Are girls who go clubbing girlfriend material?

[WpCurious]

If read a lot of post where guys claim girls who go clubbing are not girlfriend material. I think that's a load of BS! I love to go clubbing, I like having a good time with my friends, that does not mean I get wasted AF or is all over every single guy, making out with a different guy every night. I don't even pay attention to anyone except the people I am with. I can then say that guys who play video games is not dating material? But I won't, because I won't judge whether someone is boyfriend material based on something he likes doing that I might not. (I LOVE Video games, is just an example). I'll base that on how he treats me and whether he respects me and I can have fun with him.

I would like to know why a girl is not girlfriend material is she likes going out to a club?

[redeyemindtricks]

The people who say that have probably never even set foot in a nightclub. I mean, they seem to think that nightclubs are these dens of rampant iniquity and bacchanalia. Good little girls enter them, and, by last call, they've turned into promiscuous slutty slutfaces.

I mean, they actually seem to think that. For real.

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Girl, you and I know that a club is just a place to go hang out, and then leave with the same friends you went with. The only differences are, there's cool music and screen shows, we get to dress proportionally more awesome, and it's actually socially acceptable to TALK IN OUR OUTSIDE VOICES like I do all the time, all day, every day anyway. LOL
Right?
Clubs are places to get all dressed up, and hang out with yr friends, and dance a little bit, and make awkward decisions about "100% certain pain of wearing heels all night vs. 20% chance of stepping on glass if barefoot". They're fun.

Sure, sometimes people get drunk and make poor life decisions, but, that doesn't happen any more often than it does anywhere else.

In fact, tbh it probably happens less often.
I mean, I can't speak for all women, but, when I was your age and single? When I'd get all dolled up and dressed up, my standards would go way the hell up right along with all that stuff. Way less likely to hook up with random boys, I was. You'd have had a better chance at me if you'd met me in the grocery store.
Ya know?

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Don't listen to the haters. They're just being ignorant haters.

When my daddy'll take our kids for the night, my husband and I STILL go clubbing, and we're ≈twice yr age. Yep, I'm just not wife material. <3

[WpCurious]

I totally love your answer. I was latterly reading this and nodding my head in agreement with every thing you said. My parents raised someone with standards and I know my own self worth and respect myself. A guy will have to be damn lucky if I say one word to him if he's a stranger.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah tx babes. IKR? If we could just take the confidence that women have in clubs and, like, radiate it out into the rest of the world... well, there'd be a lot more confident women walking around, out there. LOL

I mean, it's all about the attitude you bring to stuff. Like anything else in life really.
One of my girlfriends, her husband is a real quiet type who genuinely doesn't like clubs. He'd prefer a good book and a glass of port, tbh. But, we'll bring him out with us, and... the way that man looks at his wife, when she's all dressed up to go out? I swear, I don't think he even knows there's anyone else there. It's awesome.

And it's loud enough that he doesn't even have to keep making conversation! See, everyone wins. lol

I mean, if you encounter these sorts of haters irl, just ask them if they've ever actually been to a club! If not, they might just need you to explain the stuff I wrote up there, to wash away these weird misunderstandings.

[WpCurious]

Thank you so much... I just didn't think it was fair to judge all girls just because some can't behave... and I don't think guys are in a position to judge us at all. But thank you so much for you opinion. I enjoyed reading it very much, and I'll definitely keep you points in mind whenever I come across another hater.

[redeyemindtricks]

No probs! And glad if it helps you pass the good word along. Sometime people just don't spend enough time trying to explain things. (:

Babe, people will ALWAYS judge groups of people by the lowest common denominator. Racial groups, gender groups, job fields, friend groups, you name it, there'll be haters who seize on the bad stuff. Unfortunately, it's human nature. Don't fight hate with hate. Fight it with an open and reasonable mind.

I mean, we do it as often as boys do it. Just earlier today on here, for instance, there was this: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1891201-whats-wrong-with-men
Exact same thing, other way around. Don't be afraid to call out other girls on it, just as well as you'd call out boys.

