One of my friends he's not particularly unattractive but he's very, very average and he always seems to go for extremely attractive girls and its fine to go for a girl that you find attractive but if the girl you find attractive is also attractive to 100s and 1000s of other guys and they're lining up for her too, then there's a problem. I think he has this nerd to hot girl fantasy, think Shia and Megan Fox transformers or Penny and Leonard, big bang. He thinks some hot girl is going to walk into his life and think it's sexy that he plays Xbox all day and has watched every star wars episode a thousand times and that's fine but when it doesn't work out that way, he comes crying to me that he can't find love and yet he keeps chasing these girls ! And they either use him or reject him. He's my friend I'll be there for him but it's getting ridiculous with the moaning and whining about how he can't find love and yet he's only looking for superficial things. Why do guys do this?
Most Helpful Guy
superficial things? attraction is not superficial. you never know. im pretty average maybe a bit above, and I've landed a couple of 10s. if you told me that i was only worth a 5 so i should only date 5s i would say "ok so im not going to date at all." the only reason he would get upset over it is if he believes that he is worth that.
and why wouldn't he. society preaches that you should find someone who loves you for you. he hasn't realized you have to completely change yourself to be attractive to women. and he hasn't realized that love isn't all about some random connection that you'll finally meet this person who loves you for you. thats what disney and society preaches so thats what most people believe. he hasn't realized what it is women value yet.
but even then. there are still hot girls that play xbox all day.
but its not a male only thing. many, many western women have a HUGELY inflated sense of self worth. so many looking for "prince charming". to the extent that a woman who is a 5 gets with a 9 in her 20s then thinks he's below her then they end up losing value quickly 35 onward having turned down many great men because they thought they were worth more only to have to settle for a 4 or 6 when their biological clock starts exploding. this is quite a common thing. mmm. well at least it isn't *uncommon*.
my question to you is why do you think this is a male trait?0
Most Helpful Girl
Because he's shallow. That's his fault for making poor choices and being shallow.1