Would you ever date someone who doesn't like music?

Question

I know this is kind of a weird question, but I'm really curious what people think about this.

Idonthaveausername · Accepted Answer

I would say that I probably wouldn't date someone who disliked music because music releases serotonin in the brain when you listen to it. If you dislike music, then there is probably something fundamentally wrong with your brain if you don't feel that release of serotonin when you listen to it. But if you are one of those people who doesn't particularly love music, but can still appreciate well-written songs and can sill go out on the weekends ad dance and have fun at a bar or club where the societal expectation is to listen to music, then I'd be fine with that. I'd be perfectly fine dating a guy who always let me listen to whatever I wanted because he had no particular preference.

I met a guy last night at a club who used that BS excuse "I like everything" when my friend asked him what kind of music he listens to. I told him this was a cop out because you either don't listen to music at all or you have a certain kind or genre that you listen to the majority of the time. If you're going to say you like listening to music, then tell me what kind you like. If that's not the kind I listen to, that's fine, but don't sit there and tell me you like all kinds equally because nobody likes all kinds equally, this conversation is going nowhere, and I probably wasn't interested in you to begin with, so you've just made it so I don't want to talk to you as a person anymore.

BrileyCat · Accepted Answer

I never thought about it. After a quick google you discover, there are people who hate music,
Including Freud lol. It's something scientists call Musical Anhedonia. Anhedonia can be
a clinical feature of depression, schizophrenia, and some other mental illnesses.
'The inability to experience pleasure from activities usually found enjoyable,
e. g. exercise, hobbies, music, sexual activities or social interactions'.
If someone I was interested in really hated music, they could have other problems too.
so . no .

Odonti · Accepted Answer

I think my vote went to the wrong one. I would say no! Music inspires a lot of my art and I could not be with someone who does not appreciate any type of art. Doesn't have to be something I would listen to, but it would have to be something that inspires them.

Jjpayne · Accepted Answer

I don't believe such a person exists, I think it is impossible. There are so many genres of music and so many ways it is used. there's music in movies (scores), video games, there is rock, pop, dance, rap, country, jazz, blues, christian, new age classical, reggae, and sub genres of them as well as many others. There is even music in church. I will believe you if they have been exposed to at least what i have listed and still do not like music. Music isn't just entertainment, it's embedded into our society. Musical chairs, dancing, national anthems, sports events,.. I could go on,,, It really baffles me, that people can make that claim. If you are such a person, I would love to hear your argument and stance.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I have played percussion instruments since age 10 and piano since age 13. I sing tenor in my church choir and I write music. Dating someone who does not appreciate music would simply not work.

ElissaDido · Answer

sure I don't care to be honest hahahah

puertoriguesa · Answer

I love music... so I can't be with someone who hates it... unless he loves art and poetry... but how can anyone dislike music? I feel like anyone who doesn't like music has no personality or may be boring! Well unless he likes art and poetry... music is a combo of art and poetry though so yeahhh

DiogoRibeiro · Answer

I don't think I'd care too much.

And, to be honest, disliking the same kind of music I dislike is more important than liking the same music I like in the long run.

If I can't stand Justin Bieber and she loves hearing it, then we'll have an issue.

Anonymous · Answer

Music is very important to me: listening, learning, writing, recording, and performing. It's not how I make a living, but I'm very serious about it. Except for professional musicians, music scholars, and people that just really know their shit, most people don't seem to consider it nearly as important as I do.

If I were dating, I couldn't rule out people who didn't consider it as important as I do; it would be very limiting if I did. Still, I couldn't date someone who was apathetic; it's too important to me. And I would doubt the humanity of someone who actively hated music.

That said, a woman who knew as much or more than me, or who was a really accomplished musician or songwriter: huge bonus points!

Anonymous · Answer

Normally i would not particularly care.
However.
I am a musician and make my living that way... and I constantly am listening to music (if not playing , my own!)
So as much as I may not care... unless he is sway-able or at least toleratea it for me, it would not work out long-term. Haha. I realize I am slightly out of the norm in my situation, but for me... music is just too big a part of my life. He would have to adapt to be able to hang around me.

