Fearing that I will never get a girlfriend?

[Bigman117]

I'm 19 and in college and here are reasons why girls will never give the time of day
1. I'm short 5'6 (I'll be consider a baby to women and they hate short guys even shorter girls)
2. If I showed you picture of my face you (especially girls) would say I'm ugly
3. I'm shy/socially awkward
4. I play piano but what girl would consider that a talent?
5. I'm feel like I'm too boring
6. I'm nice (not a doormat) but girls don't want nice guys
7. I'm not confident
8. I feel like a loser because of my social anxiety
9. I'm not as funny as society want us to be which would attract girls
10. I can't dance to well which means I probably won't be good in bed
So am I right that I will never get a girlfriend? What do you think?

[Anonymous]

1. A lot of girls don't care about height, me included;
2. You probably have low self esteem and undermine your looks but anyway, ugly people date all the time;
3. So am I and it's easy to ge5t better at being social. I know it's annoying when people say this because I used to be exactly in your shoes, but just go out. A lot;
4. It's a talent and a very romantic one. In general girls appreciate it. Have you watched Twilight?;
5. You're probably not. Everyone's interesting and someone who has a lot in common with you will eventually see that;
6. That's where you're wrong, girls love nice guys. But confident nice guys. I know it's hard but try and work on that;
7. Read 6;
8. I have social anxiety too and it's nothing to be ashamed of. If it's like mine, you just need a little push;
9. I really doubt that you have literally no sense of humor. Some girls probably have the same as you and will find you funny;
10. What is the correlation? I can't dance either and I think it's really cute when guys are goofy and just don't care on the dance floor. Besides, sex is like kissing, the first time might be awkward but you get better with each other.

[RJGraveyTrain]

All of the reasons why girls really won't date you:

1) You're self defeating
2) You assume we're all shallow assholes and the same by default.
3) Refer to 1 and 2.

Come on kid, enough with the poor me spiel. Stop complaining about how things will never get better, never work, that you're just DOOMED - find what you can work on, fix it, accept everything else and embrace it. Eventually somebody will come along who appreciates the fact that you're not only YOU, but somebody who is comfortable in their own skin and who OWNS it.

[egi22]

1. There are short women too.
2. I think you are too hard on yourself.
3. You can change that (I am talking from my own experience).
4. Kidding, right? This is great actually!
5. No one is too boring.
6. Keep being nice. It's good.
7. That you can change.
8. You can go over that.
9. I've never seen a chart of how funny you are supposed to be. Don't worry!
10. I don't see the link between these 2.

[matheus_mb]

1- I don't see it as a big issue, I've seen short guys with girls already
2- That's up to the girl's preferences
3- A lot of people are, it'd not decisive to be single
4- Many would, but it's not really decisive.
5- What matters is what she will think
6- Who said that? Being nice is better than being an asshole.
7- It can be worked on and improved, believe me.
8- If you think you're a lose, you will be a loser. Social anxiety makes nobody a loser.
9- Who said that guys have to be funny? People also have different things they consider funny, don't worry about it.
10- Not dancing well has nothing to do with being bad in bed, you shouldn't worry about it.

[Junlian]

Dude your totally wrong. I dont believe you. You being shy going take some time to getting use to. Cause I'm a shy introvert myself and I can make it with some girls. You just need to know what to say and when to say it. Witty and strong word play gets you far. Confidence is needed but that's only when your mentally prepared to say look at me I can do this. You have get out and do more. Like at your work place. Listen to what made her laugh, listen to how customers approach a lady bartender. What are there opening lines. You got what it takes your just not mentally ready.

[MarkRet]

I thought I gave you an invite earlier, but I just gave you an invite to a Mytake I did that had advice on gaining self-confidence and dating women. It also has the story on how I lost my virginity, which at the time was something I wasn't even focusing on.

[Sorenome]

I think this looks very good. You are doing great job at never having a girlfriend, keep that up and I promise you will never have to worry about having a girlfriend... I mean it's your goal right?

[ShaunaM95]

You will get a girlfriend if you stop complaining about all the reasons why you won't get a girlfriend. It's a real turn off when guys do this.

[DougTheDingo]

If you lack confidence and tell yourself "Ill never get a girlfriend" then no, you will not ever get a girlfriend. Its all about your thoughts man. Try thinking more positive and telling yourself you can. you're the only one holding yourself back.

[AthleticMom]

What you believe will come true
so begin making changes
the easiest path would be to take some type of lead-follow dance lessons terms "ballroom" or C&W

[GoodLuckCharlie]

Well, that's a start. You know what's preventing you from getting a girlfriend, so fix those things. We can't help you, but you can.

[Anonymous]

do you want sluts or a girlfriend? because i agree the hot girls will not date you but others will approach you.
so you're doomed only if you want the attractive ones

[Lucifer_666]

You should just go for it

[Lucifer_666]

Look for positive qualities in yourself and if you think there aren't any then try to change the negative ones to positive ones. Height, for example isn't a big problem neither are looks. Some girls also play piano so that can a common interest