Sexually frustrated?

[Stubzy3]

So I love my current boyfriend so much, he's the first serous relationship I've been in. He's amazing and is great in every aspect BUT he doesn't please me sexually and honestly I'm so frustrated and underwhelmed, what would you do in my situation?

[uknaked]

You need to realise that most women cannot orgasm from penetration by a penis, and nothing else!
Most women need to have some digital stimulation of their clitoral area at the same time, it is not the guys or girls fault, it is the way people are made, they vary a lot!
It is best if the female masturbates herself as required, only she knows what feels good!
It is also essential to point out that orgasms, for either gender, come from the brain, if you are not turned on you will never orgasm, your mind set needs to be right!
So, it is perfectly possible for healthy people to orgasm while making love, or with just a good shag!
Foreplay is necessary in most cases, you can do a lot of fun arousal with fingers and tongues, there should never be penetration by a penis without the female naturally lubricating first.
Then, when you are fucking, or making love, passion should build automatically if you like, or love, each other, but a bit of clitoral stimulation works wonders, if your mind is in the right place.
You should be relaxed, with no worrying about work, debts, kids, shopping, mowing the lawn or the colour of the ceiling, you need to be in tune with sexual fun and passion.
(Premature ejaculation, if that is a problem, is a whole other area)

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you discussed this with him? What have you done to address this problem? What is his attitude?

Remember this: the test of a relationship is not whether you have problems, because that will happen in every relationship. The sign of a good relationship is how you handle problems when they arise.

[cuddlenation1994]

Definitely wiser, much props my man

[OlderAndWiser]

@cuddlenation1994 Thank you, sir!

[NyomiMcClinton]

Talk to him about it. I dont see why so many females are so scared to speak up when they are not sexually satisfied. You are in a relationship with the guy so your needs do matter. I can tell you that he is wasn't getting pleased he will speak up about it. So why should you hold your feelings back?

[Anonymous]

Some guys don't try very hard because they don't want to try and fail. Maybe have him watch you masturbate and then take your hand and show him where it feels good. Some young guys don't understand female anatomy much, but try to act cool rather than seem clueless.

[sunshinechyk]

Your young and I assume he is around your age too. Things get better with experience but all you have to do is communicate. Tell him you don't like that or you want him to do it like this... etc.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Be blunt, honest and tell him what's up. Sitting in bitter silence does nothing. Make it clear he has to step it up and be ready to take some steps yourself.

[Tdieseler]

I'd get a little on the side... i mean... after i tell em that they suck in bed. gotta discuss it first tho. and if he/she refuses to amp the game up to meet needs... then they betray the relationship "contract"... making it perfectly ok for me to get some on the outside.
Some people call it cheating... i call it completion.
If my partner won't (not cant) do it, someone else will. just as long as its sexual ONLY.

This is why i said cheating doesn't begin with one partner porking an outsider, it begins way before. If you have that talk wit your boy and he won't even try to satisfy you, just as long as he gets "his"... feel free to bone an outsider darling. thats neglect... that betrays the relationship contract.

[Truthatanycost]

When a person lives through their lower self, this is when they think of ''solutions'' such as the one you just came up with. This is parr of the problem the whole world is facing, lkving from a position of self satisfaction and lack of wisedom.

[Tdieseler]

@Truthatanycost Please, dont say wisdom if you can't even spell...
Self satisfaction huh... its a fuckin solution. She wouldn't have to get some outside IF he at least makes an effort. Who is satisfying who then? he can get off but she cant?
What are you? a mo?

[Truthatanycost]

My spelling mistakes do not change that your ''solution'' does not come from a place of wisdom...

She does not have to get anything from outside. She can talk about what she wants to change or move on. Getting a little on the outside just exposes both of them to more disease potential and other problems. We also don't know whether her boyfriend is getting off or not.

[Tdieseler]

@Truthatanycost we can always ask...
and my solution is rock solid.

[Browneye57]

Show him what you like. Guide him by hand. Talk to him about it outside the bedroom. Take charge of your orgasm - show him what you want.

Guys his age don't have any experience and thus no skill either. It takes time and effort, and the right girl. There are also good guides online as well as books on how to pleasure a woman. It's not that hard to figure out.

[Turquoise46]

I bought a book of sexual positions and suggested we try some

[Twin2814]

first of all, stay calm and whelmed

thats how your going to solve this problem

second... if this relationship of yours is so serious, then you should be able to talk about this topic with him. and he should understand.

[Anonymous]

It is obvious that the two of you are sexually incompatible and if you've been having terrible sex over the course of your relationship then he's not going to get any better in pleasing you!

If I were you, I'd find yourself a fuck buddy whom you can have fantastic sex with while still having a happy relationship because as you said the other areas of your lives together is great except for the sex!

You're young and you only live once so enjoy sex with other sexual partners 😉 👅 🍌

[singlebee]

Tell him what you feel seriously and with in your relationship if you care for it...
If he doesn't improve it out with on pleasuring you then you should breakup cause you have a right to have good sex too

[MargaritaPeach]

Go online and buy some toys. He'll get the idea. But if you can tell us, you can tell him. At least bring it up and give him a chance to fix it.

