I seem to lose interest after the second date?

[Belliebella]

so i dont really date, and the little dating i have done usually ends at the first date or i lose interest after the second date.

In the past i would find minor "flaws" in guys as excuse to not date them mostly because i was insecure. Looking back there wasn't actually huge deal breakers, i just wasn't very comfortbale with intimicy etc.

But last week i went on a date and it went great in my opinion. I liked the way he looked, he was funny (dont think i have evey laughted that much at a date before) and if i could be myself a 100%. We ended up speding 5 hours togethere and it was barely any silence.

So naturally i was very excited and wanted to meet him again, so i asked him out and we meet last night. Things went fine, and we ended up at my place just watching a film and cuddling.
It was nice, but t be honest i was left a little "meh" about it all. I mean i still like the same things about him as i did when i first met him, his humour, his looks, and he absolutly turns me on. But im not sure if i would be bothered if we didn't meet up again.

So anyone with a bit more experiencing dating the same person who can tell me of this is normal or not?

[Tdieseler]

Hahahahah... hot blooded AND high maintenance... wow..
didn't know that was a thing. Might wanna slow it down over there Moana... you can't have it all...
sometimes life has ups and it has downs... its called balance. Your dating experience can't be playing the mission impossible theme song constantly... :)
and anyone that ends up giving you all that attention you seek... is just taking you for a ride.

[Belliebella]

can you elaborate? Life as its ups and dows, and nothing is perfect, But i surely allowed to be insecure about this kind of stuff, especially when i rarely do this.

[Tdieseler]

when you rarely do what? date? or ask about dating?

[Belliebella]

I rarely date and when I do meet guy I rarely feel this comfortable with them, as i do with this guy, and we rarely have a third date.

[Tdieseler]

I've seen this happen before... girls like you... and then all of a sudden you finally like someone. 9 times out of 10... the guy notices how you are and leaves... which to be honest... doesn't really help the first situation of you losing interest. makes it worse...
oh... thats just a tip.

[Belliebella]

"girls like me", what does that even mean?

[Tdieseler]

means you dont even know what you want.

[FakeName123]

It means that there is a lack of actual chemistry. There is a difference between being able to hold a conversation and really clicking not only mentally, but also physically.

[Belliebella]

true, but im definitly attracted to him.. and when i think about out dates and the fact that he still wants to hang out with me even when experiencing how weird i am (yes, i am weird, even my family thinks so) i can't help but feel like i kinda like this guy. Even if if im not super into him atm.. So im thinking, if he is still interested, i'll go on the third date and just take it from there.. I wanted im to kiss me on the date, but i avoided it because my breath was horrible at the time lol

[FakeName123]

There are different kinds of attraction. I kind find a girl physically attractive, yet not be drawn to that girl.

[FakeName123]

Alternatively you could have bonding issues and thus you feel bored out.

[Belliebella]

well in terms of bonding, it quite early to say right? I mean it takes time really get to know someone.. Im curious to see if it actually can evolve into something just because i have never actually met a guy where i can be myself and also have so much fun. So as i mentioned, if he still is interested, i want to meet up again just to be sure if im completely into this or not

[FakeName123]

Naturally bonding is something that grows - but if you have bonding issues you don't let that growing happen and rather become defensive if you might think you could become closer with someone.

Thus I suggested it could be an issue. I dont know if I am or not.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you don't feel like you deserve it?

[Mynameisnottolong]

I wouldn't consider that normal you get burned out fast. Why not keep going what do you have to lose?

[oldoldold]

i guess the question is how memorable a first date are you

[Belliebella]

care to eleborate?

[oldoldold]

well if you are an amazing first date I'd be sad I wasn't good enough for a second. but I'd have the memory of the one who got away

[Pizzalover101]

It sounds like you are moving to fast going to his place after a few dates is not normal cuz he could be very dangerous

[Belliebella]

it was at my place and i got roommates, so if anything did happen they would know straight away

[Pizzalover101]

Yes but until you get to at least know a guy for a couple weeks then you don't really know much an that's spending many hours in public to build trust

[Inkked]

It's normal... Nothing to be concerned about, when you do find the one.. you'll know...

[Storm1990]

It sounds like you are moving to fast going to his place after a few dates is not normal cuz he could be very dangerous