Sakura99 · Answer

I want to date someone who likes music, like if u don't like music then why? I think music is a great way to connect people together so how do u connect with people cause I'm pretty sure the majority likes music

NJ_Casanova · Answer

Doesn't like Music? I couldn't... driving in a car without music is one of the easiest was to irritate me/get me in a bad mood.

I have the widest "Music taste" of anyone I know so I'm tolerable of a lot of different types.

Smmyskittles · Answer

If he doesn't mind me listening to it when I'm cleaning; I would.

My music isn't on full blast but loud enough so I can hear it while I'm doing things. Moving from room to room generally.

Now, if he has an issue with that... >.> He can put in ear plugs and deal.

Darkfairie17 · Answer

I've dated a guy in the past who didn't like music. It was okay, but I don't know if I would do that again. I love music, I like having it on in the background in my home. I like listening to music a lot. I like dancing to it and I like singing to it in the car.

So for me, music is an important part of my life. I always felt weird about listening to music near him because I knew he didn't really care for it.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I don't see why that would be an issue. It's not like we have to listen to music together. I prefer to listen to music alone with my headphones anyway.

Besides, even if she did like music, what are the odds that she likes all of the exact same genres/artists/songs as I do?

WhiteSteve · Answer

Like to the point where I couldn't listen to my music around them? That might get old after a while. I demand to be serenade by the sweet sounds of Kenny G at all times😂

Sholax · Answer

Trust me. I can make them like music. (͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

RedRobin · Answer

If they hated music to the point where they were constantly complaining about whatever music was playing or I wasn't even allowed to listen to music in the car or at a party then no. That would be incredibly annoying. If they hate music they can at least try to tolerate it.

btbc92 · Answer

I wouldn't care. As long as it don't infringes on my rights to make music. I view what I do as a lifelong career. He has his likes and I have mine. The reality is everybody won't like the same thing.

Littlett25 · Answer

Like doesn't like it at all or just doesn't care about it much?

Like I'm not a big music person but I like to jam in the car, I can't remember lyrics well or anything but I still jam lol. I probably could since it's not a big part of my life but I still will jam in the car haha

passionoflove · Answer

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miamigirl1970 · Answer

Hell to the NO!!! That is right! I am a musician. I love all kinds of music. You don't have to be into it like me, but at least like it. Music is the universal language!

TheLuckyPizzaDog · Answer

I dont care if he doesn't like music... as long as he doesn't flip a shit when I'm listening to music or singing or whatever.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

I'm a first soprano, I love to sing. My boyfriend, @TheTrueLordJ makes beats, mixing and mastering, and is in a metal band. You do the math.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Someone who doesn't like music? Does such a person exist?

Kapakani · Answer

It doesn't depend on things like that, that will determine who I would date. It's possible whatever they're into before me is subject to change, or has potential to. And also there's so much else about a persons qualities that are more interesting than some music.

But it would be weird, I must say lol.

Shangri-La · Answer

I love listening to music. I'd be ok about it if he just didn't like it, but not if he didn't want me to listen to it. I couldn't stop listening to music 😠

There's a difference between him just disliking it and wanting me to give up music cos of his dislike

Ntnrmlchck · Answer

I only say no because I can't possibly fathom someone not listening to music at all. There are so many genres that are out there, to not listen to something would make me wonder if the person had emotions at all.

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't know. i guess i could but music is a huge part of my life so it would be interesting to be with someone who doesn't like music...

that said i've never met a person alive who categorically didn't like music at all

Sunflower19 · Answer

You know... I only met one person (we dated later on) who didn't like music. It was weird. We ended things for different reasons but I couldn't connect with them when it came to music if that makes sense?

JulieXO · Answer

#I don't think music is that important. My boyfriend and I have really different tastes in music and it has never been an issue, I think it would be similar situation if he didn't like music at all

abc3643 · Answer

No, because that indicates something fundamentally flawed in their mentality. This makes the person less predictable and more dangerous in terms of functioning in society.

