I am 23 years old, I am a virgin (I have never had any kind of sexual relationship) and I'm saving myself for marriage because I'm a christian. It turns out that I started dating a few weeks ago a guy that I'm pretty sure he's not a virgin anymore... And I'm really liking him! He knows that I am a virgin and he always respected me but he still does not know of my conviction, that I will not have sex with him until we got married.
How can I tell this to him? What if he does not accept it? I'm afraid he'll abandon me for that, but at the same time I can not let go of my convictions. What do you guys think?
Most Helpful Guy
I think this just reqiures honest communication. If your religion is this important to you then there might be other conflicts. With church or holidays or entertainment choices.
So yeah it's important to set a precedent that you guys talk to each other before these things become big issues and arguments. Get ahead of the curve and have an honest calm discussion. Or it will most likely end up with a fight. And that's more damaging then just having a different opinion.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Keep your conviction because it's only once you stop being a virgin but guys are plenty. Have a open and safe conversation with him on sex so he knows and whether y'all will continue to date or not. If he can't accept being celibate while dating you, I hope you stick by your conviction because no man should make you feel pressured to change in risk of break up. Up to you to decide if your virginity or having him and compromising to have sex is more important to you. I used to have that dream, wait til marriage but I caved in lol, I do miss the feeling being proud as a virgin but i'm human with needs lol I got very tempted too long ugh1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE