Should I tell the guy i'm talking to i'm going on a date with someone else?

by the way just to clarify i'm not seeing either of these guys, one i haven't even met yet and the other guy i've met once, but the guy i've met once, i'm into but he has literally no time for me anymore it seems so the other day i sent him voice note telling him i was done and was going to move on as was fed up for waiting around for him to make plans with me and told him i feel like he's not even interested, he then sent me a really really long message about he is actually ill, and took a new tablet when he came to see me he has some sort of IBS, he basically told me he had started new medication as said i would be someone worth doing this for, keep in mind this guy works and he goes out with his mates on a regular basis (he said that he is scared of change of routine and his condition affects him mentally), but i still explained i wasn't happy with the fact he can't seem to make plans to see me, then he said about maybe he can see me this bank holiday Monday but i have plans so now i know he probably won't make any plans to see me again... for ages and i am just fed up of waiting around for him, the ONLY reason i have done is our connection in person was the best i've felt in a while he made me really happy and we just worked and the date flowed really well, but i am done waiting for him so have decided to go on a date with someone else but i still can't seem to stop liking this guy, should i tell him in hope it makes him jealous and he steps up and maybe makes plans or should i just leave it and not even bother to mention it to him?Should I tell the guy i'm talking to i'm going on a date with someone else?

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  • First off. How the fuck did you get your words to be italic, I mean I wanna do that shit too. Second it's best to tell him but don't hope to make him jealous because if he becomes jealous he most likely isn't the type of guy you'll want to date. Telling him would save him the trouble of preparing for the date and he won't hate you for blowing him off (No pun intended).

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  • Can't you change your plans for Monday and see him? If not, looks like you should move on and let him know that presently this relationship isn't working for you. Also, maybe he doesn't want to rush things as he wishes to be more settled in life, socially, health-eise etc that's why he isn't giving you lots of attention. Maybe? He just doesn't seem certain about you or his own life at this point. Initially felt like telling you take the opportunity to meet him but also meet the other guy as truthfully I don't know how it will work out. However, I guess he'll figure out it's over when you refuse to meet up. TBh, I think you already made your decision, so best forget him now.

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  • *sigh* Princess... So many things, where do I start? You meet a guy ONE time and build it up into all that? How can you be "into" someone you meet one time? You barely know him at all, and from what you describe, you DO know he finds time to go out with his mates. Obviously, he likes doing that. Also, how can you be "fed up waiting around for him to make plans with you" ? WHY are you waiting? You've seen him once? Princess, people who are interested in other people always FIND or MAKE time for that person. So unless he's off on a mission in a foreign land for months at a time, he's in charge of his own time once work is done. IF he wanted to see you, he'd contact you. You're foolish to "wait" in any way for this guy. As to your question, you should NOT tell him a thing about your other dates with other guys. It WILL NOT make him jealous or envious - it will just make you look petty. You've already told this guy too much and make yourself seem overly infatuated, which you may very well be. You've done and said enough with guy #1.

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  • I wouldn't tell him, you don't owe him anything yet and while the illness may be genuine, it hasn't stopped him living his life and going out with friends etc.

    you could go on this date and not get on with him. I just would keep the door open for him if he decides to buck his ideas up but can't put your Life on hold. only live one after all.

    good luck with it princess x

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    • thank you, so you think it would put him of, rather than make him rethink about stepping up his game and actually given me a date?

    • if you have to get him to up his game, then maybe he's just not that into you? yes, you may see an improvement short term but won't take him long to slip back again.

  • Just say it

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  • "keep in mind this guy works and he goes out with his mates on a regular basis (he said that he is scared of change of routine and his condition affects him mentally)"

    He's probably having a combination of pain and spontaneous and uncontrollable bathroom times that he would be embarrassed of. If he has to run to the bathroom in front of his mates, it wouldn't be embarrassing. I would give him some time and work on understanding his situation better if you like him.

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  • Haha I wouldn’t have even contacted him if I were you. If your trying to talk to him and leave him messages.. and he doesn’t respond. I would let him figure out what his priorities are... and then he comes crawling back. Tell him sorry, I’ve moved on.. you snooze you lose... live your life, don’t want for anyone else. I don’t

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  • That got reaaaallly weird fast lol. IBS and he goes out for drinks with his mates... alcohol and medication? Not sure that's on the prescription label somehow.

    No need to mention anything to him, if he wants you he'll make an effort.

