Most Helpful Guy
A guy that is afraid of commitment, doesn't want relationships and won't use for sex. They generally won't use for sex. If a guy has told you, he is afraid to commit, then he is not a player, but you have to ask yourself, do you want him as a boyfriend for long term commitment. He just might to have fun with a girl. So if you are looking for some fun, with no strings attached, then he is the guys for you.
A player will tell you everything you want to hear, and generally keeps leading you on, and makes you think something is going to happen, and generally never does. He only uses women for his own sexual needs.
Most Helpful Girl
Its kind of hard to tell. A player does not always have lots of women on call. He might be someone who simply jumps from bed to bed and when he says bye, its bye. He's effectively a f*ckboy. He sleeps and runs or leads you along like a donkey with a carrot dangling in front of it. A commitment-phobe is someone who needs a lot of work before they can so much as think of a future with another person. For a CP, life is uncertain and people are unpredictable. I am a CP and I tend to distance myself from a guy if I see that he's having romantic thoughts towards me. I tend to keep guys in the friend-zone. Further CP's don't usually get intimate with people; they don't usually share personal information or anything that requires feelings etc...