Tx again for yr kind words about my comments. <3

[ConsultantIsBack]

Agree!

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for MHLuv <3

[Darkfairie17]

Here's to having an open mind! :D

I completely agree with you. Women who go clubbing are just as good of dating material as anyone else. Just because someone enjoys dancing with their friends, doesn't mean they get super wasted and go home with everyone they see.

What make someone dating material is that they exist. There is a lid for every pot (has anyone else heard this analogy?) I really like that analogy. Because I feel like it rings true.

Even serial murderers in prison get married. So no one can tell me that it's impossible for a girl who loves clubbing to find a boyfriend or even a husband if that's what she wants or a girlfriend.

I feel like the only people who say that either aren't compatible with that type of person or have a closed mind.

It's okay to not want a girlfriend who clubs. Someone who clubs would be a better match for someone else who likes to go out. To me that seems reasonable.

[9mfeo]

God forbid women be seen in public without a chaperone. Whatever is this world coming to?

You mean to tell me you have left your house without a guardian after DARK? The scandal!

You're absolutely ruined now, my dear. Good luck finding a husband to take you off of your parents' hands.

-the largest of the eyerolls-

[AleDeEurope]

I don't mind if a girl goes out clubbing, she will lose the "girlfriend material" status if she likes to get wasted, twerks on every guy, makes out with several guys, and ends up going home with at least one every time she's out clubbing. I don't like that type of attitude on a girl I wanna make my girlfriend.
But if she's just there to dance with some friends, meet new people, and have a few drinks, then I'm totally fine with that.

I think most guys here when they say a girl that goes clubbing isn't girlfriend material, imagine the first scenario, the wasted easy/promiscuous girl.

[AleDeEurope]

Thanks for he MHO

[Bandit74]

Guys who also like to go clubbing would probably consider them relationship material but personally I dont.

Im not going to date whose idea of a good time is to get shit faced drunk and grind her ass on a strangers dick.

As an introvert our interest/personalitjes are incomoatible, also I do think girls who ho clubbing are on average more promiscuous than girls who dont and I do think they are more likely to cheat. So iverall I wouldn't feel comfotable gettjng seriously involved with a party girl.

[WpCurious]

I get it, girls with a more outgoing personality are more risky, and everybody have their own taste in the type of people they date.

[Bandit74]

I'm open to dating an outgoing girl, just not one who goes clubbing.

[jb12358]

Sounds like you go to some terrible clubs

[Bandit74]

@jb12358
isn't getting drunk and grinding (dryhumping) pretty much standard at most clubs?

[jb12358]

Ehm.. No

[7121uc]

You can go to clubs and still be girlfriend material. I think the guys that say such statements are talking about the girls behavior in clubs and other social events. I remember when I would go to clubs there were women that would get so drunk and they would act so annoying. For example, they would start cursing at guys if you accidentally bump into them, start making out with women and men, and dance like strippers. There are many women, especially young women, that feel that they can act like annoying bitches when they are 18-23 and feel like they deserve serious and responsible men when they are 25. So what those guys are saying is that if you ate going to act like an annoying bitch when you are young you should not demand a serious mature guy when you are close to being 30.

[tzdc21]

Nope she is not girlfriend material. Going out and partying at places specifically designed to meet people of the opposite gender with alcohol involved is not conducive to someone who is in a long term relationship. And it's even more pronounced for women because you exist and the guys come to you. So knowing that, and knowing that clubs are a place where infidelity tends to happen a lot, and where people are always looking for a hookup, I would not be okay with my girlfriend going to bars or clubs, especially if she wears revealing clothing. And is she wants to, she's single. I'm not gonna stop her but I'm not gonna tolerate that behavior for a long term partner.

[Phoenix98]

I'm not going to say they aren't but you won't find people like you around here we don't have *clubbers* here, used to though.

But I can see why people wouldn't want to be with clubbing girls, dancing around with lots of strange people (mostly guys) and drinking, easy to fall off the wagon and not be trustworthy and party girls aren't good for people who don't want that kind of life style.

