A 47 year old man dating a 21 year old girl? Is that weird?


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  • Weird? Yes. Unusual. I would never do it. I'm attracted to older men. But it only goes about 15 years. I have a limit. If you like him and he likes you then what does it matter? Peoples opinions on older men and younger females can be discouraging. Often times you will hear, women especially, saying that if an older man can be with someone that much younger than he should be consider a pedophile. However, in my eyes, you are well over 18. You are old enough to know what you want and go forth with your decision without the judgement of others because you are your own person. So what if he's a lot older? Know what I mean? I live in a family that passes a huge judgement on my relationship choices but sometimes you just have to push through the negativity so you can be happy with your life. Don't let people tell you what to do. There's an age difference, a quite big one, but you are still two consenting adults and can do as you please. Neither one of you is in the wrong.

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  • If two people are attracted to each other, why does it matter? Last year, I dated a woman who was exactly half my age. I'm 44, she was 22. We had a great time together. We are no longer together romantically (for reasons that nothing to do with our ages), but we are still very good friends and talk nearly every day.

    Just yesterday, I asked out a woman in my class who is also pretty close to half my age. We've been talking all semester and the time just felt right to take the next step. She said yes right away.

    It truly all comes down to individual preferences and your own state of mind. I'm very young at heart and don't look my age. Personally, I much prefer to be with a mature-minded woman in her twenties or early thirties than with a woman my own age. With rare exception, I don't find women close to my age to be attractive. They come with all sorts of emotional baggage, physical saggage, and generally seem to have very specific (and often unrealistic) things they are looking for in a mate.

    Age is just a number and a state of mind. Why make a big deal of it?

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  • Yeah, that's pretty weird. Imagine two outcomes.

    1. You two marry. Average male lifespan is about, what, 75? So you're guaranteed to be a widow relatively young.

    2. You date, then break up and try dating guys your own age. They'll think you're some sugar-baby tramp and never be able to respect you.

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  • weird yeah... but not a crime basically!!!

    so...

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  • That is terribly weird lol..
    If i would see a girl (~21 yrs) and a man (~47 yrs) eating together in a restaurant, i would assume that the man is the father of the girl lol

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  • No, he must be getting some good pussy, for his age

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  • There are usually unethical reasons involved but it's your choice and your relationship.

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    • Unethical how?

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    • Yeah! This relationship wouldn't be like that at all.

    • If you're pursuing the other things in life like a career and such it shouldn't be an issue. I do know a girl who married significantly older and it is working out. The tendency is just that what I described ends up being the issue.

  • No.

    Older men love younger females. That's how it always has been

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  • I knew someone that is younger than me by about 10 years that is dating a 51 year old ! he was super controlling In my view.

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  • some will think it's indeed weird but both are adults so no problem i think

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  • Divide age by 2 and add 7. If it's below that it's weird.

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  • Yes it's weird. That old man should find somebody his age to date. I want the 21 year old girl ;)

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  • Not if Viagra is cheap.

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  • yep. weird.

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  • yeeeeeeees

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  • It's unusual. But, it's not necessarily wrong.

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  • He, Anon, I'm very mature for my age ;)

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  • Could you slip her my digits?

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  • Yes very weird, maybe even too weird

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  • What's new these days?

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  • Rare? Yes. weird? No

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  • Nothing surprises me anymore.

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  • Not really. These are two sexually mature, consenting adults. We can't look at their situation and understand it. We don't see them when they're together or hear how they talk to each other or feel how they make each other feel.

    Anyone who judges them is short sighted and kinda arrogant

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    • Yes! Thank you! I agree! :)

  • Unpopular opinion here, but I think it is not weird. There are things to consider between couples that have nothing to do with what other people think. If the woman is attracted to older men, or if the woman has the maturity of an older woman, anything we see or don't see can make these two compatible. What's more, they are legal adults. Once you're 21, it's on. If they found that they are fulfilling each others' needs then that is between them and no one needs to be part of that decision. How other people view it will be their business, but as people get to know the couple they might start to understand why they felt the attraction in the first place if it is a good relationship. I was involved with a few older men in my 20s and I was attracted to them because I felt men in their 20s and 30s hadn't learned a lot of lessons yet and I loved the old-school romance an older man had to offer.

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  • Nah It's the same with my parents so not really a big deal

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    • What are you parents age? If you don't mind me asking.

    • My dad is in his mid 50's while my mom is around 30's-40's

  • Hell yes. She's young enough to be his child. Makes me wonder if he was looking at girls with that age difference when he was actually 21 or younger : /

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  • Yes it's weird, I dated a guy who was 45. He as 22 years older than me. He just wanted my youth. He was controlling, manipulative, and jealous. So be careful, he will start off as super sweet and seem like he can't do anything wrong. Just remember it's a reason why he can't find women his age. I learned the hard way, keep your eyes open and if you start seeing signs that he is manipulative leave. Good luck and 've careful.

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  • What the h... What is up with these old guy and young girl question today o. O

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  • Yes he's way WAY too old... even a 30 year old is, it's okie if the dude is like 5 years old but after that... starts to get weird lol.

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  • Its not that weird. But if you guys were getting married might be a litrle weird. But i think its fine.😊

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  • It's weird and very uncommon but it's legal so whatever.

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  • Kinda but, it doesn't matter as long as you guys love each other.

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  • Yes in my opinion, but what does that matter? If it's a healthy relationship, fine. But in general i find that age gap a lot.

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  • I have a coworker who just turned 18 n married a 57 yr old n now pregnant.

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  • It's weird, but they're both legal adults so there's nothing anyone can do about it.

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  • Old enough to be her das, so yep. weird. And creepy.

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  • He can be double her age but my bf can't be 4 years older? Fuck everything just going to do as I wish now

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    • If you're not careful your bf could be locked up for statutory rape. The different between their situation and their is that they're nothing legal and you're still a minor. If I were you I wouldn't go seeking older guys until I was 18.

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    • I don't think they're saying you can't be together... you're still a minor... just be careful... or he could be locked up... I don't know of you have read these comments... but, some people are telling me that's it's weird... and I'm not pitching a fit. It's a matter of wanting people's opinions... if you want to be with an older guy... go for it...

    • Thanks :)

  • Who am i to judge if you like his leathery skin.

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    • That guy must have something to offer her in the bedroom or outside... Sugah daddies.

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    • hey im 48 and still supple

    • Asker... I wonder do all guys have to reach to age 47 to be emotionally mature. :P

  • Age doesn't matter if you are happy.

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  • Anything can happen :) Unusual but nothing wrong

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  • That is very weird

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