Why do so many men fear dating or even just hooking up with single mothers?

[CasaNorba]

are all single mothers really just a bunch of conniving hoochies looking for a man to take care of them and their kids?

this is one that I been hearing since before I knew what sex was and its the number one reason why I find single mothers repulsing. its also one of the reasons why I stop using tinder; because these were obviously the majority of the women I've used to match with. but the hatred that most men have for them must really mean more trouble than the one I listed. I mean not to defend them anything wouldn't a single mother not want to hook up with some guy for a night, have sex and take a break from their kids every now and then? or again are they up to worst things then what I already listed?

I even came across a community on FB dedicating their anti views on single mothers and here are some of them (its an all black community so I apologize in advance if they look racist.)

but anyways are single mothers really this bad? and what else makes them bad before being suspicious of looking for a sugar daddy?

[Mexicoman101]

I'll hook up with one, but the reason i'm unlikely to date one is that I don't want to assume the position of being the father of some other mans' kid & I don't want my lovers' priorities to be split between me and her kids because I know who in that equation a mother should value first & foremost. Plus yeah, the 'you aren't my real dad' shit is real. I mean, I want to take a swing at sowing My Own oates and starting my own family and should that fail so be it, but its something I want to try fresh with someone whose not done it before.

[carlit0sway]

Not all of them are bad, but all the single moms around my age I know are seriously dumb as fuck. I dated one and she was a complete mess. She was 4 years older than me and i became convinced she would never get her shit together. She was a waitress at tgi fridays feeding me the "going back to school" bullshit. It's too much of a hassle to even try to bang one and forget about dating them. This may sound bad, but me and my friend have this rule that on the 1-10 scale, every girl under 30 that is a single mom loses half of her points.

[Anonymous]

They don't want any responsibility

[KieranConnelly1987]

Why should a man be responsible for another man’s genetic lineage?

[rjroy3]

Not every guy is ready or willing to play daddy. Yes, the majority of single mothers are looking for their guy to fill that roll. Some women are more considerate of the fact maybe you want to date, but don't want to be a stand in father. But a lot of women want that and are looking for that whether or not they say so in the beginning.

[HamAndCheese]

Single motherhood, at best, leaves you with the risk of having to deal with another man's child, and at worst represents a massive lack of judgement. You got knocked up by someone who was so unbearable that you two couldn't stay together? When you get involved with single moms, you're gambling.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to have to raise someone else's kid or if the father is still hanging around or has contact, deal with all the shit from the breakup of whatever relationship they were in before. It also means we can't do things just me and her, we have to plan holidays, weekends away, etc around the kid and we can't just have a quiet time to ourselves.

By the way, in your third example if I waited years to have sex with someone and then she told me she was pregnant just after we married, that would be a very short marriage. If she's cheated, and especially if she's keeping the baby, I'm outta there.

[joshbrewster09]

Meeting someone is hard enough, what do you expect a man to say to a child? If I liked her, any kids are in no matter what. But I'm not daddy and not looking to be, they already have a dad. If she remembers that we need to build our own relationship, should be fine.

[TheChatWanderer]

Man all I'm going to say is this most women have kids doesn't matter what age im not gonna even put an age range on it cause it's so random. In other words if you're in your mid 20s and mid 30s expecting to find an interesting attractive woman without kids you're going to have a bad time.

[Anonymous]

I agree. I don't want anything to do with single mothers. I mean they can be nice people. I'm just not interested in taking care of someone else's kids. Nor do I want to enter into a relationship where I have to fight for her attention, against a child none the less.

[Franitz]

I'm fine dating a single mom as long as having a child is not what's defining her. Also she has to know that won't give her another. I'm fine with children, like 4 years old and more, but if she has a baby that been born no thanks, I'm not going to change diapers or get barfed on.

[TheCunningLinguist]

With the increasing amount of trans-op surgeries, Single moms are about to become the world's hottest commodity. Because at least they'll know she's a woman.

[joewill]

I don't know... It's definitely not the case with me! I'm looking for a family, so it's almost desirable.

