Honestly, looks are pretty important to me. I will not date you, if I am not physically attracted to you. Here's my order of things:
1. I will talk to you and want to get to know you if I find you physically appealing.
2. If you have a great personality, I will want to move things forward with you. If you don't have a great personality, and you are superficial and basic, I will just want to fuck you based on your looks.
#2 is very important. A lot of women say that men want to "fuck" and all they they care about is "sex". That's not entirely true. If you have the looks and personality, I will want to date you, because you are a catch. However... if you have looks, but no personality or a terrible personality, I won't date you and I will just want to have casual sex with you. Men don't care all about sex. It really depends on the woman, honestly.
Anyway... looks are important to both genders. We subconsciously are attracted to appearance, because looks determine how attractive our offspring with be.
Equally important. Looks aren't everything but they do matter. You can't completely lack looks or personality.
If the person has a good personality but no attraction the kissing and sex would be awkward.
But if the person is cute but there's no chemistry or they have a bland personality or if they have a bad personality then it could be awkward/toxic.
There have been times where I've dated girls who were cute but they were either super boring and we didn't click or they had issues which made it toxic.
Okay I am not gonna lie if I ever want to be with anyone I have to find them at least kinda cute. If a guy has at least two good features (like nice lips or hair) it's more than enough. What I would be picky about is how the guy behaves. He should be open minded and accept me the way I am without pressuring me to change. Should be a "nice guy". Should be faithful and a good companion who stands by me no matter what. A hot guy with abs who acts like a bad human wouldn't even cross my mind if I get a decent looking guy with an awesome personality.
I voted C, because in the long run personality is more important... but I'm not gonna be attracted to a guy who i don't find physically attractive. And I'm pretty sure most people approach it that way. There is more to the initial attraction than just looks - it also has a lot to do with how they carry themselves and present themselves, Like, do they seem like the kind of person you'd Like?
Significantly less important than personality, but still important. For the long run at least. If I'm gonna be stuck with you for a while, I'd like to be able to look at you. That being said, what people consider good looking is subjective. I already have a low bar for good looking, so it really doesn't take much for me to consider someone good looking enough.
just give me 2 fucking minutes gazing cooly into his eyes . as my lips curl in potential arousal . intently listening to his attitudes on differ things . then i decide whether or not i would even consider A B or C .
You csnt have an ugly face. at least have an average one. A pretty face is a huge plus.
If you are fat please have nice boobs. If you are skinny please have a nice butt.
Opinions on looks can change based on whether you're a stuck up bitch or an airhead.
If you look like a sexy Librarian or a smart business woman with a tight skirt and and a blouse. Forgive me if I stammer, act shy, and my pants are wet.
Looks are just one of many things. Looks will get my interest and personality will make me stay. Both are required. I'm never going to be interested in a girl who I don't find physically attracted to begin with. People might call that superficial, don't care. That's life and most people will be the same. Just look at dating apps like Tinder, it's 100% based on looks. You don't even need to write a bio.
looks are just looks. The best value is the one that will not change like looks. That Called Character and patience. You have to love any woman who is very caring and appreciative. no matter how she looks. looks does not really matter but a God fearing woman who will do what she needs to do is best gain.
Before I looked at the opinions I had chosen C, but after getting an understanding I'd like to consider option B instead.
As a man, even I have a limit on looks, but usually I am more lenient towards the middle grown. As long as the woman is not a morbid elephant or a skeleton, I'll still consider her physically. Matter of fact, I'm not even a fan of Hollywood types, I prefer curvy women (they are in the middle between slim average Jane and overweight).
What I consider most important above EVERYTHING is personality. I could care less the visual appeal, if you have the personality of a parasite or a narcissist with princess syndrome, pathological dishonesty, or bipolar disorder, I don't even want to be your friend.
I accidentally hit "as important as personality' but I meant to hit "Personality is more important" I've turned down attractive a-holes before. Even if he was exclusively nice to me, a nasty attitude turns me off and annoys me. If I want a nice view, I'll google sunsets or something, appearances are never that serious.
me personally I think that looks has the same value as the shit I flush down the toilet because looks can be changed many times over where as your personality is the root and foundation of your being and is your identity. No matter how much you try to change it the real you always ahow.
People that say looks don't matter at all are lying. The thing is, if you begin to like someone, he/she will become physically attractive in your eyes.
Really all I care about is that the person takes care of themselves reasonably well. As long as they do what it takes to keep themselves healthy, their appearance is not a big deal to me. I tend to connect with people far more through their personality anyway. If someone is obese, has really horrible teeth/dental hygiene, etc, those will be turn offs to me, but those are extreme cases.
I have liked guys of all shapes and sizes, usually they've all been able to make me laugh. While it's important to have a physical attraction at the end of the day it's the personality that keeps it's going not ones looks
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Equally important to personality...
If a hot guy hits on me and im not into his personality ill dodge him...
