Would you ever date someone just because they had a lot of Money?

[PrincessPie]

Ok the amount of people i've heard say that women are only attracted to money.. money is all they care about.. the poll is anonymous anyway (no one knows who voted what) so guys and gals lets see how true this is and how many people actually would.
I personally most definitely would not.

I SO WOULD!

I WOULD NOT!!

Only if they were a billionare

[Browneye57]

So, gold-diggers aside, a woman wants to see that a guy can provide for her and the 84 children she plans to have with him. It's call PROVISIONING. And they're very sly about it, but basically they want to see that he has some modicum of success about it. No one wants to date a loser.

On the flip-side you'd be dumb to date a lazy worthless guy that you're gonna have to support your whole life together. Right?

So it's not just about the money. But yeah, a woman looks for a guy to have some, the more the better. Pretty much if a guy has money he has best pick of the ladies because he can afford the lifestyle they desire. Ya wanna drive a jalopy or a convertible? You want to be a homeless street person or live in a nice house in the suburbs?

Money makes the world go 'round. :)

[Browneye57]

Oh, and only poor people think money is bad. Rich people never do. [shrug]

[MrOracle]

I have avoided dating a woman because she had a lot of money. She wasn't foolish with it, but would think nothing of jetting off to France or Spain for a week, or going to event that were $5,000 a plate. There is no way I could live that way on my income, and I would never expect her to pay my way.

She was great, but she could never adjust to a lower lifestyle. It would never have worked.

[redeyemindtricks]

"I would never expect her to pay my way"

^^ Classy people NEVER "expect". So, good.

Butttttt what if she **wanted** to? What if that was her love language?
like, would that... actually not be ok with you? lol smh

bonus points for the greater likelihood of longer-lasting hot sex, too.
(more material provision = less sexual attraction... at least less non-vanilla sexual attraction mahah.
in all 4 of the hottest marriages I know-- mine included -- wifey is the majority earner. This CAN'T be a coincidence.)

[MrOracle]

@redeyemindtricks That may have changed things, but I didn't get that from her. There was also the issue of her family, who I eventually learned were "important" people. I definitely wouldn't have been acceptable in that "old money" crowd. It would have either ended things early anyway, or would have caused significant issues for her with her family and friends, which would have been long-term ugly.

It might have been different if she had won the lotto or got a big settlement or otherwise got the money independently, but that wasn't the case here.

[redeyemindtricks]

ahhhh ok that makes a lot more sense now.

yh, when I've been around old money, I feel like an anthropologist from another country. mb even another planet. I just... don't intuit *anything* about that whole culture.

[MrOracle]

@redeyemindtricks She was also European, though she'd spent lots of time in the US. It was complicated. She was amazing, but there was always a distance.

[redeyemindtricks]

well, I'd be *more* ok with old money from [at least Eastern] Europe... but only because one of my best friends is old, old Siberian petroleum money.
Despite every stereotype ever of rich Russians, her parents are definitely in the top 3 or 4 of most randomly generous and warm-hearted people I've ever met. (She invited me to Novosibirsk for Christmas '99... yep, IN SIBERIA. Partly to welcome me to her home, but mostly to be a bitch, because she knew that my ideal weather is 110°F and endless sunshine.)

Dunno if you know this tradition, but... these are the kind of people with whom you have to be careful about complimenting *anything* in their house -- because they'll say "Oh it's yours" ***and then actually offer it to you, in seriousness***.
And, knowing I didn't own the kinds of clothes that could step to the Siberian winter (think HIGH temps of –40° or so)... her parents bought me a full length Russian imperial sable fur coat, and just, ilke, GAVE it to me. •______• (go

[redeyemindtricks]

ahead and google the cost of that fucker, if you dare.)
... so that's my experience with old money from the Eurasian continent mahah. (Of course they were my guests in Las Vegas in July, a couple years later.)

American old money, though? Nope. I didn't even realize that whole "prep school" thing was even a thing, outside of kitschy movies and Polo ads, until I was almost thirty.

