Is it wrong to ask the guy you’re seeing to shave off his beard?

[Anonymous]

I really don’t like beards but I like the guy behind the beard and we go along very well. In other pics he didn’t have a beard so I was really surprised to see it.

Yes

No

[watercolor_lions]

From my interactions with men... a beard is kind of a special thing. I wouldn't :/ I've asked guys before what they would do if I cut their beard as a joke, and they said they'd be really pissed if I did.

Some guys might not take shaving it badly, but I think a lot of guys who have grown it out over a long period of time are proud of it's length. If you ask and he says no, you might just have to suck it up :/ It's like asking a girl to cut her hair she has been growing out for 3 years...

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

It's not wrong to *ask* but remember to be sensitive about it & not assume that he has to. It'd kinda be like him asking you to cut your hair short because he's not attracted to girls with long hair. So you might like the idea & go for it but it depends. It'll probably be the same for him. A lot of guys are quite proud of their beards these days. Helps them feel more manly.

[goddess87]

How long have you been seeing each other? I think you should probably wait until the relationship is established before expressing your distaste for his facial hair. Or.. You could always make comments when he eats about food being stuck in it or how it irritates your skin when you have to feel it. Honestly though if you left it alone you will probably get used to it.

[anewgirl]

You can always ask, but if he doesn’t want to, I wouldn’t push it.

I think Chris Hemsworth may have been a bad example of “looking better without a beard” lol

[Asker]

I didn't choose that image haha

[frozenhorizon]

I think it depends on how you ask and what you're expecting. I think the best thing to do would be just tell him your preference, without specifically asking. More than just once if you want, just bring it up when the context is there. If he isn't too attached to it, hopefully he'll get the idea and shave it. If he doesn't shave it, then he probably wants to keep it regardless of what you think...

[noesbueno]

Yes, here me out. He chose to have a beard and you chose to be with him in spite of the beard, if you convince him to get rid of the beard, would you think less of him as a person? I've seen couples break where the guy had changed because of the woman he was with and then she left him, complaining about him not being the man she started being with. Don't force someone you like to change.

[Shiba1490]

Beards change a lot about a man. It can hide a long chin, no chin, a really round face, and it makes them look older... I knew this one guy that had a long beard, but he shaved it one day and he looked like a completely different person.. it was life changing. Anyway, to answer your question; no it isn't wrong, but I wouldn't force him to because he probably really likes it if he has it in the first place.

[JustCallMeMax]

Not necessarily. Personally, I hate facial hair. It itches and it gets in the way when I eat. I just don't shave it often, because shaving makes my face feel super weird and takes forever to get done. When it gets to a point where it isn't worth keeping on my face, which is usually about 0.5 - 0.8 cm, I just shave it off and move onto the next beard haul.

[Shiba1490]

@JustCallMeMax I would hate to have a beard. The struggle is too real

[pervertedjester]

It's a small sacrifice but you could always compromise with suggesting a mustache and goatee combo www.baldingbeards.com/.../goatee-styles-chart.jpg

[goddess87]

Eww no mustaches are the absolute worse. It makes men look like sex offenders

[pervertedjester]

@goddess87 Then try only dating military men.

[Alistayr]

It's not wrong to ask, but it would be wrong to be nasty if he didn't want to. He may do it if you gently persuaded him, out of love for you.

[HonestGirlAlways]

I mean it kind of is. I think it's kinda rude -- I wouldn't appreciate it if a guy I'm seeing is like 'hey, why don't you get a haircut?' or suggests changing other aspects of my appearance.

[FemWorship]

HELL NO
it's self centered, w/some conceited, others solving masculine issues
eating dirty & never kiss worthy
looks low class, however well trimmed
a fad for the ages - ref. history

[AynonOMouse]

If he didn't have one when you met I think it would be fine to ask him to stay the same and not change, but if he already had one when you first met jest tell him you prefer him without one but don't make a big deal out of it.

[marius08]

Just tell him that you're very sensitive on the face to hair and that it would break you out and that's why you don't like beards

[NicoletteKomotov]

I hate beards. Scratchy dirty things hiding beautiful faces

[Darknut123]

Clean shaven all the way. Beards imply laziness to personal hygiene in my opinion. A clean shaven is said to be more trustworthy as well.

[TunisianDom93]

dude when I shave my beard. all the girls I know start hitting me. they say why do you hate yourself... you are less attractive that way. I once threatened my ex to shave my beard if she doesn't take her vaccine shot. she ran right away to take it... lmao

[frozenhorizon]

@TunisianDom93 LOL

[amel23]

Tunisians just love beards on guys I guess

[TunisianDom93]

@amel23 do you?

[TheUglyMonk]

You can hint it, asking for it sounds rude "Hey I don't like how your beard looks and I liked your pics because they had no beard in it, can you shave it?"

[Anonymous]

Well yes is like if he tell you to lose pounds caus etiu look skinnier in your pictures

[TripleAce]

whatever it's beard... get over it lol
if he wants to sure if not... big deal... so superficial

[burpzzzzz]

How would you it a guy said you have to lose weight in order for me to date you?

[Blackfists]

Depends on how important his facial hair is to him.

[Julien1210]

You can ask. Nothing wrong in it. Just don't force him.

[The_Gentelman]

I dont like my beard so I would have no problem. +in a relationship both sides should make some offers for the other one

[Unit1]

I would choose my beard over any woman if I am given the choice 😎

[Anon-ymous1]

Is it "wrong?" No, but don't expect him to do it. It's his face.

[Brutal_Honesty]

you can ask whatever you want

if it were me though i'd tell you to f off :D

[Anonymous]

If you don't like beards, date a beardless man or whatever, we don't tell you how you can dress or what you do with your body hair, so why should you tell us what to do with our facial hair. You should like us for us, not what you think we should be

[chrisbigman]

It depends on why. While sometimes the request can be granted, that isn't always the case.

[Maxemeister]

Suggest it, but don't force anything. That'll turn out badly

[Insanyx12]

No it's personal preference you can't help it he should accept that and do iy

[Insanyx12]

It..

[DomDaBomb]

And what if he prefers to have one? So you think someone should change their identity just for the appreciation of others? Doesn't sound right...

[Insanyx12]

I read it wrong my bad

[Insanyx12]

The magic word

[Insanyx12]

Negotiations

[Insanyx12]

-s..

[Alexistheman333]

Chris Hemsworth looks like prince charming from Shrek with no beard 💀

[just_wondering_01]

It's fine to ask but be prepared to accept a no

[momo770]

Did he have a beard when you met him?

[Asker]

No he didn't

[momo770]

Ok seek a compromise with him.

[Jaye234]

Ask him, he might shave it off for you.

[disgustingweebtrash]

No.. but don't expect him to

[Anon85]

This

[Anonymous]

It's not wrong, I also can't stand beards.

[Anonymous]

You can ask. But he doesn't have to do it

[amel23]

I looooovr beards

[TheRedeemer]

Ask, do not force.

[Anonymous]

No it's not wrong to ask

[Gaurav505]

Depends on girls