Why do some guys think women always choose a "Chad Thundercock" to date?

[Anonymous]

I've only recently just come across the term "Chad Thundercock" which at first glance, sounds highly amusing. I've dug deeper on its meaning, and this "Chad" stereotype is some gym obsessed meathead with a six-pack, has lots of cash, a player and has a rather impressive member. And girls apparently fall head-over-heels for them.

God, how this couldn't be further from the truth. I'm on Tinder, and if I saw some six-pack wielding sports guy with pictures of himself in the mirror at the gym, posing in suits with a (probably fake) shiny rolex and a sports car, I'd run in the opposite direction and never look back. It's kind of scary and they're not my type. Don't find it attractive at all.

I will also argue that this "Chad Thundercock" can come in all shapes and sizes, so the term isn't necessarily applicable to the description above; it's just the mental image I get from guys describing "Chad" in this way.

Poor Chad lol

[Anonymous]

You might run. Maybe most women would run. But far more women want to hook up with 'chad' than there are 'chad's to go around. So being something like Chad is the most likely way for men to have a lot of success in the hook up market.

Generally speaking, being tall, good looking, athletic, muscular (to the point of say Olympic swimmers), successful, having high income, dressing well, being cool, being able to play music or sing, doing charity work, being respected and admired, being mentally strong, being able to protect yourself and others... all of these are traits that -most- women find attractive. Not every woman (and in particular, some women get insecurity triggered by some of them).

Of course, I'm not sure -any- man has all those traits. And most women, some of those traits they don't care nearly as much as some other women do.

So you want to have a bunch of strong traits, and then you will attract women who prioritize those traits.

It's also true that since very few young men are rich, famous musicians, or leading charitable organizations, the most common combination that scores a lot are athletic guys with good bodies, decent looks, and cocky.

[DooMguy]

"Poor Chad?" One does not simply put poor and chad in the same sentence

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"Chad Thundercock can come in all shapes and sizes"

No, there's only one shape and size for chad and that's final

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[Puppylove94]

psh speak for yourself. lol I mean if they don't have any brains when we have a convo- ill un-match. But you best believe i'll be swiping right on every guy that prioritizes health and fitness.

[CT_CD]

Did you tell her?

[Asker]

Thanks for the opinion. I do like and will choose a guy who likes to be healthy, but that can be maintained by all kinds of activities. My point is, s that the term describes a man who is vain, flashes the cash and has an ego the size of the universe. No ta mate.

[Puppylove94]

@CT_CD nope, she's too busy spending all her time with my brother. honestly haven't talk to either of them.

[meatballs21]

Chad doesn't have to be a meathead, but he does have to at least be athletic, like you said.

Guys remember being the awkward, pimply loser in high school with greasy hair and braces who hasn't blossomed yet, while Chads stayed devilishly handsome and got girls. Some guys never leave that bitterness stage (nor do they try to make themselves fit and desirable) and instead blame it on Chad, all through adulthood.

[Bandit74]

Nobody says you always date them. They say that you have casual sex with those guys when you are in your sexual exploration phase, and then when you want a serious relationship you go for a less attractive guy who is willing to wait for sex, pay for dates, and commit to you.

[uknaked]

It is a guys obsession with thinking he can be gods gift to all women, which is ridiculous because individual attraction is a personal thing for all females, or males.
A 'hunk' is not everybody's style!

[ChocEyes1]

Prior to entering this website, I had never heard of the term. I guess it's a concept created by online dorks that is the personification of their fears, traumas and bitterness. So be it.

The true question is: "Why do some guys believe it's wrong or unfair when women always go for Chad Thundercock"?

[Anonymous]

"gym obsessed meathead with a six-pack, has lots of cash, a player and has a rather impressive member."

Are you REALLY going to try to blame that perception on men rather than women? If so, you are clueless. If you have a problem with this, talk the your female counterparts who created and continue to persist that perception. Get a clue.

[Opinion Owner]

You women need to all get together and figure this out, cause right now the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing and you're embarrassing yourselves.

