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Why do men withdraw when things seem to be going really well?

I met a guy who pursued me, hard. We work and live near each other and hung out almost daily for a little over a week. He introduced me to his friends and we got intimate after the third date. He then told me he didn't know what he wants right now and I didn't push for any sort of explanation or anything. We went out 3 more times and the last time we saw each other he said that though he wasn't sure what he wanted, he wasn't expecting to meet a girl like me. Said he thinks we have what it takes to make each other very happy. He said he liked spending time with me and wanted to continue to see me. Then he asked me to not date or sleep with anybody else as we focus on getting to know each other. I spent the night with him, since he was going to be gone for a week. Everything seemed great, we had great chemistry, phenomenal sex, and we couldn't stop laughing and smiling when we were together.

We text a little bit the first couple of days he was away but I knew he'd be visiting with family so I let him have his space. Monday came around and I sent a simple "hope you're having fun. I'm looking forward to seeing you on Wednesday." Tuesday came around and I hadn't heard from him or what plans were for Wednesday so I reached out to ask. He responded a bit aloof and said he'd call and see where I am -this was confusing as I thought we were supposed to hang out. Wednesday came and I didn't hear all day. I messaged and got no response. Finally at the end of the day I messaged asking if I was seeing him or not. He responded saying he was going to hang out with his friends -he bailed!

That night, he messaged me, "Hey! Sorry, I want to be cool and take this easy. How are you?" I just said I was well and left it at that. Since then, he has text me almost daily but hasn't brought up bailing, Tried making plans or anything. Just a "happy Thanksgiving," and "how's your night going?" Stuff like that. I am not reaching out to him and trying to give him space since I know men need it and I want to respect it. But, i AM left wondering, Did he freak himself out or was he full of it when he said he liked me and asked me to date? After almost 2 weeks of little communication and not seeing him, I wonder if respecting his wishes of not going on dates with others is a disservice to myself. What's going on here? Please help!
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After small talk texting me a few days, I didn't hear from him for 2 days. Today, I got a text asking how my week is going and if I want to grab lunch sometime... My guy friend says not to respond right away and wait until tomorrow to respond. Is this the right approach?
Why do men withdraw when things seem to be going really well?
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