Would you ever date a guy with borderline personality disorder?

[drnobody]

[estoydorado1]

My mom had that and she hallucinated that my brother and I were trying to harm her and ourselves. Thanks to her and her manipulation I spent years in and out of group homes, psych hospitals, on heavy prescriptions, with extreme diagnosis, and even in juvenile court where I turned the case around on her and requested an investigation that finally exposed her delusions. I don't blame her. She was truly scared but literally everybody believed that I was a horrible child and I was treated like a mental invalid, meanwhile getting doped up on drugs I didn't need.
That's actually the pg version of events and this was since I was a toddler. People who can't differentiate reality from fantasy scare me.

[sjoes006]

Guys typically aren't given this diagnosis. They are more likely diagnosed as bipolar or antisocial.

This diagnosis in the US is a kids of death. It means almost no clinical psychologist will see you. It's about 85% women diagnosed. There is no cure and this personality disorder simply can't maintain relationships with anyone be it their children or otherwise.

That's why psychologists have moved away from diagnosing it all together at least in charts.

[sjoes006]

I do love Munch

[existing_not_living]

I have borderline personality disorder and a whole slew of other disorders. I still manage to catch a few fish. And I have dated guys with their own problems as well and I'm fine with it. My boyfriend is autistic and I like him all the same. A disorder doesn't define who you are. YOU do. So as long as you take control of your life and responsibilities having BPD will mean nothing.

[btbc92]

Nope! Run away fast! I know first hand that lots of abuse on many angles come with that disorder, especially when they aren't being treated or been diagnosed. There are plenty of people with that that never been to see a doctor, shrink or psychologist.

[guilly18butnot]

Welcome to my life.

My wife is borderline. I don't recommend it to anyone. I'm still with her because I understand most of her erratic behaviours, and I love her to bits because in the end she's a good person.

But if I had to chose, no, I would not.

[Anonymous]

Dated a girl with it, she broke my heart, staying the fuck away from any girl that shows signs of it.

[drnobody]

man, that way of thinking is really not right. bpd person are not trying to hurt you.

[Opinion Owner]

whatever the intentions are if the outcome is still the same does it really matter? Sorry, but considering I do have experience in this and fell hard for a girl with this (never fell harder for a girl than I did for her) I think I have every right to avoid dating someone else with the same condition in order to protect myself.

[Opinion Owner]

also I was very supportive, can't do much though when someone pushes you away because of this.

[drnobody]

yes, you have to protect yourself and I respect that, i just don't want you to generalize that all people with bpd will try to hurt you. Me too, I was with a girl 2 years ago and I never fell so hard for a girl than her, and then she just blocked me on all and never talked to me again for no reason and I was and still hurt, I can't move on, it's been 2 years, long time. Still, I don't know if she was mentally ill or something like that, after those moments I fell so so so hard in depression.

I'm with you, you have all the right to not fall for the same mistake another time, but I just want to say I'm BPD and I usually don't hurt people around me and they hurt me and still I keep it all to myself.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand where you're coming from but it's one thing for someone to hurt you because they're not interested and one thing to hurt you because of a disorder. She was falling really hard for me as well and everything she said and did only confirmed that and then out of the blue with absolutely zero warning, like literally at the snap of a finger she left out of my life only to then come back and tell me how she was feeling about me and made me sound as if I was her soulmate and then she left again and blocked me for no reason at all. I was there for her and gave her all of my love but her disorder just made her want to run away the moment things were getting real. That's a part of the disorder and it's that part that I can never risk trusting because it's just too volatile. It sucks that it's been half a year now and I still dream about her everyday because she left me the moment I fell for her, when I was at my most volnurable and I cannot risk going through that again, for my own

[Opinion Owner]

mental health.

[ItsAMeWeirdo]

Thats kind of heartless if thats the only reason why you wouldn't date the person. Its shouldn't be a problem people think I'm weird and think I'm retarded but why does it matter. If you truly like a person them you do

[passingby123]

Haha funny pic. Yes, I would. My best friend has BPD and now I know pretty well how to handle different situations. We would just need to have great communication between us for me to know what to do on certain moments.