[Anonymous]

I am probably going to get a lot of hate for this but I am being honest. I don't come from a very wealthy background. I have struggled financially in my life so many times. I worked my ass off in college (first in my family to go) and I still don't earn as much as I thought I would. I want a guy who earns more than me, he doesn't have to be super rich... but I want him to be able to provide me with a comfortable living. I want my future kids to have what I never had. When you have little money, money is attractive. Life is a competition, so if Mr. Rich guy comes along and he is into me and I will pursue him purely because of his money because I know the life I might have the chance to have will make me happier.

[Asingh]

I feel so sorry for your husband. He will only be loved because of his money. I hope it catches up on to you.

[mrsticks]

At least she's honest about being a scumbag.

[Eddieniceboy]

Your brutally honest and that's why your getting a thumbs 👍 👆.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asingh Is it that bad of me to want a more comfortable life?

[Opinion Owner]

@mrsticks You do not know what I have been through in life. The majority of people in the US are 'richer' than me. Is it that bad of me to seek out a guy who earns more than me. Being realistic I am never going to marry a millionaire and I do not expect that. But I do want a guy who earns more than me.

[Opinion Owner]

@Eddieniceboy Thank you.

[mrsticks]

I didn't say I knew what you've been through, and I don't care. Wanting a man to be able to fully "take care of you" is pretty leech-like behavior, but at least you're honest about it. That's all I said. You do you, I couldn't care less, but I'm going to call it what it is.

[i_research]

I would have done so if I was younger because at that age I kind of knew we were not going to be dating seriously. It was all game, and fun. (It felt like courting; as in dating meant telling people you were together, buying gifts for each other, walking home, and maybe hugging or holding hands' that's about it.)

So if I knew he was rich, I would felt quite flattered, and nervous maybe, and would have planned adventures, like theme parks. : D

Anyway, as for now, wealth, like face, is attractive no doubt. It is a temptation.
But to choose someone to be my life partner, that alone would not do.

[aicarg]

Money can't buy a meaningful and loving relationship. If I dont have emotional feeling for a person, despite the amount of money they have, I wouldn't date him. Based on a several friends who has a partner that is loaded with money, it seems as they become dependant on their partner. I personally, couldn't live the lifestyle where everything is handed to me on a silver platter by my significant other. I have always been the person who enjoys earning things for myself and for those reasons I simply just date a person who has a lot of money.

[BrileyCat]

yes i would . to see what they're like . maybe i can learn something them .
like secrets of becoming rich . how to create and attract enriching situations .
the power and passion of positive thinking . to learn about their mind and goals .
why not be friends with successful People?

[CoolSky01]

women aren't attracted to money only otherwise none would find someone to date, plus many women know they dont have what it takes to attract rich dudes...

however, and this happens often in real life and yes i hear about ti all the time and listen to people talking about it infront of me , women do love money, they will gladly choose an average or not so attractive looking guy over a hot one with a normal amount of money, and the other women will get jealous and wonder why someone like that unattractive chick gets to have all that money while they dont, as a college student plenty of girls have admitted to wanting a guy with a good job, a lot of money, home and new car and able to take them on vacations...

sure all that sounds nice and fun but basically they say they want an ATM machine, not to mention they aren't even a 7 to begin with.

[poopedmypantsagain]

Nope not me , money is not everything.. I would not care if a lady had just won the lottery.. if I not feel she is for me.. she is left behind.. I go out with the lady's because there is a sort of connection that starts out slow between us as in any relationship.. and then can blossom from there in many cases and if it does not.. well so be you then part as friends and move on as there are many more fish in the sea,, but money.. is not what would make me want to hook up with the women

[Leos123]

Uhhh... What do you mean "girl with lots of money"? It's just money. It can vanish within moments if she's not careful (specially true with lottery money). Or is she stinking rich? Like Paris Hilton?

Whichever, it doesn't matter. It's not like I'm mooching. I have a good career and I can take care of her even without her money. The only reason if I would date someone is if I like her.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

You don't actually think most women will tell the truth, do you? Even if it's anonymous. They'd have to at least admit it to themselves, and women lie to themselves at least as much as they lie to men.

