Why would a guy continue to pursue after I told him no?

[Anonymous]

Told a guy whose been chasing me for 6 months I'm not interested in dating because I don't have time for the bs with men or dating anymore actually gave up and now focused on my education, finances, and other things. I lost interest in dating a decade ago and see no benefit to date when it's a cess pool. I'm actually happier single than dating.

[Drew-1990]

Because he can't take the hint, sadly been there before myself. He should leave you alone if you made it clear you are not interested

[Asker]

This dude hasn't even told me what he wants intentions aren't clear if he would say what he wants could make this easier- I don't know what he wants

[Asker]

I don't have time to talk to men and if I have to ask where I stand it's time to leave - he says a friend to talk to - friends don't talk everyday all day..

[Drew-1990]

Yea sounds like he is desperate for you, it sucks but he needs to move on if you told him

[Asker]

I don't need anyone waiting my time with inconsistent, hot and cold behavior and mixed signals. Childish behavior when I already have things go on back to classes in 2 weeks , a move in a month and a half , run a business, and taking care of my kids.

[Asker]

He should speak up and tell me tf he wants because it seems like he's playing games and not being real. I pulled back because I've seen this too many times with men and I ended up hurt.. confused by his behavior and intentions

[Drew-1990]

Yes I agree, IF you were with a guy you need one who understands you don't have time to mess around

[Asker]

He already hurt me once with this shyt and he's back again with it - can't afford to get hurt because he can't express how he feels or be real about tf he wants where it's sex , relationship, etc..

[Drew-1990]

Yea if you have kids you can't mess with guys like that

[Asker]

None of this shyt he's doing is paying my bills, taking care of me and my kids..

[Asker]

Why I've been single 13 years

[Asker]

Never put them in harm to this bs

[Drew-1990]

I get it, if I ever met a girl with kids I would understand I have to make all my intentions clear and refuse to waste your time

[Asker]

My kids are teens and their covered my time and energy is valuable

[Asker]

Why I stopped dating because people can't be real and be on bs

[Drew-1990]

Yea they don't need a guy like that around. If you let a guy in they need to be able to see a guy treat you right and not waste your time.

[Asker]

I thought we friends - I don't know tf we are truthfully because he's back and forth, etc I removed myself and not involved or invested in him

[Drew-1990]

I think in this case you made the right decision

[Asker]

Not even trying to rant I know people do situationships

[Asker]

Screw dating 2024

[Drew-1990]

It sucks and is hard dating right now, I have a hard time with it, I can't imagine how much harder it is with someone with kids

[Asker]

That's the thing I wasn't looking to date at all - I met him in a like minded group with other peers as I don't do dating apps

[Drew-1990]

That is weird then, guy can't make up his mind

[Drew-1990]

I can tell you need to rant but I need to go to bed, it's late here. I'm going to at least have someone be clear with you

[Asker]

Nah I'm just irritated

[Asker]

Go to bed 🛌 thanks for even helping me understand this

[Drew-1990]

I know I get it but it's fine to rant once in a while I'm happy to let you rant to me but have a good night

[Billlewis]

Because he's an idiot.

[Asker]

True

[laly520]

a try hard desperate type