Is there a "question" in this post? Pardon me while I spank you.
Sounds like you gave up on dating because of one person. But - you take no responsibility for ALLOWING her to catfish you. YOU allowed a month to go by without video verification. YOU should have insisted on it after a few days when you realized you wanted to continue and were interested. You allowed it to happen. Take responsibility for it. You're old enough to know that if someone doesn't get on a video call and keeps coming up with excuses, they're full of shit. Pictures don't even cut it.
You say she was "a great liar", and that's likely true. But again, you had all these red flags flying and ignored them. Then when it all fell apart, you withdrew and blamed her, not any of it on yourself, and decided (yes, it's a decision) to lose faith in everyone and all dating.
Yes, it's a mean old world with a lot of deceivers, but there are also just as many who want something real, like you once did and probably still do. Take responsibility for your own naivety and realized that everyone gets fooled sometimes. It's part of life. Then, forgive yourself for it, remember your mistakes, don't make them again, and get back in the game because THAT'S what you want. Otherwise, why would you post this in the first place?
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I understand how you feel about that I honestly do. But you cannot have trust issues from 6 years ago or a few weeks ago. The next person has nothing to do with what the last person did. I understand that you're hurt, but trust me the best way to accept it is to look at reality. You never met this person and you didn't pick up on the fact that they did not want to talk on the phone or FaceTime you, those are the number one red flags that I would see.
Honestly that's not much I can say to you about it. Things happen but you got to move on. Eventually you're going to get lonely and when you do start dating again you will begin projecting those issues or insecurities of yours on to the next person and they will likely not have that out of you. Either they will confront or, as I would like to say, check you about it or just cut their losses.
You probably still have an interest in dating but you're more likely going to want someone to meet you on your terms in a way
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A fair amount of skepticism is healthy, but don't write off everyone because of one catfish.
Learn from it and move forward. Why not get what you want out of life because of one asshole? You are making their problem (being an asshole/catfish/liar) effect the rest of your life.Just move on with your life and focus on your health, friends and family and profession, mayve one day you will see the rights person.
It is understandable u feel like that and can only imagin how it would feel. not everyones the same but unfortunaly thiers a few who are. dont let her ruine ur jugment on people cos thiers someone out thier 4 u. anyway it sounds like its her loss. sure your an amazing person and will find someone who deserves. keep beliveing and it will happen x
you can set some "ground rules" you don't need to "give up'... C-C or NO conversation. PERIOD just tell them all that if you can't see their face, you are not going to get involved with chatting.
Sorry to hear that, hopefully one day will you meet someone that will change your mind
It seems like you are catfishing here..
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