I'm 19 and I like older men is that weird?

Question

I'm asking because many times I've heard of other woman liking older men people say they just have daddy issues. So I'm a bit hesitant of embracing it.

Rawrzz · Accepted Answer

The average age preferred by all males is 22. That means 80 year old men are most attracted to 22 year old women, because 22 year old women are at the height of their health and fertility. 50, 60, 70: all are most attracted to 22 year old women, physically.

It's the same with women, but reversed. The most preferred age of females is 35 or something. I forget the exact number. But no, it's not weird. It's very normal. Women naturally seek out males who have proven themselves capable of surviving and providing for themselves. Typically, this means older men.

We're the same humans that existed 20,000 years ago. Just with more knowledge. That means our instincts are 20,000 years old. And back then, it was really important for women to find a strong, capable male who had established himself and proven that he was capable of surviving to an older age. So it's more natural than weird.

Haven't you seen it around your friends? Females typically date men older than them, at least by a couple years. Males typically date women younger than them, at least by a couple years. But it's still fairly common that males and females date with a significantly bigger age gap. Hell, my mom is 9 years younger than my dad. They married when she was 19, and he was 28. I'm sure that's pretty common with a lot of people's parents.

Now. If you're saying you're attracted to like 60 year old men, yeah, that's kind of weird.

thetundrawolf · Accepted Answer

No, it isn't. As this society and this world runs towards oblivion, men are becoming more shallow. Wanting maturity, decisiveness, and a guy who knows what he wants rather than the 30 somethings with the pre pubescent mentality of sex sex sex is admirable. Don't settle, but don't let any man touch your body sexually unless he's put in the time to get to know and love you, and wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

You want someone who will take charge and be there for you, while honoring you. Many men just want innocent women, or younger woman, because many women today are jaded, angry, and cruel, it is partly their fault for letting a man sleep with them before he put his dues in, and partly the guy's fault for only wanting sex above her heart and spirit and everything else.

It will happen, but don't let anyone take advantage of you. If you deny a man sex before marriage and he leaves, guess what, all he truly wanted was just sex. But if he sticks around, there's a possibility he will give you his heart, too, and in turn, you must give him yours as well. Guard your heart, be careful out there.

Luminifera · Accepted Answer

You know, there's this handy rule to see what ages are appropriate/not creepy for you to date. It goes like this:
half your age + 7
Since you're 19, it would be good to not date anyone younger than 16 (9+7). How to find out your upper limit, though? Simple:
double (your age - 7)
So, if you're 19, your upper limit should be 24 (12 times 2).

What do you think?

Adaeze97 · Accepted Answer

Not at all, I'm 19 as well and I started dating my ex when he was 32 and I was 18. He thought I was in my early 20s and I thought he was around 25.
One of my celebrity crushes is Vladislav Doronin 😍
My friends tease me about having daddy issues but they know I'm just mature for my age.

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Fearless_banana · Answer

When you say older what do you mean? I'm personally I'm turning 23 soon.. I'd feel weird to date a girl that is 18(I know you're 19 it's just a comparison). I think any guy who dates significantly lower during those years of that drastic that maturity gap have a lot of issues. I'll always be attracted to younger girls and down to hook up with them but as far as dating.. that's another story entirely. Then again my parents are 7 years a part and they are happily married so I guess it's just different for everyone. I'd just take caution when you start dating past mid twenties.. you'll realize how weird and what losers are actually out there lol. Like I said I've notice that most guys who date much younger girls like that usually have a lot emotional issues and shit.. not all there. You're aren't fully developed and matured yet so you might not be able to notice the red flags. That's why these older guys prey on the young ones.. they are naive and innocent. They don't know better.

SüßeJäger · Answer

No, I think you're smart. I dated a girl that was 18 when I was 30 for over a year. We actually met a year ealier before she was legal but we didn't do anything but talk and text some. Her brother was a good friend of mine and I was at their house weekly. Everyone knew that we liked each other but for her sake we didn't go out or anything at all until she was 18 and out of high school. She was one of the most mature women I have ever dated and it was one of my favorite relationships and guess what, we never had sex. She wanted to wait for marriage and she was worth waiting for in my mind. I don't care about age, I care about maturity, intelligence and a kind heart. There's many benefits to dating older guys. It's actually not that uncommon for girls to like guys 8-12 years older or older in some cases. Good for you, don't settle and be picky. It will pay off in the long run.