[ConsultantIsBack]

YAAASSSS

This website is full of asperger basement dwellers with halo n pizza stains, so disregard them since their opinion doesn't count. Post-uni nightclubs are fantastic to meet people. Dancing is fun and u can have an assurance that mostly/only fun people go there (except the weird dudes ofc, but they way noticeable). I met my girlfriend at a club

✌

[ArtDent]

Lol just everyday people here bro

[nohomobrah]

Aspergers basement dweller crew checking in.

[ConsultantIsBack]

@nohomobrah u not one of them m5+3

[UtopianLobotomy]

lol Not everyone here is like that bro, I've lived more than most people unfortunately.

I'm jaded as hell. You aren't going to find relationship material at a club bro, one of you are gonna quit on the other pretty soon, even if you have a kid together, which is sad.

[ConsultantIsBack]

@UtopianLobotomy oh ya we've talked. You are very jaded and bitter about women. Which is unfortunate that things happened in your life.

[UtopianLobotomy]

We probably have talked on here, yeah I'm not bitter with women thanks a huge generalization, I'm more bitter with myself and the world's power elite social engineers. I've been an ass in the past - and I've made stupid decisions, but I'm worried about the kids, I just want to help people not make the same mistakes I and people I know have. When the government / or someone else besides dad steps in and becomes dad to kids today its a losing situation that is sad, no one wins.

[aficionado]

You are certainly girlfriend material. Nothing wrong with partying, I do that occasionally as well.

But girls who 'sleep around' in the name of partying, are the ones who aren't girlfriend material.

[WpCurious]

I get that... no guy wants to date a drunk-slutty girlfriend. I guess the whole statement just upset me because I know I am one hell of a great girlfriend even if I do like clubbing.

[aficionado]

I can understand. It has happened to me as well, in a different way. I don't fit into the societal norms because I don't smoke, don't drink alcohol and am a vegetarian, although I would never impose my choices on a potential partner. Due to this, most people write me off because they think I'm a 'boring' person, without knowing that my lifestyle choices have nothing to do with how interesting or boring I am. :(

[Mesonfielde]

... yeah, I can see why people would make that generalization. I can't really comprehend the people who do enjoy that kind of thing, at all. The whole concept reviles me. So many unknown, untrustworthy, intoxicated people, loud music that you don't even like... Ugh.

[CoolSky01]

and then we are blamed because we dont really want to date such girls... go figure

[WpCurious]

I think it's just a difference in taste. I, in fact, love the music and the whole scene, and I go with a lot of friends so it's not that I'm ever really associating with other people, except if it is someone my friends know.

[LoseMyself]

In relation to her spending time around other men perhaps? Or a reference to not spending the time with a partner instead?

The writer could have been an introvert.

I don't agree with the concept that a clubbing girl is not girlfriend material, those were just guess of what they may have meant.

[WpCurious]

That makes sense. But I know myself, and when in a relationship I most definitely tune down on the clubbing, but when I do go out, my boyfriend will always come along and he doesn't even have to worry about other guys because he knows that I don't socialize with guys in a club.

[John_Doesnt]

The most important thing in a relationship is trust, says every study, magazine and TV show.
Guys don't trust a girl who goes to a club, drinks and dances.

[WpCurious]

Girls don't trust guys that goes... well... anywhere. If a person wants to cheat, they'll find a way, they don't need to go to a club to do that. And about the drinking and dancing, it seems like girls are not allowed to let their hair down every once in a while. I just think it's a double standard, and I really don't like it. I do not have the personality that I want to impress everyone and come across as something that I am not. If someone does not accept me the way I am, I'll hold the door for them on their way out.

[John_Doesnt]

And I'm sure that most guys are leaving at some point.

[WpCurious]

LOL... You sure know nothing.

[CoolSky01]

Why are you mad? yes guys would rather avoid girls who go clubbing , its not exactly ladylike and most of these girls end up doing regretful things, i personally would never date a girl who goes clubbing , i've heard lots of stories, dozens of stories of what girls do and dont do at clubs and let me tell you this , it is not any guys dream.