Also, you should break it down by age groups. A woman who is 24 and still relevant might not date someone just because he's got money, but a post-Wall 30 year old will, especially if she's got a case of Baby Rabies.

[torken]

I would, because I'm a CPA and the thought of getting to play around with a rich person's finances to make them both richer and happier is something that I literally daydream about.

Not for personal benefit, I just think the accounting issues and solutions would be so fun

[sarath1997]

hmm. money matter for girls... but not so for boys cause when she is rich and I am middle , she will undermine me , won't take me seriously.. so won't date a rich girl cause she has money , yep it might be possible that we can be friends and have common interests and , takes each other seriously... then will definitely date.. her but not without knowing her personally first...😂

[xxmamichulaxx]

I wouldn't. I can barely tolerate most people enough for a relationship, money isn't going to change that 😂. Plus I think its pretty desperate to stay with someone just because they have money, get your own job and stop living off other peoples money.

[Mexicoman101]

Not if there's no chemistry there physically or emotionally. That can just mean that she'll have the best divorce lawyer in the tri-state area. I wouldn't even feel right spending a girls money because of a love I lied for, i'm too used to not being rich. Maybe if I was a billionaire and I lost it all, then I might be able to do that.

[xXHozanXX]

If I had a lot of money and I was a good guy would you NOT go out with me just to avoid judgement? This is why rich guys (I plan to be rich) find it hard to get a girl that really likes them. Because they all think theyll get judged... they think people will say they only go out with us because we're rich. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say here.

[johndoer]

Having lots of money is a trouble rather than happiness. Just think, paparazzi would hunt you everytime you go out. You won't get a single second to enjoy on your own. Plus, having too much money can make you delusional. Everything come with pros and cons. Remember that.

[jacquesvol]

NO WAY, Faye.
At the uni I knew very well which girls came from rich families. I barely spoke to them. I didn't want more than being polite.
I had a few bosses from very rich families. (the top 10 of the country) Those were the ones I disliked most, because of the way they behave.

I had some very rich customers and had much better contacts with these.

[jacquesvol]

If I was rich myself, they'd behave in another way.

[piscesbluedreams]

If he had lots of money and gave it away generously to people in need then I would find that very attractive.
But being rich and living lavishly actually disgusts me.

At the end of the day I'd rather have basic necessities and TRUE love.

[ekc8295]

It'd be cool if the person I fell in love with had a lot of money, but I can't just straight up be with someone only on the basis that they are rich. I could not spend that much time/energy with someone that I don't click with. I'd be miserable.

[Kat203]

bunch of goldigger who ever said. yes.

I choose no I don't think money should be the answer you may have an attractive guy loaded and then have a decent guy and all they want to give you love id choose the decent guy over anything.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I'll feel comfortable with a person that has a lot of money. They would be just higher on a social level and as I'm used to have not so much, I don't think I'd like it. Of course if I like the person, I'd try dating him, because it's stupid to cut someone off, just because he has a certain amount of money, a lot or none. But I don't think it would last long.

[HaveQuestions]

Omg... Bill Gates, roflmao. I love that guy & all his awkwardness. The only guy who could possibly spend what he did building a state of the art mansion and then say "it doesn't feel homey" when he moved in. 😂

And no. I would not.

[capturemyheartnow]

I would date a rich girl. But if later on , I found her not to be worthy in other respects , then , I could leave her alone thinking , she is not my type.

[Cosytoasty]

All these answers yet last night on the way home from the pub, I saw a very middle aged man trying to suck the face off an absolutely gorgeous young brunette... he had a Zegna suit on and AP on his wrist. 😂

[redeyemindtricks]

the most important word in that anecdote is "trying", amirite?

[Cosytoasty]

@redeyemindtricks I'm going to guess he was succeeding. Ugh... I can still hear the noises in my head, yeah - I heard them over a subway train!

You could tell they had a lovely evening out :-

£50 meet-up drinks
£200 restaurant tab
VIP theatre tickets
£300 bar tab
Back to his £4mil London house for fun and games 😉

[redeyemindtricks]

Well, if it makse you feel any better... I've met exactly 0 women in my entire life who are genuinely TURNED ON by men's money.