FakeName123 · Answer

It is not uncommon - but girls wanting as big an age difference as you say are often seeking for that for the sole reason of someone having charge. Its less about the maturity level, but more about feeling safe and secure and being lead... which often hints to own shortcomings that you want to get compensated.

Personally I think 3-8 years older for the guy is perfect - everything beyond seems to be too much.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Older men have their shit together, finances in order, hobbies, been through relationships, both ups and downs so they know what to do. Buuuuut there are downsides like the one you mentioned above and a few others.
Personally i understand the drawing to older men, guys my and your age can be... pretty generic in terms of emotional stability, finances and relationship experience. All of which certainly comes off as not all that great. Where as those benefits are added on to older men.
Males our age that are mature like that are few and far between, still around but few. One of those pluses i can think of dating a guy our age is growing together, rather than learning from the older gent.

JudgmentDay · Answer

You can like whomever and however older they are. It's just what you like and what you prefer, and so therefore forget about what others think or feel about how you feel or think, because you can't control them anyway.

onthelist · Answer

Nope im the same way. And yeah the comments and psychological diagnosises of what friends think is 'wrong' with you is highly annoying but try to ignore it

Dionysos · Answer

Out doesn't matter what we think. My sister married an older man and they're great for each other.  It's your life. Live it however you want as long as you're not harming anyone else.

JustChilling · Answer

People like to label everything. While some younger woman have issues, not all do. Your just part of a minority of women who likes older guys, perfectly normal in my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

Not weird when I was your age I used older men for money

I never slept with them but I made them believe I actually liked them ha ha

Older guys are sicker
I had those losers buying me Victoria Secret, gucci, armani, true religion, going to restaurants and stuff

Now I date men in their 20s or younger
I prefer younger men because they are more fun and they tend to look better and last longer

akadatank44 · Answer

Nah its actually normal and goes back a long ways. Older men like younger women cuz of perky breasts and better for child bearing and younger women like older men for the strength and stability.

Daddy issues are a whole different topic

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all! In fact, my boyfriend is 3 years older than me. I like to see it as age is nothing but a number. Just because you may be a certain age doesn't mean you're stereotyped into acting the same way other people your age do. Most likely you have a high maturity level and tend to favor men who act as you do.

Anonymous · Answer

my dad is great to me and i sitll like older ( not more than 10 years gap though) its not always money or daddy issues  they are just more mature generally  in my opinion at least

ThisDudeHere · Answer

To me it is weird. I find it kind of disgusting if someone likes people way older than them. I mean, six or so years may still be ok. But a decade or two? C'mon...

BellePepper · Answer

You need to look at situations like that and ask if it's really a good thing for you. Like I may really want an extra large fries but is it really something that's good for me? Probably not.

Naughtygirlishere · Answer

Nope it's not weird at all I myself likes older guys as well lol

GingerGuy · Answer

I think it's quite common with women your age. The guys are more mature/confident and know what they want in life generally. I'm guessing that's the attraction for you anyway?

Jxpxtxr · Answer

Obviously you like what you like but if you exclusively date/hook up with 40 or 50yos that just screams daddy issues tbh..

Stppguy · Answer

It looks sick. When you get the best years of sexuality, his will be died out. I think age must be close. Otherwise, it makes generation conflicts. Also it looks like paedophile. I hate it.

abundantlyrich · Answer

Is this just a thought or you've actually met older men that you are attracted to?

anonman32 · Answer

well men who love older women dont have mommy issues so why not?

Iron_Man · Answer

I see a lot of women in there early 20's dating older men

ThePetSquirrel · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it, it's just your preference.

Polocrew · Answer

Do you like em because they have way less options and won't end up cheating on u banging every other chick? Lol

Anonymous · Answer

I'm the same age and I like older guys. How much older are we talking here?

Anonymous · Answer

How old are we talking about here, your daddy's age?

PersianPrincessss · Answer

No I like older man as well

mustacheguy · Answer

nothing weird about it

Anonymous · Answer

The guy I like is 6 years older.

gobsmacked3 · Answer

no, many younger women like us older men

Decentguy · Answer

well your not the only one

bcromartie · Answer

Boringly average.

adamski24 · Answer

No it's not weird

Anonymous · Answer

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