I'm middle aged but mostly go out with men 20 years younger than me, not because I'm some cougar, but because they seem much cooler about casual dating. Older men seem to have more of a tit-for-tat sense that if they bought you a drink they should regard you as serious potential partner material and get very touchy if you won't agree to a next date. I feel more intensity from men my age that if you are talking online, the next logical step is having a weekend away or something, with an undercurrent of anger if that isn't even close to what you are looking for. Why might this be?
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I had a 2 month sex fest with older women (40-45). In short, I tried for all women, but in terms of hook ups, the older women were far more easy going and open minded. I had a great time and the funniest thing is that I think I can only attract older women and not girls my age or younger. Then I read a local adult sex forum about the old guys complaining about women in this culture wanting younger men. So my theory right? : many young men (especially on his site, for example) can't get women in their groups, for whatever reason (young girls like bad boys, girls want the jocks etc) but they still pretty cool. But the older women are more relaxed and over this shit and wouldn't mind a fit, young lad as a short term partner. So basically there are great options for even older ladies because there are guys like me who are fit, but have old school manners and actually gel with you. This obviously is a bastard for older guys because young guys are taking over a bit there too and these older guys may want to settle down and have a sense of desperate urgency about it.1