[gynie]

Yes. I have mental health issues too so i'd probably be able to understand where some of the thoughts came from and try to help him any way I could, even though I know the thoughts are incredibly strong

[forestprincess]

no way in hell, had a friend with BPD and it was a nightmare. broken hearts all around, extremely manipulative and is now a prostitute

[drnobody]

wow, thats really judgmental of you. but I apreciate honesty :D

[forestprincess]

I don't believe it is. I mean I have mental illnesses and I know people with BPD and it seems to be a pattern. refuses to take medicines, taking insanely rash desicions etc

[MarthaRose]

Drnobody, that's not really being judgmental. If she already experienced having a friend have BPD and it being hell. It means it 's just not for her. Some people just don't want to deal with the issues and problems, because it can effect you a lot emotionally.

[udolipixie]

Would you ever date a guy with borderline personality disorder?
Nope. Dudes in my opinion are enough baggage, drama, burdens, compromises, and sacrifices. I don't need to add in mental illness too.

[tiabell]

No. im realistic and thats not something easy to deal with

[peachykeenjellybean]

depends on how extreme it is and whether he has control of it or not

[ciitruskiwi]

I have BPD so yeah I would.

[Machiavelli]

Most of them do, if he's rich it will be worth it.

[Machiavelli]

@ItsAMeWeirdo You can't talk to me like that, I am your elder.

[ItsAMeWeirdo]

By how, 15 years no i think not. You got to be over the age of 50 to my elder

[ciitruskiwi]

@machiavelli Wow threatening a 14 year old over the internet. For someone who claims to the the elder you sure don't act like it.

[Machiavelli]

@ciitruskiwi Elders beat that ass when you act up.

[Machiavelli]

@ItsAMeWeirdo still talking shit?, it's bedtime by the way, don't forget to brush and floss.

[ciitruskiwi]

@machiavelli I don't know how you grew up but that's not how I grew up. You're just acting immature. It's not grown to threaten a 14 year old over the internet.

[ciitruskiwi]

"I will knock you over to next month" 😂 😂

[Machiavelli]

Who reported my comment but ignored the little hooligan's on the thread? My comment was deemed offensive but you're both still here talking your heads off.

[ciitruskiwi]

You were threatening to beat her up how is that not offensive?

[Machiavelli]

@ciitruskiwi I said beat her ass as in what an adult would say when you misbehave. do I even know where you live? or care to come find you? I forgot I am talking to kids, I will go now. Bye Rugrats. Oh and I don't know hat kind of parenting you are exposed to, but responding to an adults opinion with "really bitch" is out of order. You inciting, sound like a bully and shouldn't even be on here, nor should you be interested in such a discussion. When I was your age, I was making sure I stay away from sex and adult activities, use deodorant and stay acne free.

[Machiavelli]

@ItsAMeWeirdo Sigh, fitting username. Weirdo I don't want to fight you okay? Goodbye darling.

[ItsAMeWeirdo]

Alright homie, i was only joking anyways i don't fight older people.

[ciitruskiwi]

and I don't know what kind of childhood you were exposed to but threatening to beat a 14 year old is out of order. You're calling her the bully but you aren't any better. As the so called elder you should be the bigger person not threatening to beat people up. You clearly have anger issues.

[ciitruskiwi]

And what do you mean "when I was your age" You were my age two years ago. That's not that long.

[alice55]

I don't know what's it

[Logical_Idolist]

drnobody do you have it?

[Logical_Idolist]

And to answer the question... yes I would. I have it do I can't be picky when I have it too.

[drnobody]

I believe I have it. Never been to therapy so I never been diagnosed professionnally but I did a lot of tests online and they all turn out that I have it and it's severe.

[drnobody]

Another which I'm confused about, is that I have also all the symptoms of depression and all the tests told me that I have it severly too.

[Logical_Idolist]

Can you message me?

[Anonymous]

yes i would because i have BPD as well haha

[Whatthefluff]

Yes.

[dwiller943]

Yeah.

[agirl537]

what is it?

[Kristibunnie17]

Yeah I would

[AestheticOne]

Yes I would.