If a guy with a nice personality hits on me but im not physically attracted id dodge him, unless i really really like his personality to the point i develope a crush, which is very rare cause i don't like people easily
But a guy who im attracted to both looks wise and personality wise its an instant yes... but i hardly ever meet perfect yes last person i liked wasn't into me like that and that was last year
I think I do need to be physically attracted to him so I can date him. Not that he has to be the most handsome man, a super model, just fine and appealing to me
All looks do is catch my attention. After that I only really care about the personality, and if you aren't good looking just get my attention and you have the same chances.
They are equally important. I'm not sure which I'd sacrifice given a choice. But I won't date someone who doesn't look presentable no matter how amazing his personality is. I've done that. It lead to misery.
I guess it depends on what you're looking for, what she's looking for, whether the both of you can accept the value and appreciate what the other has to offer, and most importantly, if you're clear about what this relationship is meant for. If it's for what you want to see, looks are more important. If it's for what you want to do, personality is. If you're not sure (in which case you're with me), it's a bit of both.
Looks are very important. Your partner is somebody that you will be spending a lot of time with, therefore you will be looking at them and seeing a lot. I believe that you must be physically attracted to that person. With that being said, looks aren't everything. Looks may help you determine a physical attraction to a person, but personality and compatibility with you will help you determine a partner.
Trust me, if we didn't live in a society that focused so much on beauty or if we didn't have eyes and just listen to a person's personality, a lot of people would fall in love or find love a lot quicker.
I would date an ugly cunt if at least he wasn't an idiot. like intelligence is the largest factor for me actually wanting to be in a relationship with someone. everything else comes second.
I wouldn't date a girl with a bad personality but I admit I probably wouldn't date an ugly girl with a good personality either. Maybe because I'm still young So I'd say it's equal or maybe 60% personality
Partner for a lifetime? Then B. If only for a hook up, then A because it's not like you'd be living with them and if they would be an egoistical fuck, you wouldn't have to bother with them.
@Yayeet True lol Such people are just useless. You can't even bring yourself to sleep with them no matter how good looking they seemed. xD (seemed bcs once I get to know the shitty person, I'm turned off) xD
I mean you are going to be looking at the person every time u see them so they need to be attractive. the first thing you see is a person's look. that's how you are attracted to a person. because of their looks
Looks are what makes you attracted and drawn to the person which is needed for anything to progress further. Personality is the determining factor of whether that person is worth keeping.
@yankees2 then explain to me in a scenario like this. If a girl/boy thinks the other is 'ugly' or not physically appealing at all but they happen to really like their personality, then they are likely to end up being friends rather than have a sexual relationship. Appearance is crucial in a sexual relationship but if we were saying that an average looking person with a good personality then personality might win over looks like you said. But if a person does not, whatsoever find the other person attractive or in fact finds them very unappealing in terms of look then tell me what would happen if they liked their personality? wouldn't they jsut be friends?
No as I have seen 0's ad 1's get with those who are 8+ Besides, plenty of people when they're very old still find people who lost their good looks attractive. If you don't believe me, then don't get married as you'll never tolerate someone getting old.
@yankees2 who 'lost their good looks' which necessarily means they had to have a degree of physical attraction. well thats my opinion and obviously you see different so good for you!
@yankees2 HAHAHHA SO FUNNY. You are sad honestly, trying to bring others down because they share a different opinion than you. Shame on you. If you think personality is all that matters, bravo man, but we are here to voice our honest opinion and its different from yours. Goos luck man because picking a random account and saying its my backup account and calling people shallow because you dont agree with them does not seem as though you have a great personality.
also i have 5 xper meaning iv been on here a while so how could be a backup i just think its shallow to call people shallow because they dont want someone just purely based on personality with me as long as i dont find them hard to look at [which i think you know what i mean] then its all personality dont need stunning looks
@yankees2 tbh i think your a hypocrit your saying were contributing to society in stupidy yet your the one wasting your time commenting against 2 people who are clearly opinionated and yet your still trying because not only are you being a dick but your being stupid about it at the same time
For me, looks are as important as personality. I have to be at least somewhat physically attracted to a guy. But with a great personality, they definitely become more physically attractive to me.
I find almost every healthy woman I see attractive, finding one with a bad attitude makes her instantly ugly, and finding one with a good attitude makes her a 10. so I voted personality as most important.
I have to love how they look and love their personality. Dies not matter if I see then without hearing them or hearing them without seeing them. I do realize both looks and personality can change over time or if something major happen.
Personality is a huge factor. But looks are one too, in my case it's the face. I just can't really find someone attracting that doesn't have the right face.
I used to say looks matter but since every girl has looks at her top priority, if I find a single girl who actually cares about personality then id have to settle for her
Exactly always. No matter what anyone says. People will settle for less good looking people and yea its not the ONLY thing that matters. But it matters plain and simple.
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