The fact that he is your boyfriends makes him be kind of obligated to do it, but the fact that you are putting tht psychological pressure on him is kind of wrong too.. maybe he forgets to buy you gifts and such, maybe he is not the type of guy you want him to be, the one that buys gifts every now and then... Im that kind of guy too, i often forget about it and go more with the spending time together approach, forgetting that most women want gifts.
I dont know, talk to him in a subtle way but dont judge him, dont make him feel as if he is a bad boyfriend just because he doesn't buy you gifts or whatever.
I recently was in a similar situation but im the one considered cheap... please give me an asnwer here
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If you want to know how someone feels about you, ignore their words and look at their actions. How behavior tells you what is the priority in his life. This is something that you won't change in him. Try, if you must, but don't expect results. If you don't want to love like this the rest of your life, find a new boyfriend.
No you shouldn't feel bad but its something you and your boyfriend need to communicate about, its about the effort and both parties need to be constantly working at their relationship or else you will hit a plateau, which is fine for some people, but others want to feel appreciated and loved most of the time.
Straight up talk to him about it and question why he's acting like that, maybe he could be planning a surprise for you? Or saving up money? It's okay to feel bad just make sure ypu ask him about it.
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Inviting you on a date that he couldn't afford doesn't seem logical. However just because you view him as having money doesn't mean that's how he views himself. He has money to save, not spend. Does he have a house? Car? Everything he wants and needs for his home? Is he debt free with a retirement savings account and at least one years living expenses in another account? If he doesn't have ALL of these things then he does not have spending money. I know you think something small would be fine, but how does he know that?
He shouldn't have asked you to a restaurant! It would've been just as nice for him to invite you over and make you dinner at home. I wouldn't feel bad that he wasn't spending money on you (he may have a harder time with his finances than you are giving him credit for; or he may just be trying to save!). I just don't think he's handling it right. There's nothing wrong with planning dates that don't require a lot of spending. If he cares about you, I feel that's what he should be doing.
if it's important for you to get flowers and chocolates etc as a way of him sliding he cares then let him know about it. I have a similar story my former spouse recently called me cheap after age filled for divorce... yet every valentines I'd buy her rec roses and flowers, her birthday I'd get her something she'd like and flowers, holidays I'd go all out and gift her good stuff. Throughout the year I'd buy her flowers etc at random times to show her how much I appreciated her, loved her. I did struggled to make money since I moved to a city unknown so that she can study in college and get her degree degree. Long story short 6 years of college and she graduated, 6 years closer to 7 and files for divorce. I feel used.
I don't like buying flowers because they are temporary, but otherwise that's a bit harsh, especially if you do buy him gifts sometimes
So he had a change of heart.
What the H do you need flowers for? Visit someone's garden, flowers all around. Allelujah!No the guy seems like a douche, if he's not willing to pay for y'all's meal then he seems to be trying to get you to get mad at him so he can break up or avoid you. Just honesty
Here you see the women in her natural state. Money hungry and complaining.
sounds like you just want some of that romance back that you had in the beginning, when he was courting you
Do you get him any gifts or anything? If not, then don't complain
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