Could you get over your boyfriend telling you you have ugly tits?

Question

Like could you let another guy see you naked again?

Yes

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GirlGuy

Answer 1

Frost_Byt3

Guru

To my understanding, a girl's sensitivity when it comes to her boobs is equivelent to a guy's sensitivity when it comes to his penis.

Our penis is something that we believe our entire masculinity, looks, and value as a man is dependent on. If it is insulted, it is crushing and its something that i personally would never get over. I would feel so inadequate, insecure, and depressed around my partner, that I'd never be the same with them again, and if i ever got into a new relationship it'd still haunt me. And I'm pretty sure its the same for most guys.

A HUGE portion of our self value is based on the size, appearance, and capabilities of our penis. If the comparison stated above is accurate, then I'm sure a woman would be equally crushed to hear such a thing about her breasts.

Answer 2

emilysilver

Xper 5

Dump him. Every man should love and respect a woman he loves.

Asker

+1 y
Thanks. I find the two random guy down votes on this very invalidating but I appreciate your sentiment.

Answer 3

Asker

Thanks. I find the two random guy down votes on this very invalidating but I appreciate your sentiment.

Answer 4

Anonymous

That sucks of him to say but just because he doesn't like them doesn't mean another guy won't like them.

I had an ex who told me I had weird nipples. Sure, it made me self conscious about them, and it took me 4 years to let another guy see them. My current boyfriend is obsessed with my nipples. He makes me feel amazing. It wasn't my ex boyfriend's cup of tea. But I'm glad I showed them to my current boyfriend.

Asker

+1 y
Yeah exactly it took you 4 years some men are just cruel or thoughtless. Your making yourself completely vulnerable to them and that is what they come back with. Thanks though. Rationally I know he was wrong but emotionally it's just terrifying. Any time you trust yourself with someone and they hurt you like that it leaves a scar.

Answer 5

Asker

Yeah exactly it took you 4 years some men are just cruel or thoughtless. Your making yourself completely vulnerable to them and that is what they come back with. Thanks though. Rationally I know he was wrong but emotionally it's just terrifying. Any time you trust yourself with someone and they hurt you like that it leaves a scar.

Answer 6

xHoneyxBeex | 931 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Would I get over it? Eventually, but he would never get to see my chest again since it would probably make me question the relationship. I'm not sure why any man would think it's okay to tell his girlfriend or wife that any part of her body is "ugly." That's just disrespectful and unnecessary.

Answer 7

Bea123

Xper 7

Even if I had a boyfriend he would have NO right to tell me that. And if he truly loved me he would love everything about me, so I would dump him for offending me like that just because I dont meet his preferences. I wouldn't go around telling him his dick is too small

Answer 8

karahiri

Master

He's being mean just to be mean. I'd dump him. All boobs are great.

Asker

+1 y
All boobs aren't great but yeah I would never say anything about a guys penis and I can always find something to love about it.
karahiri

+1 y
why is it not possible to find something to love about boobs then?
Asker

+1 y
I'm a sap I guess I like people for who they are not what they are. The most I expect is that they just keep those comments to themselves.
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karahiri

+1 y
he really is a shithead... hope you see that and do something about it...
Asker

+1 y
I dumped him but my concern is about future relationships. It's hard to let someone see you completely naked and when they confirm your worst fear it makes it even harder the next time with someone new.
karahiri

+1 y
i agree... take what you learned from this relationship and look out for this guy's traits in the guys you'll meet in the future... the experience could serve as a blueprint of what to avoid. and just keep in mind... he really could have just said that to be cruel as opposed to it being an actual assessment of your boobs.
llorando

+1 y
All boobs are great? except when their man boobs :P.
karahiri

+1 y
@llorando lol! gynomastocomia is a serious problem!
llorando

+1 y
I think the cause is a little more serious.

Answer 9

Asker

All boobs aren't great but yeah I would never say anything about a guys penis and I can always find something to love about it.

Answer 10

karahiri

why is it not possible to find something to love about boobs then?

Answer 11

Asker

I'm a sap I guess I like people for who they are not what they are. The most I expect is that they just keep those comments to themselves.

Answer 12

karahiri

he really is a shithead... hope you see that and do something about it...

Answer 13

Asker

I dumped him but my concern is about future relationships. It's hard to let someone see you completely naked and when they confirm your worst fear it makes it even harder the next time with someone new.

Answer 14

karahiri

i agree... take what you learned from this relationship and look out for this guy's traits in the guys you'll meet in the future... the experience could serve as a blueprint of what to avoid. and just keep in mind... he really could have just said that to be cruel as opposed to it being an actual assessment of your boobs.