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  • Well seems like you are not anywhere close to a relationship so I don't think you have any need to tell him
    That being said this sort of thing that people do by casual dating multiple people at the same time is a bit low... seems like shopping around for the best deal
    Not saying that is what you are doing does not sound like it is but that it could turn into that

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  • Leave him guessing because it's obvious his minde is made up about his priorities. His social life can't involve you is the part that has me convinced. Don't even bother letting him know. Just go ahead with other dates and don't even respond to him anymore since your such an inconvenience that he doesn't want to work with.

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  • yes it would make him jealous, but it might not make him step up, it could backfire and make him think you're a slut

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    • how is going on a date slutty though, there is no commitment involved between us right now? lol

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  • Don't tell him , you're only dating and you're not committed to him so you don't need to tell him your personal life , if he really liked u he wouldn't be ignoring your messages , so do what's best for you

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  • Wow... just wow... didn't even waste my time reading all those paragraphs for fear of getting Cancer... just the classiest of females on here I see, "Should I tell the one guy I'm talking to that I'm talking to/seeing another guy?"LMAO omg the world is done

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  • Yeah you should tell him. But not to make him jealous, that's some teenager shit and is a huge turn off. You should tell him because he deserves to know if he's going to get stood up. That's never fun for anybody

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  • No. At this point, it will only give him a reason to keep moving, if he is a little insecure. On the other hand, you can be up front, he may appreciate that, provided you clarify the situation appropriately.

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  • Leave it and don't bother to mention it to him. Don't play games with people. For me whenever a girl tried to make me jealous I left her to her games.
    Just move on. In the future don't wait around for guys to make plans instead make some of your own, don't be so passive.

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  • Whoaa! You might want to tone it down a little. He's not into you that much move on.

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    • I thought the same, but when i said i was going to stop talking to him he literally sent me a massive paragraph telling me how much he liked me and he doesn't want me to do that and that its because he is ill and he didn't know how to tell me

  • I wouldn't say anything in this case, you aren't in a committed relationship with either, it's just dating at this point.

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  • No need to but you can say you are also seeing other people. That's not weird. If you try and make him jealous that's sad. It sounds like you go out with one guy for the attention of an other. That's not fair to the other. I would say that you are going to date other people and when he is ready he can message you.

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  • Don't tell him for now... he has to create time for you though. But there's nothing wrong in going on a date with the other guy

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  • It would be Great if tell him now because he would Fall for you now and Get broke after getting Known that your dating with someone else from others so if you only told him now it would be great

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  • Keep your options open, your not committed to anyone, and if one dude can't make time for you, gotta start asking if he's really worth it?

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  • The way I see it is would you want him to tell you if he was going to see someone. Obviously if you're not dating him it's not a necessity but it will depend on the level of respect you have for him and whether you'd want your actions to be reciprocated

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  • Be honest... be sure about yourself... don't expect to much from anyone, just know what you want and expect crushes. So be kind and let the one who made you wait out... and bring in the new one. Be sweet to both but be good to you too. Don't get one jelous bc it can come to bite you. Be good and hope all works ok with you and the boys.

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  • Ok so you are dating. It should be self explanatory that there is a possibility that another guy (s) is interested in you. You don't a any long history or obligation or commitment to any of them. You don't have to tell them. If one of them does become your man that is when you cut the other guy (s) off. Before that time you are dating and to me that is what dating is getting to know people and eliminating them as you can imagine your life being great with them.

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  • Dont tell him because its non of him business
    You know this is the right thing to do
    If a guy is into you he will try to do anything to be with you unless he is a pussy

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  • I don’t think you need to tell him. You only been out with him once, it was a month ago, and he doesn’t seem to be making any kind of effort to spend the time with you that you said you wanted.

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  • I wouldn’t bring it up unless he specifically asks, there’s no need.

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  • You should

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  • Sure no reason to lie

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  • He doesn't need to know that.

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  • Nope nope

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  • Yeah

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  • Yes u should

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  • Date like a a man.

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  • Yeah

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  • I wouldn’t tell him until you guys get to that talking point about if you’re both seeing anyone else. If you feel you're both in a place for that then go for it.

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  • You should say it

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  • Nope u dont need to unless they want to know

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    • Unless you want to tell them. You have made zero commitment to either one.

  • Is he going to be ok? IBS is no fun 😞

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    • I don't know, he has only just mentioned it when i said that to him lol

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    • @Goodwifie you’re welcome. Take care 😊

  • No.😂

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    • Mind you, I have a different version of dating. I usually tell them I just want us to know each other. I'd play chess with him. Lolz.

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