[Mdler]

Do what you've been doing - (blowing his friends and fucking his dad).

[Stubzy3]

What's wrong with you?

[Mdler]

You didn't say that my first answer was wrong though. All I'm trying to say is don't be so hard on the guy. If he's too small in the sack then let'em hit that tight bum hole of yours.

[Stubzy3]

That ain't going to happen, besides was never complaining about his size. Was talking about what he does or doesn't do with it

[Mdler]

You didn't say my first response was wrong though.

[Stubzy3]

Not that it's any of your business but unlike you I don't sleep around and the only person I've ever been with is my boyfriend. His dad recently passed and I would never cheat on my boyfriend

[Mdler]

We'll see.

[Jamesol1]

LOL omg i died this is so funny

[Shaft50]

Have you discussed this with him? Does he know of your physical needs? Maybe you can both come to an agreement whereby you can be satisfied... maybe he is holding off, because he is trying to abstain for some reason...

[Hungry_Shark]

U know what -
Be honest with him, try different things but if all fails then,

PLAY SMART-
Find a friends with benefits and get satisfied but dont leave your boyfriend.

[cavmanier]

Why doesn't he? I mean what's the problem specifically?

[Stubzy3]

He doesn't really try at all, like it's always more centered around his needs. Or getting me to do all the work because "he's tired". We're both a bit inexperienced but he doesn't even try that hard with me

[cavmanier]

He's really amazing in every other way while being more centered around his needs in bed. That kind of doesn't seem likely to me. Have you tried expressing the issue to him? That's what I'd do.

[Nik1hil]

Tell that to him not us!.. Or give me contact!..
I will do it for you and we can drag him to gag# and we have good coaches here

[Cmasterson]

Think about what and how you want to be pleased, then have a chat with him.

[Anonymous]

Honest hurts tell him the truth in a nice way.. If he can't not last that long make sure to get in more foreplay if it's his size nothing you can change about that. But more foreplay more oral should do the job if he should want to go the distance to satisfy you.. If he can't than find someone new SEX is not everything but it is a lot and it can and will ruin a relationships...

[Anonymous]

Stay calm and don't cheat in him just because if sex. Maybe try masturbation! I have a question, do you like when guys shave their whole body including legs over very hairy man?

[Stubzy3]

Honestly I don't really care about body hair all that much, I kinda like men who have leg hair and body hair to me it separates men from boys. Why? But if they like shaving then I wouldn't mind as long as they're happy. I'm not ever going to cheat on my boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

That's nice to know that you aren't going to chest on your boyfriend , lucky man :)
I appreciate that you don't care much about make body hair. But what if a guy is really very hairy, even in his torso? Then?

[Stubzy3]

I wouldn't worry, there's nothing wrong with chest hair. Personal opinion is that it's sexy but everyone is different. If someone is rude or says anything negative then obviously they're not the person for you and they are extremely shallow

[Opinion Owner]

Haha yeah many girls are rude about it esp then it's really dense and it peeps out of the top shirt button. Seriously, even really very hairy chest and stomach isn't bad for you , not a turn off?

[Stubzy3]

I don't see why it would be, we're mammals and hair is natural. Thick chest hair is just another normal body function and a sign of maturing.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Majority of women don't feel this way. I hope they did so :(

[Supermosh1990]

Do a lot of experimenting and figure what exactly gets you turned on. Does he even do anything for you sexually?

[CT_CD]

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[Anonymous]

It means both of you have to comunicate better, don´t expect him to guest what you want, you gotta tell him, otherwise you´ll keep been sexually frustrated, if he doesn´t listen to you that´s alredy a big red light in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been with a guy who DOES please you sexually? How was he different from your current guy?

[Anonymous]

Tell him he sucks at having sex.. Drive up to the next step

[Decentguy]

talk to him and express your feelings and problems to him so he can work on it

[bighairy1]

Come see me, I am sure we could resolve that frustration

[Mbored92]

talk to him about it and try to come with a solution together.

[red_knight]

talk to him... tell him what you want and come to an understanding. .

[SovereignessofVamps]

Does he do foreplay with you?

[Stubzy3]

Honestly no, but I don't think he really knows how

[SovereignessofVamps]

Then do you know how? You guys need to straighten this out, so talk to him.

[SteamBuns]

D**k too small or he just lack skills?

[Stubzy3]

Lack of skills

[SteamBuns]

Then continue to have sex with him, he'll learn... Dont be a b**ch about it...

[BPTDK]

I'd ask what's the holdup. Have you done this yet?

[Ayshea]

Communicate

[yucel_eden]

No brained that girls overlook kmt

[yucel_eden]

Guys are shit at reading people in general if you don't tell us how do we know?

[Marinepilot]

Talk about it. You may frustrate him.

[Paul09]

Masterbate yourself. Or talk to him.

[redxiii74]

masturbate