I've had a girl ask me out in a direct tone though with a smile. When we went out I did pay and I did rush to the check. It was nice that she reached for her purse not knowing I had gotten to it first.
Times are different now so I usually start going dutch after the third date. But, as hopefuldancer stated, if i were told it was her treat in the begining then it'd help. I won't lie, it might feel a bit strange the first time around but i would also feel a bit honored.
I think she should at least start to reach for the bill or act like she is paying.
When I was young I was very steadfast in the belief the man always pays.
Today that is not always possible and really it she should at least treat once and a while.
Usually I will pay but my finances are not great so if we end up going out a lot, she will need to pay sometimes. If we go out a few times then mostly go to each others house to hang out then it spreads it out more and I am more likely to pay each time.
It makes sense to start out that way, and the guy might either insist to pay at least half of it or his own portion or all of it. It depends, but "whoever invites the other should offer to pay the whole thing or at least 75%" makes sense to me.
I don't think there should be any such expectation. If you're not okay with paying for food you should turn someone's invitation down. Do you all pay for your friends if you ask them out to eat too? I wouldn't be surprised if at least one person replies to me saying yes they do, but I'll be highly skeptical of such an answer being true.
I like it when both take turns to pay for each other. Personally speaking, I hate splitting the bill.
Although I try not to spend much on the girl for the first 2 years, I always offer and insist to pay. Just to be a gentleman
He may really appreciate the thought, its rare now a days women doing this
Girl pays unless she says Dutch. If he wants to pay some that is fine, but don't expect it.
If your broke, invite out for low / no cost dates. In the old days, there was lots of low cost fun to be parking and necking.
I don't care if you're female or male. If we are going out to eat we are paying for our own separate meals. I'm not into all that oh you pay for this because you're a guy or you asked me out bs. If you a knew we were going out to eat and you agreed to come then you're paying for your own meal. I don't babysit adults.
Depends if I was also interested in the girl. If I am definitely would always pay. If not lol no way would I pay.
"or do you think its a more gentlemen thing to do? " <---- that's stupid, both should pay their own. the guy isn't a fool to pay for both.
I'd ask out but day that it was in you to begin with so he knew what your intention was or else he'd probably grab the bill.
I wrestle them for it, but if I ask them out the best I'll allow them to do is go dutch. I always try to pay (at least on the first date).
The initiator of the date pays. This rule is fair and gender neutral.
So yes if a girl asks out a guy, she should pay. Equally the guy should offer to split the bill (just as a girl should offer to pay half to the guy when he asks her out).
I suppose from a logical standpoint since the girl ask the guy out she should pay. I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm quite old-fashioned so I usually pay. However, I certainly wouldn't argue about it. If she had her heart set on paying then that's how it would be.
I feel it's best to look inward and start doing what YOU feel you should do. Then it is genuine, and a guy would notice and really appreciate that.
Yes, I agree with you.
If I’m inviting someone out I’ll assume responsibility for covering the bill. And if the guy refuses, I’d at least offer to split it.
I think who ever does the asking out should exspect to pay, but if he was raised well he would be already prepaired to pay. Back in my parents day there was no such thing as a girl asking the guy out at all. Only the guy was allowed to ask the girl out & of course he'd pay.
Good on you for being equal.
But, generally, I think girls should pay for their own ass regardless.
They all claim to be "strong and independent" and "don't need a man"... So they should stop acting like children and use this "girl power" they claim to have and be equal about the whole thing.
The "gentlemen" concept is a shaming scapegoat now-a-days. Men are only gentlemen to females who are ladies, and most females today aren't ladies in any stretch of the imagination.
I think the person who askes should pay. They are the ones who are prepared financially for a date, where the person being asked might not be.
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