No need to be mad if you like clubbing then for the most part , Do it no one can stop you , but yes men do not like dating girls who go clubbing.

[WpCurious]

People only tell the negative stories about girls who act slutty because those are the juicy stories to tell. If clubbing is not very ladylike, then I guess I am not a lady, but I'd rather be unladylike and enjoy my life, than be the proper lady who does nothing except what society expects of her.

[CoolSky01]

if you are mad i understand but at least up your game and tell me some reasonable things... i mean you dont want to be ladylike but you want to enjoy life? you are mad cause we dont go fo girls who club but then you tell say this , iam not getting what you are trying to say?

I gave my honest answer , iam yet to see a girl who goes clubbing, doesn't drink a lot, doesn't touch/get touched a lot by guys, doesn't sleep around or do anything regretful, that simply doesn't happen otherwise there is no reason to go to a club , people go there to touch, get touched and go back home with someone , you argue that you dont do that , but think about it , how many guys have you kissed, touched , hugged, groped and grinded on? and how many guys have done the same to you? if you truly go to a club and you dont do any of that , dont drink, dont dance or anything then no point in going to a club.

[9mfeo]

What's a more "ladylike" pursuit? Knitting socks for the troops and Bible study before bed at 8 pm? Get real.

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo a lady does not put herself in a situation where she is touching other guys/being touched constantly , i've been to clubs and didn't like it, and i understand from your comment that you've done everything i mentioned above , you are free to live your life the way you want , but you can't force me or anyone to like what you , that is a luxury no one has

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo and it doesn't help that the 5-6 times i've been to clubs all the attractive and semi attractive girls were making out with someone at the end of the night and those who werent , were lesbians... iam not even joking thats how clubs work and i've been to clubs on two different contents

[9mfeo]

Sure you have, honey. Sure you have.

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo thats fine make fun of me idont care i got used to girls trying to change the subject whenever they see themselves losing , so i know iam winning.

[9mfeo]

Your version of ladylike is a woman who doesn't like to be touched. I doubt you'll have a satisfying marriage.

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo actually on the contrary i did find girls like that and they were absolutly perfect and ladylike, my ideal woman does not allow random men to touch her, if you want to live that life no one is stopping you but please stay away.

[9mfeo]

Oh, you're from Israel. That explains the ass-backwardness.

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo were more open minded that you just not into BS

[9mfeo]

With "values" from the prehistoric era? Yeah, no.

"A woman that allows men to touch her is a prostitute! God, I cannot be seen with such loose women! But do you think she'd let me fuck her?" ---> you

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo dont quote things that dont exist i never said that.

now you know nothing about us so dont start talking shit , and i know a lot about you in fact i've met a lot candadians, know lots of people who live there and know many guys who there for a quick visit , got laid like crazy and got back , it really says it all there is not need to tell lies or talk shit i tell it the way it is , we value family and good girls which is apperantly something you dont.

[9mfeo]

Lol I love when people from the third world get uppity. Bless.

[CoolSky01]

@9mfeo Third world? if you have google use it , you buy stuff from us...

also we can argue all day but a the end neither will change out mind so just accept that men dont like girls who go clubbing and i will accept that you dont accept that , if you dont like it you are free to go annoy another guy there are lots of guys on here who share the same ideals as me

[Maxemeister]

Lol sorry to interrupt the argument but we buy things from EVERYONE, good sir

[CoolSky01]

@Maxemeister lol she's candaian , and she just changed her country to nothing

[Maxemeister]

Excuse et moi?

What did she do? Canada has not been reduced to nothing

Canada is our frieeendddddsssss

[CoolSky01]

@Maxemeister canda's cool i like it , but sometimes some people make it look bad

[Maxemeister]

Who made it look bad then?

[CoolSky01]

@Maxemeister if you scroll up you'll see that iwas discussing girls who go clubbing then out of no where she called me and everyone i know prehistoric freaks or something and went on to talk shit about me and my country even though its not exactly a secret that its a firs world country

[Maxemeister]

Israel is a first-world country? R u sure about that good sir?