Answer 15

llorando

All boobs are great? except when their man boobs :P.

Answer 16

karahiri

@llorando lol! gynomastocomia is a serious problem!

Answer 17

llorando

I think the cause is a little more serious.

Answer 18

Baggz | 99 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Will he ever get over it if you tell him his performance in bed is weak that you had better experiences in the past? What do you think? Saying shit like that to your SO may do some considerable damage to their esteem. They lean on you for support; a little restraint on an opinion on their physical appearance would be nice. Some women are emotionally fragile.

Answer 19

broadsword | 253 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Iam so sorry a man has done this to you. It is actually unforgivable. I'd like to think he'd never get to see any woman's breasts again. Men like this don't deserve the pleasure of a woman's intimate company. Mostly because they have no idea what a few words can do to a woman's confidence.

Yes you can get over this but it will take the right sort of caring guy.

Answer 20

Red_Arrow | 833 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Well, if you kneed him in the nuts with all your might, I think it would help you get over it. And he deserves it! Byt the way, "Boyfriends do not do that. Assholes do."

Answer 21

TheBraveLion

Xper 7

If my girlfriend called my penis ugly, I'd ask if she was teasing me or joking, if she meant it, ideally I couldn't care less, I'd just fuck her harder next we have sex. But I'd certainly look down on her each time we have sex and feel less attracted towards her personality which might end up in me dumping her and get bored with her. What he said was very hurtful, if you love him and he loves you maybe move on from what he said, but if he realy hurt you leave him... :)

TheBraveLion

+1 y
Time* Really* ffs I hate typing on my phone

Answer 22

TheBraveLion

Time* Really* ffs I hate typing on my phone

Answer 23

BelleGirl21

Guru

I guess if it was my husband I'm stuck with him. If it's a boyfriend I'd leave him.
And no matter what he said in the future I'd never forget it.

Asker

+1 y
I did not because of this but other things. It still haunts me though. They weren't things he said to be hurtful they were things that I discovered because he'd be thinking out loud and I'd question what he said which would lead to well they aren't the most attractive but they look okay with a bra on. Even after I told him plastic surgeons said I didn't need anything he said of course they are going to say that. I'm like actually isn't it in their better interest NOT to say that? That way they can make money off me. They don't gain anything by telling me I don't need surgery.
BelleGirl21

+1 y
Your ex sounds like an idiot. I bet almost every other guy would love them.

Answer 24

Asker

I did not because of this but other things. It still haunts me though. They weren't things he said to be hurtful they were things that I discovered because he'd be thinking out loud and I'd question what he said which would lead to well they aren't the most attractive but they look okay with a bra on. Even after I told him plastic surgeons said I didn't need anything he said of course they are going to say that. I'm like actually isn't it in their better interest NOT to say that? That way they can make money off me. They don't gain anything by telling me I don't need surgery.

Answer 25

BelleGirl21

Your ex sounds like an idiot. I bet almost every other guy would love them.

Answer 26

DBAOracle | 404 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Don't worry about it.

1) Even if they're ugly, he can't shame you on something you can't control.
2) What he's taking for granted and considering ugly, someone else will appreciate it about you and tell you how much he loves them.
3) Listen to the song that goes like "You are beautiful, no matter what they say".

Answer 27

HandsomeRaj | 610 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I'm obviously not a girl but i vote 'A'

What is good for one is not for another and vice versa. There will be those out there who will love the same tits and find it irresistible :)

Answer 28

DodgersGM

Master

Your boyfriend said that to you? Wow, what a jerk.

I'd leave him if I were you. I don't think he's the type you'll be able to have a healthy relationship with. And besides, you'll find someone who truly appreciates you for you.

Answer 29

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

Yoda

Seriously? Did he say that? That's horrible and I wouldn't like that one bit. What about his ballbag? Is that purdy?

Joeman1252

+1 y
My. ball bag has a scar
Sadly_It_Fell_Off

+1 y
@Joeman1252 Why?
Joeman1252

+1 y
Surgery
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Sadly_It_Fell_Off

+1 y
@Joeman1252 Is it a big one?
Joeman1252

+1 y
About a centimeter long
Sadly_It_Fell_Off

+1 y
@Joeman1252 That's a good size.
Joeman1252

+1 y
Its a scar on my ball sack how is there a. good size any size is a bad size
Sadly_It_Fell_Off

+1 y
@Joeman1252 No a scar covering the length or width of it would not be a good size.
Joeman1252

+1 y
But I hate mt scar I want anormal ball sac with no scar
Sadly_It_Fell_Off

+1 y
@Joeman1252 You've got a normal one. Don't hate it because of the scar. it's not going to make a jot of difference to anything in your life. Don't worry about it. At all.
Joeman1252

+1 y
But its a scar on my sac a ficking scar

Answer 30

Joeman1252

My. ball bag has a scar

Answer 31

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

@Joeman1252 Why?

