Is she not interested or is she scared?

[jw2114]

I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. We have gone out on several dates and they have always gone really well. She recently got out of a relationship with a guy who, from what she's told me, did not treat her well. We had a few conversations about how we should take things slow and that we both cared for each other. A few days ago she received a text from her ex boyfriend which I could tell really freaked her out. She's told me that she has absolutely no interest in him and that she wishes he would leave her alone. The next day I tried talking to her but would get nothing back. Finally, she tells me that she wanted to stop this somewhat relationship we had so she could just be alone. I really care for this girl and know she cares for me too. I told her that I would respect her decision and give her time to figure herself out, but is she just scared that I will end up like her ex? Or is she really just not interested anymore? I'm afraid that the text from her ex just scared her and she felt the need to end things between us. Is there anything I can do that wouldn't upset her or scare her off even more?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, something is definitely going on with her (it's not that she lost interest, either). Even though she told you she wanted nothing to do with him, him texting her probably did shake her up a bit, and now, she is caught in between the process of getting over him and starting a relationship with you, and that's a very hard place to be in. If this guy hurt her or something along those lines, then she may be scared that you will end up like him. Give her time to be with herself and sort out any confusion she may have, and hopefully everything works out in your favor.