Hi Anonymous,
Do you trust your cousin?
If you are so sure she doesn't care, then asking is a win win situation: You are kind to her and you verify whether it was actually only 2mo and 8y ago that they dated.
I do think it is gross to be honest. But one must weight the risks and benefits. How good is this guy compared to any dream guys you've met? My cousin is drop dead gorgeous and she would trust my judgement on crossing out and test the rest of the 7 billion souls on earth. Many good options come in your late 20s. How are you doing lately? Have you been mistreated recently? Maybe it's a good idea to build confidence and hope for amazing, and choose later. Take it slow and have a friendship with the guy first, maybe? Good enough doesn't make happy.
Is your family one that gets together on Christmas Eve? Think about the scenario. She might not care, but how will you feel? Will you trust what he said and never doubt anything in your mind? You want to avoid feelings of jealousy in your imagination, because then your friendship with her will be affected. That's on your side. Let's think about her. She might not care, but her husband will. They might even avoid stopping by on family reunions if her husband isn't excited about hanging out and sharing punch with his wife's ex.
Nevertheless, if she loves you as I love my cousin, she'll let you decide and pray for the best.
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Ask your cousin if she's okay about it. For conservative people like me it's kinda gross to date relatives ex boyfriend/girlfriend. But hey this is a free country, follow whatever your heart says. Goodluck!
Check with the cousin.. it has been a month of Mondays since they broke up and I am sure she could care less now.
Good luck. xx
Ask your cousin. I don't think she will care after eight years, but she might appreciate being asked. If she thinks you are sneaking around then she might get upset just because you did it thinking it would upset her.
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I think it depends if they courted only without engaging in any sexual activity. That will not be a good situation.
It's all good. Go for it!
Bad cousin.
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