Felinegirl · Answer

I would date someone who doesn't care much for music. But someone who actually dislikes it... not sure. I've always been quite attracted to music fanatics, not sure if coincidental.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Considering my favorite dates involve going to concerts, i could not date someone who didn't like music. I'm not even sure if I've ever met anyone in the real world who didn't. 💟🎼

randomhobo · Answer

I don't care for music so its a yes, but at same time im aromantic so i don't really do the whole dating thing. I'd certainly be best friends with someone who doesn't care for music though.

tbm1986 · Answer

I have dated people in the past with very little interest in music and it has been a big problem. It would be something to carefully consider in the future.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Depends on how much they didn't like it. If it's to the point that they couldn't stand it then no. But if they simply didn't listen to anything in particular then by all means I'd date them.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends. Like if you don't like it to a point where I can't even play my music in the car, then that could be a problem. If your just not very interested in it. I get that.

deraz24 · Answer

I like music a lot, all kinds too and I vibe with people off music. There literally a song for every situation that people can relate to how can you not lol

Fiestyblackwidow · Answer

I love music and singing I could never be with someone that doesn't like music. Plus they would get annoyed with me because I'm always singing around the house or playing music.

falafelany1 · Answer

I couldn't. It is such a big part of my life and my family's life. I love to sing and listen to music. I have musicians in my family. I connect to songs. Nope.

colourz · Answer

Great question! I always have music playing when I drive, so no I probably wouldn't.  I'd kick her ass out and let her walk to starbucks💯💯💯

goldfinch23 · Answer

No. I like music, it's good topic for chat, it can change your mood, make you feel better, sad, kick your energy, etc. The same I expect from my partner.

Embercelica · Answer

I hardly listen to the radio so if someone doesn't like music that's why we have head phones. It's not a problem until they make it a problem.

JohnDoeJr · Answer

way more important things than whether they like music. My chances of finding someone compatible are already low, I'm not gonna lower them with BS criteria

Sadly_It_Fell_Off · Answer

No I wouldn't date someone who didn't like music. I find it an odd thing to dislike considering there are so many variations and strains of music.

awilliam360 · Answer

Sure! Doesn't mean they're not a nice person. There's a guy I've been talking to and he doesn't like cake... I know!!! Yet he is a diamond 💎

tightblackjeans · Answer

I can't imagine getting along with someone like that - I would drive them so insane practising piano that they would probably attack it with an axe!

Infynis · Answer

I personally do not like music, so it would actually be nice to not have to worry about that part of someone's personality when I can't understand it

menina · Answer

How we would be able to go out and have fun if he doesn't like music? It would be impossible. So no, I wouldn't date someone who doesn't like it.

writing_essays · Answer

I don't care about music. I like a guy who is completely against me on all political matters and some religious matters but I think he is really hot.

OrangeBoy · Answer

Well... i plan to learn music and play it... if she doesn't appreciate instrumental... i dunno...

rjroy3 · Answer

Yes I would. I don't require a woman to like the same music as me. If she doesn't like any music, then kind of the same deal lol

reptocarl · Answer

No I wouldn't and I won't date anyone that doesn't listen to rock nor will I date anyone that listens to country

alice55 · Answer

Depend, if he let me listen to music (like in the car when we're together, at the tv, etc...) yes if no then it ll not work

Unit1 · Answer

I voted I don't care but my opinion on it is, that I care so little about it. As long as music doesn't seem like a torture to them so they want none of it, I wouldn't mind.

TheTruthHurtsImSorry · Answer

Yes, music is not a big deal and should never be used as a placeholder for someone's identity or personality. They don't make the music, it's just something that they enjoy listening to.

Mesonfielde · Answer

I'd be annoyed because music is an integral element of most entertainment media, and we'd never really understand each other.

Although disliking all music is better than being a fan of Justin Bieber or some other rap garbage as of late...

MyExperience · Answer

No. besides not being able to fathom it, that would greatly reduce our dating options. Gotta love music.

Hans222 · Answer

Yeah, I'm not really a music freak either. Can enjoy a nice song but can do without :D

yoshi_wanna_ask · Answer

I don't mind as long as they don't stop me from enjoying/listening to music

coolbreeze · Answer

Yeah I would. I just wouldn't play my music around her.

MindYourEyes · Answer

I wouldn't give a shit but that means they can't go to metal shows with me XD oh well!.

Doffydood · Answer

I don't see why not. I'm not a very musical person myself. It would be refreshing to know someone that doesn't seem addicted to music :)

shadowlegend · Answer

That is like one of the least concerning factors I consider when determining if I'd date someone.

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