What's the biggest age difference you would date?

Question

I'm currently in an age gap relationship and am curious to what's the biggest age gap you would be comfortable with in a relationship . :)
if you've ever been in an age gap relationship, what was the difference in age between you and your significant other.

(p. s just to clearify the poll is about the biggest age difference you would date.)

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

The best thing I have ever seen for figuring out the LOWEST age to date is:

half your age plus 7

I have figured it out for many ages and I def agree.
but, there are exceptions to every rule. if it works for you, who is to judge.
problem is when people fall in lust they don't always think long term. if your 20 or 30 and fall for someone 50-60, in 10-15 years that person is not going to move too quick. they are not going to want to go do many things a 30 or 40 yr old would want to do. do you want to do retiree things when your 30 or 40? people need to think of those things.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Accepted Answer

I was age 35 at the time i met my last girlfriend now ex and she was 18
as long as a girls mature and legal age I'll date her , i can't see why
people gotta judge peoples preference on the age they date especially
if the person is of legal age.

Janice25 · Accepted Answer

I've dated 13 years older (I was 28 he was 41), and normally always 5 - 7 years older... but now I'm all about younger guys.

I always said that I would NEVER EVER date a younger guy because I thought that it would make me feel old... but what I have found (after dating a guy that was 27 and since then several others that were 28 - 30) is that they are really mature - AND still "open hearted." They aren't jaded like the older men that I have met, who have had their hearts broken many times or just plain giving up on/ don't care about finding a real emotional connection with a woman.

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

9-5 years is the biggest gap I would date. There is 10 years between me and my oldest brother and if I dated someone older than him it would freak me out a bit.

I'm with someone at the moment who is 4 years older, almost to the day. I think it's a perfect gap for us, we work well together and compliment each other. I bring out his playful side and he brings out my mature side. Between us we can be the correct mood for a situation. And it's nice to have an adult relationship with flecks of childlessness.

MissPoirot · Accepted Answer

Up to 5 years older :) But really it depends on how you feel about each other. If I would fall in love with someone, it wouldn't matter. I have actually liked guys that were a lot older, the problem is I am underage and that would be a bit creepy :p you are in such different stages of your life and that is why I would wonder about what's wrong with the guy. But when you get to know each other I think it's different.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is pretty variant on age. At 20-25 anything more than about 5 years is a huge leap in life experience and life stage. Over 30, even a 10 year gap is fairly similar in terms of life experience and life goals. More than about 10 years starts getting into more of a generation gap, even for people over 35, so it gets harder.

So this poll should take into account your current age too.

Genie23 · Answer

10 years older than me. That's it, no more than that

ElissaDido · Answer

15-20 years old, but it depends on the guy

alecz · Answer

As much as it takes for her to not be hot. If you are going to tell me that this lady being 52 and her son is 21 means something. Then you have issues.

kingme · Answer

At my age people a few years older than me are a lot different in that they are more developed in their maturity and that they have different priorities and pressures in their life while people a couple years younger are also in a completely different life stage. Therefore I find that it's not very appropriate for me to date outside of that range in either direction. However in a few years things will be different and while I hope I don't wind up single with all my heart and soul if I did then I think it'd be fine to date people who are a lot older than me

existing_not_living · Answer

I'm 17. The oldest I would date right now would be like 24. When I turn 18, it'd be more like up to 27-28. If he's one year younger than me, then I would date him, but if he was any more than that, then he can forget it. I am very mature for my age, so I need a guy that is mature.

Leavesbound · Answer

When I was 19 I dated a woman who was 43. that is the biggest age difference I personally have dated. I don't think at this point I would date anyone more than ten years older than me and most likely no one much more than 20 years younger. The biggest issue is how family reacts to the difference. If you are in the same age group as your sweetheart's parents that can be very awkward. If the younger one is very mature and the parents are OK with it then I would not set any upper limit for the difference. But there will still be challenges that both will have to be willing to work through.

Cmasterson · Answer

I have been in one, and it was about a 14 year age gap. I don't know if it was right or wrong, but I did feel as if he wasn't as old as he was, and infact didn't even look it, looked about 25-28. That helped too, I didn't know his exact age till a couple dates in xx

John_Doesnt · Answer

Age does matter in the long run. Marriages never last if the age gap is too big. I know that many people assume it can work, but once one of the partners turns about 50 or 60 then it becomes a huge problem.
So for me 9 or 10 years age gap would be the max.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was 25, I wrote down the age of every girl I slept with at the first instance (it was a short list). It was 22.1

I kept the list current, and now more than 20 years later and a longer list, that average is 22.8.

I am in my late 40's now and I find that women in college are more likely to date me now, then when I was in college. I asked them, "Why do you like older men?" They said, "They don't make me pay [for a date]", "They know what they are doing [in bed]", "They do not get jealous or clingy." "They don't expect us to get married."

It seems like there are many college aged women who prefer older men, often married because it fits what they want at that point in their lives. They can access a wealthier lifestyle, maintain their freedom, get assistance with their career, and sometimes even financial help.

Young, ambitious, attractive women have always found a match with older, successful men. These couples seem to have exactly what the other is looking for.

Polswedgirl · Answer

I had a bad experience with an older guy. So right now I wouldn't date guys over 19 years old. Maybe there will be some exceptions I don't know but I try not to have a bigger gap, at least not right now. When I get older it won't be weird to have a much bigger gap.

Wonderingfool · Answer

Not simple I'm 21 and would consider dating women aged 19 to 28. Although I think a woman aged 28 would probably just laugh at me if I approached her. This may be due to a démodé societal construct that men should date younger women.

Rissyanne · Answer

The oldest... he was 10 years older. The youngest.. he was 10 years younger. I enjoyed the relationship with the older man. But I enjoyed the sex with the younger man. I am now in a relationship with a man 2 years older. He is perfect for me...

pinkbubble · Answer

My boyfriend is 7 years older than me :p sometimes i like it and sometimes it makes me afraid cuz.. I don't know he has already a stable life and may think of marriage and i am still young. Yeah thats it ^^

EricaM · Answer

I have zero inhibitions about my attraction to men and women that are significantly older than myself. That said, interestingly, I am not that attracted to people even as little as 3 years younger than myself. Hmmm, age is not a factor for me.

normalice · Answer

as long as i thought she was attractive and can hold a conversation with her, i have no such restriction.

Anonymous · Answer

I voted for D. I wouldn't date someone very older than me. We would probably have nothing in common.

akadatank44 · Answer

A qoute that i live by os Love knows no age or race. Now there is some wiggle room with how big. I dont ever see myself with a 60 year old. But someone who is older and that i really connect with. I would consider it.

PYTcassiaxo · Answer

I prefer a guy in my age group because I feel that there is so much we can accomplish and experience together while we are still young and free

badboy666 · Answer

An interesting factoid. the actress in the original "parent trap" married a 51 year old when she was 20. However, her current long time relationship is a man 20 years younger than her.

My current girlfriend is 10 years younger than me.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I would probably only like a 10 year diff but two of my best friends are with guys 17 years older and they've been together a long time.

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