I mean... for better or for worse, man, the "find a lover" and "find a provider" modules, so to speak, are pretty much COMPLETELY separate -- basically by definition. (Just think about it for a sec, in terms of cold reality -- The ideal provider is easily pussy-whipped and easily tied down, because duh. Whereas the ideal lover -- who's going to produce ideal progeny, who are going to conquer lots of shit -- is going to be damn near impossible to do either of those things to.)

And I mean, sure enough... the more money some dude throws at a woman, the MORE she comes to EXPECT before she'll deign to give him any sort of action. Readily observable enough.

What makes the world go 'round for the rich boys, here, is that... ahha dude, lots and lots and *lots* of women are VERY good actresses. Because being *that* kind of actress pays REALLY well ahah.
Like, SO

[redeyemindtricks]

good at acting, that lots of rich dudes actually go their entire lives *genuinely* thinking that their money is actually turning these women on. When in fact, they're just the highest bidder -- and they're kidding themselves if they think there'll be any loyalty there, if a significantly *higher* bidder comes along who isn't any greater effort.

To put it another way -- Close yr eyes and think about this situation. Jane desperately fantasizes about the way she and Jack used to *fuck*. Ahh what she would give, to have one more fuckfest with him.
Ok QUICK: Is "Jack" rich?

... ahhahahhahaaaa. Fuck no he isn't.

In fact, I've been giving this some thought lately, and I've started to genuinely wonder whether it's even POSSIBLE for a marriage to stay **HOT** in the long-term IF the husband is providing the vast majority of the income / material comfort.
Because my intuition that says "unfortunately, well, #nope " is getting stronger and stronger all the time.
ANd I mean... The 4 hottest

[redeyemindtricks]

long term marriages I know (my own included) -- in ALL FOUR of them, wifey is the majority earner.
Considering that wifey is not the majority earner in MOST couples that I know... this can't be a coincidence.

How the hell do you spend that much at a restaurant on any day other than December 31, by the way? •______________•

[Cosytoasty]

www.scotts-restaurant.com/media/2870/050517.pdf

This place is me and wifey's "treat" and we are not really rich lol. Two starters, mains and dessert + NOT the cheapest bottle of wine on there = £200 easily before tip. But to be fair, they do the best fish in London, beats anything with Michelin stars next to it.

Also, yeah i know about the whole dynamic with rich guys and girls. I see it so often at these corporate parties. You're right about a massive disparity in incomes making for short marriages. Personally the best I've known are when both parties are earning roughly the same, Lawyer + lawyer for example, settle down and raise 2 or 3 children together etc. Etc.

[redeyemindtricks]

Those work okay when they don't mind taking a significant hit to their finances when it's time to beget and raise kiddos. Because, well, SOMEONE's gotta hit the brakes a little bit, in order that parents might actually, y'know, **parent**.
A car with 2 engines and 0 exhaust is a shitty car. For exactly the same reason, a family with 2 breadwinners and 0 primary caretakers is a shitty family.

The problem with "taking a significant hit to finances when it's time to have kiddos", of course, is that... well, for most families, life gets more expensive when said kiddos enter the picture.

In other words, this kind of situation tends to work best if the 2 parents were living waywaywayWAYYY below their means while still childless, and so they can go from a 2-career family to a 1.5-career family without even feeling a pinch.

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YOU CALLED HER WIFEY 😮😳😍

Also—I'm going to write on Unit1's question about this, but... in my experience, even most hardcore "gold diggers" get that way because

[redeyemindtricks]

**their men** CONDITION them that way. Yes, that's a rather controversial thing to say -- but, I'm gna go write about it now.

[Krystal821]

I have a responsibility to raise my daughter to know right from wrong and to know what real love is. Money can buy many things but it cannot buy love. I know some can but I could never.

[matheus_mb]

No, not just because of money, I'm not a golddigger. Of course that if she has money it's good, but it's not decisive and I also wouldn't use her money for my own benefit.