[KieranConnelly1987]

Single mothers are a very low calibre female.
Look at this way. She is either a poor decision maker breeding with a loser male or she pushed a good guy away because she’s a cunt. Either way you avoid them at all costs.

[madgoat]

Single mothers are not necessarily bad people. But they have loads of baggage and heavy responsibilities which can focus their interest.
That's a lot for a single guy to take on.

[Redstang88]

I'd hook up with one no problem.
Won't date one though, I don't want to be anywhere near a kid at this point. That's a whole lotta badge I want nothing to do with

[VanillaSalt]

I’ll leave this here.

https://youtu.be/1Pu_b4zkV3U

[bondobilly]

Going out with one currently. She knows and stress with me on correcting her kids when they mess up. I won't yell, scream, or hit them, but I will correct them and tell their mom who will them tell them to listen to me.

[DanielKaluuya]

Single moms are bad people with low IQ's. Stop dating them and let them die out.

[Humbledman74006]

Ignorant answer of the day

[DanielKaluuya]

fight me then bitch nigga

[Humbledman74006]

Sorry my mistake, that comment was the most ignorant of the year. Nice job you managed to top stupidity twice in one small area, and in a record amount of time. I am going to assume you are mentally handicapped. To be ugly and retarded has to be difficult in life. The lack of self-esteem and poor upbringing only compounds your challenges. My tax dollars probably fund your bastard children, and will also likely fund your numerous prison stays to come. Instead of fighting me, you should thank me, or mow my yard. Then you would probably mess that up too.

Tell you what, go grab your crack pipe, smoke up... go out and rob that store. Pull a weapon on the cops and safe me some money.

Pleasant day to you, maybe you can find some shapes in the clouds today. Be careful coloring later, those lines will be tricky for you.

[DanielKaluuya]

Sorry, dude. I don't have any kids but your girl calls me daddy.

[Humbledman74006]

Glad there are no children, as it will end with you. Please do Rob that store, and pull a gun a cop. Then we can have another riot, over another ignorant man.

[DanielKaluuya]

Can you explain your beef with me? or are you just mad that you haven't gotten laid since the O. J verdict?

[Humbledman74006]

Has sex this. morning, my beef developed at. the fight me, bitch nigga statement.

[DanielKaluuya]

You called my reply ignorant. why? what did I lie about?

[Juxtapose]

I don't want to be second to a child. I want to be my lover's #1.

[james____1]

No not all men fear that, its just a little more complicated than the usual relationship but i myself just got out of a relationship with a woman who already had 2 kids and i was with her for 4years and grew very attached to the kids

[southpaw8000]

The fact that you're a mum doesn't define who you are, wouldn't even mention it at first. Thats not lying

[Humbledman74006]

You stereotyped all single moms into bad people and with low IQs. Let the die out. I know many successful women who are or were single moms.

[Anonymous]

I want to be number 1 in my relationships and don’t want to take the back burner to a kid and Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Well they obviously make bad decisions.

Also, personaly I only want one kid and continiuning my bloodline is something that I want.

[Humbledman74006]

Just because they are a single. mom, doesn't mean they make bad decisions. Not every single mom, is single by choice.

[Opinion Owner]

I dated a girl for 6 years, I never proposed or had a child even though I want one. If I had a child I would need to be absolutely sure that it would be with the woman I would spend my whole life with. Otherwise it's not for the childs best.
90% of the single moms you see on dating sites are the deffenition of white trash and bad decisions.

[Humbledman74006]

I'll admit to. some, but 90% is grossly overstated

[slatyb]

@Humbledman74006 Yeah, if she was widowed then it's not her fault. Being divorced is evidence of past bad judgment.

[Humbledman74006]

I. would differ here. Divorce to me does not show past. bad judgement in most. cases. No one has a crystal ball when getting married, and people. divorce ofr. many reasons

[ThiccAsFucc]

They don't fear it, they just don't want to do it.

[COCOCHANEL]

people like simple

[KieranConnelly1987]

People don’t want unnecessary drama*