Answer 32

Joeman1252

Surgery

Answer 33

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

@Joeman1252 Is it a big one?

Answer 34

Joeman1252

About a centimeter long

Answer 35

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

@Joeman1252 That's a good size.

Answer 36

Joeman1252

Its a scar on my ball sack how is there a. good size any size is a bad size

Answer 37

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

@Joeman1252 No a scar covering the length or width of it would not be a good size.

Answer 38

Joeman1252

But I hate mt scar I want anormal ball sac with no scar

Answer 39

Sadly_It_Fell_Off

@Joeman1252 You've got a normal one. Don't hate it because of the scar. it's not going to make a jot of difference to anything in your life. Don't worry about it. At all.

Answer 40

Joeman1252

But its a scar on my sac a ficking scar

Answer 41

overthinkingmind | 173 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

I'd be hurt and insecure about them for the rest of my life. And I'd probably don't believe if anyone tried to convence me the otherwise.

overthinkingmind

+1 y
I wouldn't stop my sexual life because of that, though.

Answer 42

overthinkingmind

I wouldn't stop my sexual life because of that, though.

Answer 43

SensualScribe

Yoda

My boyfriend and any other good boyfriend wouldn't say shit like that. Dump his ass and find someone who appreciates what you have.

Answer 44

Wild_dude999

Xper 1

I would think that would be a great reason to let other guys see you naked

Asker

+1 y
I'm not exactly a glutton for punishment. I'm pretty but y boobs aren't perfect so guys are always disappointed even though I've been to several surgeons that tell me I don't need a breast lift. All they can do is make my areola smaller but they tell me they aren't too big. I'm just tired of letting q guy judge me all the time.
Wild_dude999

+1 y
Does his body look like it belongs on the cover of a fitness magazine? (I really doubt it). Does he have a 8 inch cock?, probably doubtful too.
Asker

+1 y
No of course not and I liked him the more for it. Somehow I find that men who are reasonably good looking and tall are less judgement all about my body than guys who are very far from perfect bodies.

My two boyfriends before him were tall and in shape with nice faces but both had been a little chubby before. They liked my boobs a normal amount and were relieved my body wasn't perfect.

This guy in question, my now ex for months, has always been chubby. Out of shape guys for some reason seem to be the worst judges. I guess maybe because they can't appreciate the amount of work that goes into maintaining my body. I don't sweat it over gaining two pounds because I know how easy it is to burn it off and workout to enjoy life not to be perfect. So guys who also workout I guess maybe know this too. I gained 8 lbs dating my ex because I stressed out about never looking good enough in a bathing suit. I just see guys on here talk bad about boobs all day which makes it worse.
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Wild_dude999

+1 y
Well... Why not tell the mean out of shape guy that he looks like shit? Assuming they are doing it to you?
Asker

+1 y
Well he knew he was out of shape but either way I'm not a cruel person. I can count the number of cruel things I've done on one hand and all were before I was 18.

I accept almost everyone as they are so I don't have an arsenal of insults loaded and waiting but even if I did it isn't my instinct to use them. I've known from an early age that words do indeed hurt more than sticks and stones and are harder to recover from.

It is just counterproductive to return the spit fire and once words are out you can't take them back. I could never say such harsh words to someone Yet alone someone I care for.

I've only ever had three men talk to me this way all exes but a small portion of the guys I've dated overall. Sure I could hurt them but that isn't me and I'd regret it. I've never wanted to be a person that makes someone else's life worse.

Answer 45

Asker

I'm not exactly a glutton for punishment. I'm pretty but y boobs aren't perfect so guys are always disappointed even though I've been to several surgeons that tell me I don't need a breast lift. All they can do is make my areola smaller but they tell me they aren't too big. I'm just tired of letting q guy judge me all the time.

Answer 46

Wild_dude999

Does his body look like it belongs on the cover of a fitness magazine? (I really doubt it). Does he have a 8 inch cock?, probably doubtful too.

Answer 47

Asker

No of course not and I liked him the more for it. Somehow I find that men who are reasonably good looking and tall are less judgement all about my body than guys who are very far from perfect bodies.

