Is My Boyfriend Stingy?

[Anonymous]

First off, I want to say that there are good things about my boyfriend. We have good chemistry. He's funny, cute, smart, faithful and ambitious. We've only been together two months, but I've known him about a year. Now when we were dating, he was a gentleman and paid for movies, dinner, etc. He said that if we went somewhere I'd never pull my wallet out. Being independent, I always offered to pay for myself at least, which he never allowed. Now were in a relationship and I feel like I'm being starved. Lol. It's almost as if he doesn't want me to get the wrong idea that he'll support me financially. For example, we don't go anywhere anymore. He talks about going out, but we never do. If anything, I bring him food because I'm out somewhere eating and he asks. Meanwhile, he goes out with his friends to clubs and bars. Another example, we were at his moms house and she had bought pizza. His brothers asked if I wanted any and he goes "She can only have one." Even his brother thought that was harsh and offered me two slices. Third, we agreed to exchange Christmas gifts. This is the icing on the cake. Wanting to be a good girlfriend, I bought him a thoughtful, $80 gift. He loved it like I knew he would. Here we are January 7th and I still have not received a gift from my boyfriend. He's said hell take me shoe shopping but still hasn't. I told him to just buy me a gift card, which he still hasn't. It's embarrassing when friends ask what he got me. If he really wanted to buy me a gift, wouldn't he have bought one? Sigh. Not to mention the fact that he sometimes talks about how his ex got whatever she wanted from him. I don't know if I'm being punished for that but its messed up. Anyway, how do I bring this topic up without sounding like I want him to "save" me from all my finances? Am I being selfish or is he stingy?

[stubbsy]

He has become tight and lazy, and his efforts towards you are limited, he has all the good intentions, but is either to lazy to carry them out or just to tight and don't think your worth it, which in my eyes is damn nasty way of thinking, and to try and dictate to you on how many slices of pizza you have is control, but apart from all this, to not make the effort to get you something for Christmas is, THE BOTTOM, because this is him proving that you don't hit the top list, your around for his covieniences, so you really need to have a good look at this so good cute, nice guy, because is this what he is , or is that what you want him to be and have convinced yourself he is, because with what you have stated, there won't be many people praising him on here, so you need to get someone worthy of your talents, because this chump is far from worthy, and no, your not being selfish, because for a bloke to not want to treat his woman, is very gay and strange, most blokes really enjoy spending money on their woman, it makes them feel good because she feels good, so re think your type and go for a real man, good luck,x

[tex151]

This guy is beyond stingy he's what you call a dead beat loser. You don't go out to eat anymore so he makes you buy him food, he limited your pizza intake that he didn't even buy wow what a great guy. He didn't get you a gift and you bought him one, come on that is beyond low.

[Anonymous]

He's a slacker. Reeled you in good, though.

He might be ambitious, but ambition without action is delusion

[Asker]

I feared that. I hate the whole presentation of a fake self early on. Hopefully, I can talk to him and this stinginess will change. If not, his fake ass can kick rocks. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

him.. sorry if it breaks your heart but its him, if he starts off but can't finish... yeah I'm not saying dump him but sit down have a talk about it and tell him how you feel if he continues then... you can take it from there.

[Asker]

Yea, I think its him too. Sigh. I don't know how I'm going to talk to him about this. I guess ill just have to spit it out. Thanks.

[Opinion Owner]

no no no no talk to him first then split trust me a lot can happen by just a simple talk

[Asker]

Oh, I'm not going to break up with him yet. I definitely want to talk to him first. I still like him. This specific matter just annoys me.