[CoolSky01]

@Maxemeister pretty sure my friend , google it , www.nationsonline.org/oneworld/first_world.htm
www.numbeo.com/.../rankings_by_country.jsp

health care system ranks 27 worlwide, life quality 23, most papers and educated people per capita and second after usa with startup companies not to mention a world leader in green energy, and lots invetions come from here , and its very expensive and the life is similiar if not better than some western countries i would like think yes it is

[WpCurious]

Are you serious? You think that all girls go to the club to be touched and grinded and at the end of the night end up in bed with some random guy... I don't think that you have any idea what goes through a girls mind if a random guy touches her. I sure as hell don't let any stranger touch me and I don't get bitchy if they do, I just move a way. I do absolutely not grind any person, my friends and I still know how to dance without it having to look like we're about to tear each others clothes of. And I have never gone home with any guy after a night out. So please, just because what you experienced was the worst scenario ever, don't insult every other girl who genuinely just go to the club because she wants to have a great time with her friends. And yes I do drink, I am allowed to drink, and I know how to take care of myself, I don't get shitfaced that I don't remember what happened the previous night, so I don't see anything wrong with it.

[CoolSky01]

why are you having a hard time dealing with the fact that lots of guys dont think girls who go clubbing are girlfriend material? i just told you my side of the story the way i know it and how every guy i know tells it to me and yet you are trying to make us wrong and bad for having a different standard from you , go date some guy who likes your way of life but keep away from those who dont why are you making so hard for everyone

[WpCurious]

I don't mind that you have a different standard from me... I just don't like that you have this great believe that every girl who is out going is some sort of slut.. because it's not true. But anyway, I'm done with this conversation. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

[CoolSky01]

you're welcome i have my opinions and you have yours

[Under_The_Sun]

Oh just say 'screw you' to all those dorky losers who are bitter and resentfull because they were rejected their whole lifes and thought they found their 'outcast paradise' here in GaG.

Certainly, they mistook it for Sluthate, Redpill or some stupid shit like that.

[UtopianLobotomy]

why the hate

[UtopianLobotomy]

A good majority of them would definitely not be.

It depends on how often.
If they go because a lot of friends go.
And what their intentions are when they go.

[madhatters4]

they certainly can be. i mean unless they are in the club acting promiscuous then it may be an issue but just going to a club a lot doesn't mean they can't be girlfriend material

[thorthorley]

I agree. People always stereotype people or put them into categories or label them. Its all bullshit and you dont really know someone until you get to know them.

[Anonymous]

it might be someone else's girlfriend material. not mine though. she just is not intelligent and spiritual enough for me. if i wanted an easy lay with some semi-dumb chick i'd go to clubs.

[WpCurious]

semi-dumb? LOL... definitely not dumb, but thanks. I liked the first part, I understand that girls who go to clubs are not everyone's cup of tea. But don't insult us by calling us dumb. O. O

[Opinion Owner]

i know no girl of greater than 140 IQ that goes frequently or at all to clubs. but yes i get your point and i apologise.

[bdbee]

Ya... just because you go clubbing doesn't mean you're not girlfriend material. Not having control of your life, makes you non-relationship material.

[SarahsSummer]

Im not really into the club scene anymore but that's an absurd claim. My opinion is only married women are not girlfriend material.

[justbanANNAz]

lol! I'm pretty sure u can go to clubs and still be girlfriend material. i reckon as long as u aren't coming off as easy u should b fine.

[CHARismatic110]

I don't really do the club scene anymore, but yeah I don't get why people say that either. I enjoy dancing and that's why I used to go. It's fun.

[RedThread]

I don't say that. I'm not a partier though so we might be fundamentally different on that level. I don't really dance or drink or anything like that. I wouldn't reject a woman who enjoys clubbing.

[Rockie4u]

They are out learning how to have fun and sowing their wild oats so they can settle down with you. Go for them. They are the wildest ones around. They will teach u!