So I met this guy on a dating app and we immediately hit it off, he seems nice and genuine but J am now more on guard cuz I've been hurt in the past! He was supposed to come to my city so we could meet but he stood me up! I sent a text on WhatsApp asking for clarifications and asked if he wears coming or not! Mind you he didn't even bother to read my text but he was actively online on that dating app! (Ignoring me?) I waited for about two hours and then decided to call him and what he was up to and he picked up and said he had just woken up... but he was active in that dating app for more than an hour when I was casually checking on him! He apologised and said he sorry for not being able to make it! I brushed it off and decided to let him go and I deleted his pictures that he sent to me and deleted his number! He noticed and started texting me since then (last night) and kept calling me! Then he asked if I'm free today and said he wants to come over today and I politely refused and said I'm busy working m, wished him well and said I hope he'll find someone who makes him happy and said "have a lovely and happy life" at the end! He immediately called after reading that message and we talked for a bit and he was apologetic! I'm not sure if I wanna have anything to do with him! He's already stood me and in my opinion first impressions do matter! I just can't take him seriously anymore! Should I give a second chance?
First know those apps are known to show people are active even if they are not. I made that mistake and accused my guy now of ignoring me looking for someone else. When we were together he wasn't on his phone yet it still showed he was active. So don't base it on that. I would give him a second chance but don't put to much into it until you really see him trying.
If the only thing you’re basing this on is him showing as “Active” on an app just one time and you’re really into him otherwise I’d be inclined to give one more chance. If you’re not wanting to, I think there are better ways to handle it then being passive aggressive like this, just being honest about where you stand any why
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Thanks for your comment! I do understand what you mean... I am kind of into him and he seems interested too but I feel like I can't take him seriously! He does happen to kind of brag about himself and stuff like that!
It seems like there are a few things that turn you off about him though, and the opportunity to get out of seeing him opened and you’ve taken it. I guess with online dating I’m just a huge fan of being honest about why you’re losing/lost interest so they either learn for next time or pick up their game if there is still a possibility with you
I just love how accurate your comments are they describe exactly how I feel/am about this guy! I kinda do like him but as you said there are things that turn me off about him! I also tend to not trust people easily now cuz I've been hurt in the past! Sometimes I feel lonely and wish I had someone I go places and just have easy conversations with! But when there is actually someone available I don't really wanna do anything with them! This guy seems to brag a lot tho which concerns me somehow! Have a great day/night! Thanks again!
Don't give him another chance. Just from his texts, he sounds like a child. You're too nice to give him such a reply! 😊 He doesn't deserve shit. Lying about just having woken up when he was online all the time, well fuck his liar ass. If he can lie about that, then he will lie about anything in the future. Block him.
If that happened to me then I would've not even responded to him and probably blocked him as someone like that isn't worth it in my opinion. If he had a good reason and told you in advance why he wasn't coming then maybe but just to leave you there then no way. I wouldn't have waited 2 hours.
No don't, he's already lying. Saying he had just woken up and had been online on the dating site for 2 hours.. honestly he's bad news, move on you can do better. He also is a really lazy when typing..
From his actions of ignoring your messages even when he was on the app, it says he isn't into you as much as he claims, so I'd say don't give him a second chance.
I think you’re way too invested in this guy. Give him a second chance, but you’re way to hopeful and are likely going to be let down. Be more realistic and let him come the distance on his own.
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Yeah he was supposed to come over to my city from Birmingham! It takes 2 hours by train and he flaked on me and stood me up yesterday! I'm not really getting my hopes high as I can't take him seriosuly by more tbh!
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