I can somewhat relate to the guy you're seeing... When someone has never had a relationship, but longs for one because they see it all the time or maybe because they are hopeless romantics, they can get desperate after awhile. Especially if they've had bad "near misses" where taking things slow ended with either party being friendzoned or nothing at all.
I'm in the habit of "Rushing" because i afraid of losing the catch after fishing for so long with only a few nibbles here and there.
However, like in fishing, if you pull too hard too quickly, the line snaps. This is why you should both find your "break even" and until then, you won't know whether you are the one for each other or not. This is a lesson i'm working hard to learn with the current girl i'm seeing, because I don't want the line to snap with this one haha. Hope it helps a little :)
And apologies for the fishing references :P
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Like me, some guys have parental issues. We attach to what we lacked most in our childhood. Affection is one of the top priorities in human nature. We want, what we see society has. A healthy relationship that we can tend to and improve. If he has never really had a girlfriend in the past. This is all new to him. When a child sees another kid playing with a toy. What does that child want? The toy the other kid has. We want, what others seem to have, and also what we've never experienced. If he attached so quickly, then he has no idea what a relationship really is. You can't jump into deep water without testing your limits. What the person has or doesn't, may not interest you in the future. My advice? Sit and talk to him. About what he wants in life. What he wants in a relationship. Sometimes you need to be an adult. You can't expect an answer, without first questioning.
Why does that worry you, you've already made the decision to date him. This is so effd up. Ladies claim they want a good guy, and when they finally find that perfect gentleman, they bring up these stupid, complex issues. Please enjoy your relationship and stop complicating matters, men are simple minded beings. Do u wanna marry this guy? If no, the why does 'being the one' make a difference?
Heck. He sounds desperate, needy, clingy and crazy. Moving way too fast, slow him down
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People talk to their friends and family about stuff. If he doesn't tell people about you would you feel like he was hiding you from them?
Most guys like that wouldn't force themselves to like someone or date if they weren't into them at least a little.
And if you're not really feeling it let him know. Don't just blow him offKeep cool and carry on. Maybe he will calm down or he will kill it off. But you just keep calm and watch how he behaves. Don't be pushed into anything.
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