My two boyfriends before him were tall and in shape with nice faces but both had been a little chubby before. They liked my boobs a normal amount and were relieved my body wasn't perfect.

This guy in question, my now ex for months, has always been chubby. Out of shape guys for some reason seem to be the worst judges. I guess maybe because they can't appreciate the amount of work that goes into maintaining my body. I don't sweat it over gaining two pounds because I know how easy it is to burn it off and workout to enjoy life not to be perfect. So guys who also workout I guess maybe know this too. I gained 8 lbs dating my ex because I stressed out about never looking good enough in a bathing suit. I just see guys on here talk bad about boobs all day which makes it worse.

Answer 48

Wild_dude999

Well... Why not tell the mean out of shape guy that he looks like shit? Assuming they are doing it to you?

Answer 49

Asker

Well he knew he was out of shape but either way I'm not a cruel person. I can count the number of cruel things I've done on one hand and all were before I was 18.

I accept almost everyone as they are so I don't have an arsenal of insults loaded and waiting but even if I did it isn't my instinct to use them. I've known from an early age that words do indeed hurt more than sticks and stones and are harder to recover from.

It is just counterproductive to return the spit fire and once words are out you can't take them back. I could never say such harsh words to someone Yet alone someone I care for.

I've only ever had three men talk to me this way all exes but a small portion of the guys I've dated overall. Sure I could hurt them but that isn't me and I'd regret it. I've never wanted to be a person that makes someone else's life worse.

Answer 50

KDA20

Master

That sounds dreadful - I would give relationship careful thought and if it ended I would not let an ex's poisoned view damage any future relationship.

Answer 51

idkwtftoputhere | 682 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

yeah, my tits are small and not as perky as I'd like so it's all good. At least he's being honest.

Answer 52

LyssaNicole

Xper 5

I'd probably be crazy self conscious of my tits if s guy ever said that to me!! I'm sure I would get naked in front of another guy but I'd be more shy about it! Hopefully that never happens to me 🙈

Answer 53

ISaidFuryNotFurry

Xper 4

That was really rude an insensitive of him. I do hope you get over it though.

Answer 54

Anonymous

Sure. Just because one didn't like them, doesn't mean no one else would like them.

Answer 55

trumpetplayerforlife | 122 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Tell him then maybe I should ask your best guy friend why he thinks of them

Answer 56

rgb008 | 4.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I'd be very hurt by that lol. But I would get over it.

Answer 57

Anonymous

It's not like he told you that you have a small dick

BelleGirl21

+1 y
It kind of is...
Opinion Owner

+1 y
@BelleGirl21 not really. Different men like different breasts or really all different kinds of breasts.

No women like shrimp dick.

Not even close to the same.
Asker

+1 y
Boobs are part of your life even with clothes on everyone can see them. I hate boobs they get in the way and are ridiculous. Sleeping, running whatever it is I always resent having boobs.
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Opinion Owner

+1 y
What does that have to do with different men's opinions of your breasts?

Answer 58

BelleGirl21

It kind of is...

Answer 59

Opinion Owner

@BelleGirl21 not really. Different men like different breasts or really all different kinds of breasts.

No women like shrimp dick.

Not even close to the same.

Answer 60

Asker

Boobs are part of your life even with clothes on everyone can see them. I hate boobs they get in the way and are ridiculous. Sleeping, running whatever it is I always resent having boobs.

Answer 61

Opinion Owner

What does that have to do with different men's opinions of your breasts?

Answer 62

llorando | 556 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I'd never tell my girlfriend her boobs are ugly no matter what size or how they looked.

Answer 63

ThatBritishLad | 586 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Tell him he's got ugly bollocks. That'll show him.

Asker

+1 y
Bollocks are meant to be ugly. I suppose the equivalent is telling him he has a small dick. But I don't greet an insult with more insult.
ThatBritishLad

+1 y
What, so they're ugly for evolutionary purposes? That's news to me
Asker

+1 y
Nah but it's only size that matters for balls.

Answer 64

Asker

Bollocks are meant to be ugly. I suppose the equivalent is telling him he has a small dick. But I don't greet an insult with more insult.

Answer 65

ThatBritishLad

What, so they're ugly for evolutionary purposes? That's news to me

Answer 66

Asker

Nah but it's only size that matters for balls.

Answer 67

RaggaMon | 300 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

I couldn't get over it.

Answer 68

fulloflife

Explorer

I'd say his balls are so ugly

Could you get over your boyfriend telling you you have ugly tits?

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