Not gona help but just wanna share that I'm the situation too...
I'm dating a girl for some time already, she knows I like her (made clear that I like her, before start dating). She is a different then other girls I have date, sometimes is hard to catch what she is into... We have gone for a kiss once, but it was a little awkward... Afterwars, she called me to go out with her, but I couldn't that day, she got a little upset. The next day I called her out, she accepted, on the date, she wasn't on a good mood (told me her day wasn't going well, we talked about it etc..), so we gone for a bar where we sat down togheter. She stood hugging me, even placed her head on my shoulder, we talked and laughed for some time, but when I gone for the kiss, she turned her head, I asked if there was a problem, she said she wasn't ok (referring to her bad mood)... I didn't tried anything else then... I'm very confused if she likes me or not, I'm very honest (direct) when comes to my intentions with other people, because I think it's better for me and for them (so we don't waste time or hurt ourselves... Don't catch me wrong, i make thing easy on others, not like I pressure them...), But I'm really frustrated this time... Actually I'm just dating her because I really like her, otherwise I wouldt, because when things don't go very clear, I prefer to stay away before I get hurt (yes I'm very anxious)... When we go out, I make things very easy on her, I really enjoy just staying with her, bit the true thing is that i start thinking too much about it, and end up thinking that she like just using me (like coming to me only to feel better and then pushing me back)... Don't know if I should get away, or if she really likes me, but have some insicurites just like me hahaha... Anywas, just wanted to share! Good luck brotha, and sorry for my English...
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How do you know she likes you, just because she hangs around you doesn't mean she likes you in that way. When a chick doesn't kiss you it could mean she's not experienced, but she would have said something like I'm not ready right now, but I want to, just not right now, or she would have giggled and said something like you wish you could, in a playful kind of way, but eventually she would have given in probably within the next few minutes.
She didn't do that though, she never let you kiss her, and that is not good, so she either isn't attracted to you, sees you as friend, or maybe she has a boyfriend that she hasn't told you about. I say you try and kiss her again, if she doesn't let you, ask her why.
Ive done things like that when I'm not interested in taking it passed a fun, flirtatious stage.. especially when I know that the guy has feelings for me because I don't want to hurt him when it eventually gets to a point where I have to say I'm not interested in having a relationship him. I could be wrong about her, because I could also see someone inexperienced acting the same way... try talking to her about it by asking if she has thought about you guys moving past friendship, or if she just doesn't think its in the cards for you two. However you adress it to her, try and leave strong emotions out of the conversation because you don't want her to feel like she has to say things she doesn't mean in order to not let you down.
for me I do it a lot too...just like all the other girls said I get too scared cause I like them a lot and I don't want to screw up...and I kinda like them trying too, its as if they won't give up until they get her...i would like to think that he really only likes me and is only chasing for me. and I like it at the right moment...maybe give her something? somethnig you know she'd like and tell her you like her, you know all that stuff...girl like it when guys are trying/trying to be cute lol if she laughs maybe you can try to go for that kiss again haha
she either don't want to kiss you because she thinks ur not attractive enuf or turned off by sumthing. like I do that too if I'm not that into the guy, I turn away... or maybe I'm wrong. maybe she's just too shy or inexperienced. get her comfortable first... :) make ur first kiss really sweet. good luck!
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Do not take it personally at all. Sometimes when a guy will be trying to kiss me and makes it obvious I turn away and try to avoid it. I'll really want to bring myself to kiss him, but I'll be so nervous that I don't. Just keep tryin, don't let it get to your head, I'm sure she is just nervous or worried about what you'll think.
she's just unexperienced. It's probably because she likes you a lot, just make her comfortable and let her know you like her a lot too. Good luck :)
if that were me, it'd be because of inexperience. I haven't made out in a while and I get a bit shy/nervous when a guy tries it, maybe even more so when I like him a lot. but that's just me.
work up to it maybe. kiss her neck see how she responds.
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