Got stood up on the second date. Should I give him a second chance?

[Anonymous]

So I show at the time we agreed upon, and he's not there yet. He told me he was running a little late because he still lives with his mom and suddenly needed to do a bunch of house chores. I didn't make a big fuss about it and just told him to text me when he arrives.. An hour later, I still hear nothing from him and since the place was closing in half an hour, I just decide to start heading home. I text him one more time to tell him that I'm leaving. Nothing. So I call just to make sure nothing bad happened and still nothing. About an hour and a half since the date was supposed to start, he finally texts me back apologizing and asking to reschedule. He said he managed his time poorly and didn't realize how long it would take him to finish his duties. I wasn't sure how to feel about it and told him I was upset. Then he proceeded to tell me that I stood him up at one point 6 years ago. The thing is, I don't remember doing this. I know for a fact I've never stood someone up and the worst I would do is ask to reschedule last minute. Aside from that, he's been very apologetic and we texted for the rest of the night/evening. He said it wouldn't happen again if we continued dating.. Should I give this guy a second chance?

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

I love this thing where women go " Should i give him a second chance" like luck plays a big role in dating and they can be the gods of luck some how. the short answer is stop asking this question. He stood you up, you have to make a choice whether you want him or not. not about what you deserve.. its the same thing in the economy.. you don't get paid what you deserve.. you get paid what you settle for and what you want. If you really want him.. then do it. if you don't then don't.. the other questions you have to ask.. do you want someone else.. If he's a eligible guy ,, your not gonna hurt him.. like some how trying to get back at him is gonna ruin his dating life.. no , he lost, he knows, he moves on.. and dates someone else.. and guys and this is subjective... when a man loses he often goes for someone he thinks is better.. so he won't make the second mistake twice.. its always this catch 22 with females.. you have options. why are you picking these options.. "well i don't deserve that" , "well I think he must pay" , "well xyz" and you know what your gonna do.. your gonna do what you want to do and if you don't your subconscious is gonna make you regret it. If you want another guy.. go out with another guy. if you want him.. making him pay for not showing up.. is only gonna make you a sour pus when he's with another women.. and I don't just mean attractively.. you know i mean want in other ways right? .. how do you know he didn't do that because he is a stupid guy who thinks a stupid tactic like that would help you love him.. because of some reverse psychology shit he read on the internet. so i say this as a free person.. PLEASE don't stay with people you do not want to be with.. and stay with people you want to be with. your gut is your best option.. it depends on your happiness. even if you use him.. so what.. makes you terrible.. yeah... but if you go.. ah i kinda should have did more with him.. boom there's regret.. boom there's the guilt.. boom there's the i feel sad cause i didn't do what i wanted.. because nannies told me.. it was not moral or whatever.. last words.. i would also like to say , that goes for women who want to marry too. If your waiting to marry, be with a guy you want to be with.. you might get mad at a few things.. if its tolerable and you still want to be with him.. I've heard my mom say to me.. you know.. there were men.. who i really should have stayed with.. same goes.. easy way to get rid of confusion.. keep your gut the same as your mind. If i want to be with someone and even to have their hand.. im not gonna be like.. " well should i give her a second chance, cause she kinda shit tested me a little too hard a moment ago " , no if I really want to be with her.. ill be with her.. if I decided.. that you know what I don't love her or like her that much.. then im not staying. regardless and I've played both tactics.. regardless if im waiting till marriage to have XXX or im having premarital sex.

[lonestar_01]

Up to you girl, but personally I wouldn't. I had a girl do that to me at Uni a few months back, waited for her for an hour in the cold of night, nothing. She said the same thing, poor time management, but one thing you need to remember is that if they were interested they would have managed their time far better than that. I deleted her number, deleted her off Snap Chat, I got a message from her 2 days later saying "Why have I deleted her, I've done nothing wrong." But nah, just disrespectful to me. He also could have if he knew shit was going to hit the fan with his duties and the time, texted you and said something along the lines of "Shoot baby, sorry I'm not going to make it. But, I'll make it up to you, we'll go to a nice restaurant say next Friday night and I'll pay. Least I can do." At the end of the day, your call, but me nah, I wouldn't even bother after that. Haven't got the patience. Best of luck to you

[Daniela1982]

His excuse sounds like a crock and a half.
Chores, if true, could have waited. His deflection about you standing him up is cheesy. He was probably banging some other girl and in the very least you were the last on the list. It is up to you whether you give him a 2nd chance, depending if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

[Cassie_1992]

Yea then you stood him up and block him. And print out he’s messages to you so you have proof.

[horatiohornblower]

No, once time was getting close. He should've realized that there was no way he'd get everything done. Then contacted you. He just sounds totally irresponsible and didn't consider you.

[Anonymous]

You wrote in your post you don’t remembering standing him up at the same time you are saying you know for a fact you have never stood anyone up well that’s confusing

[LegendaryIcon]

Nope