[Asker]

1/2 Thanks for the opinion. Just from my observations, it seems this term has only been mentioned and thus the mental picture has been created from men and by men, as "Chad" is a person they appear to compare themselves too. Kind of sad really and similar to models and advertising in general for both sexes. How can a woman or a man compare to an airbrushed model in some perfume advert living a life of luxery? You automatically think they have the highlife and are living the dream, when really you're made to think that by the advertisers and that you'll be more accepted in society. It's human to feel insecure. And what of the female counterpart "Stacey Thunderboobs" or something lol? The glamour-model, sexually successful and gym-obsessed woman stereotype; this isn't applicable to men and realistically, I would not think all the men on this planet would be attracted by these women and choose to date them. But that's just generalisation and highly unfair.

[Asker]

2/2 the most important point that is being missed, is that all people are individuals. Don't judge a book by its cover.

[Opinion Owner]

No, the most important thing being missed is that women have created this perception about men, not men themselves, as you inferred. I think you are trying to change the focus now because you've been called out and you realize you were wrong.

[Asker]

I respectfully disagree that women have created this perception. It's universal. Just like Chad Thundercock's female counterpart.

[Opinion Owner]

You are blind and in denial.

[TripleAce]

Recently just camd across the term 'princess'

Which essentially means overly privileged girl who feels she deserves everything done for her. Everything pretty much pAid for her while she sits around farting and growing her ass on the couch

[AleDeEurope]

It's usually girls with issues the ones that date that type of guy. Women don't. Though when it comes to just sex (like Tinder) most females will choose "Chad" since he's hot.

[Tony1974]

As a women approaching 30, that's understandable. Chad is not a guy you "settle down with."

So.. you were never attracted to a "Chad Thundercock" at all? Not even as a teenager? Interesting... further study is needed. Are you a geek lover?

[Asker]

Thanks for the opinion. Nope, never been found a "Chad" or a guy similar to one, attractive. Lots of girls find Channing Tatum sexy phsyically (I don't) or when I was a teenager Ed Pattinson were the heart throbs and I never found myself fawning over them lol. I guess I like my men more rugged and look a bit... more "Aragon" from LotR type haha.

[Tony1974]

LOL! Nice... you like the ruff and tumble look. I think a lot of mature ladies go for the same. It's the young and dumb that enjoy Chad... they can relate to one another.

I know the mature ladies prefer a man who can handle his shit; they know the ruff and tumble guys are of that cut. Being able to survive on your wits and with your hands alone is a big turn on for some.

[Asker]

I was and still am a bit of a metalhead, so I was drawn to guys with an "indie" look I suppose when I was younger. Kind of scruffy haha. I'm 26 now. Yeah, give me a Viking anyday!

[BertMacklinFBI]

he could turn out to be like the nicest guy.

how dare you judge him!

nah im kidding i don't care lol.

[TheInvisibleMan]

Of course not. Some girls are into guys like that some are not. I just know that no girls are into me and thats what Im frustrated about. But I would never blame other guys for being able to get something I can't.

[MarkRet]

In the Hunger Games, only a couple of mean girls wanted Cato. All the other girls wanted Peeta.

[bloodmountain1990]

I don't. I mean if that's the case, then why are there average looking men who are able to get women?

[jman46241]

I never have lol. This sounds more like a mytake than a question.

[themartian]

Lol there are guys with fake Rolexes? That shit will only attract gold diggers.

[red324]

You're reaching the age where you know better I think. Athough I do still notice older women, like 30-35 who are with guys like this.

[Anonymous]

Guys are insecure too, but we are not allowed to show it at all.

I feel like I need to be like that just so I can even have a chance with a girl... Nobody likes myself. 24 years and I've never had a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

We think it because it's true. Unless a guy has money, then he can look like Jabba The Hut and still have girls cream over him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe because us average Joe's keep getting rejected, while Chad is never seen without a girl or two. You have to see things from both sides

[Anonymous]

Because they do. Women will intentionally ignore good guys just to get with Chad.

[BeastRB]

Maybe you're an exception then