In fairness, I may have taken her a bit for granted and never told her that I loved her after 10 months of dating (though she could have said something too). I tried to get her back by clearing up my feelings for her, but she had already decided it was over.
Because we are somewhat in the same social circle, I wanted to keep things amicable. She told me we could still be friends, have coffee together (although she said she would not call me for coffee because she has a "full life" while I could feel free to call her), wish each other happy birthdays, etc.
Months of NC passed and I saw her again at an outing with mutual friends. It was awkward, but amicable. A month later, I saw her again and when I approached her to say hello, she went cold and rude on me. I later found out that her friends told her I had been socializing and dating other women. True enough, but I was not dating anyone seriously and besides, it was my ex that broke it off and said we could still be friends. If I had any inkling that she was interested in a reconciliation, I would have pursued. But, she never contacted me.
Recently, my birthday passed and she never contacted me for that. One of my friends who knows my ex's friends thinks my ex dislikes me. But, why? I was nothing but gracious about the breakup. When she was cold to me, I continued to take the high road and never once expressed hurt or anger (although I felt both).
I know my ex is attractive and she told me she is used to getting attention from guys, including exes.
So, is it because I would not feed her ego and beg her back after my initiatial attempt at reconciliation that now makes the bad guy and persona non grata?
In fact, she scheduled some event with her volunteer group on my birthday night. Since, I was on the email distribution years ago, she must know that I received it. Perhaps it was a coincidence or she is taking a jab at me. No idea.
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Okay, so here's my take on it.
1. You both dated for 10 months, took her for granted, and you never told her you loved her, so she probably felt like you didn't. Who wants to be with someone that they don't feel loved/appreciated by? If she is in your age group, she is most likely looking for someone to build a future with, get married to, have kids, etc. The clock is ticking and she probably doesn't want to waste her time on a relationship that is not going anywhere.
2. You never fought for her back. Maybe she broke up with you to see if you would even react. The fact that you hid her emotions only shows her that you don't care nor love her (which you never said if you did or not).
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