Does cheating and public humiliation go together?

[barryboi]

The following is a completely true story. A few years ago, I was dating a girl briefly. Let's call her Mandy. I had told Mandy that I was bi and had a thing for giving blowjobs. She wanted me to not give blowjobs. I told her I would try. And I did try, really hard. But I finally the craving was so intense I just gave in a few times. I thought I had hid the blowjobs from Mandy. But she found out and broke up with me immediately for cheating on her. Is that technically cheating on her if it was just a few blowjobs?

So, fast forward one month. I was out at a restaurant on a first date with a girl. We will call her Chyianne. Suddenly Mandy is at our table asking Chyianne if I had told her about the fact that I cannot stop sucking other guys' cocks and the fact that I wear panties everyday. I had told Chyianne neither of those things because it is, um, well, embarrassing. Mandy had a peice of creme pie (obviously from the dessert cart) and shoves it in my face. I was totally dumb-founded and shocked and stood up. People were beginning to laugh. Mandy pushed me forward so I was bent over the table and quickly reached in the back of my jeans and yanked out a handful of red lace thong. Mandy then loudly declared, "since I am telling the truth about the panties, you know I'm telling the truth about the blowjobs!" I was so embarrassed I just froze and as I was wiping chocolate creme pie off my face, Chyianne got up and left. Obviously, the end of the date.

Do do you think Molly was justified in embarrassing me publically?

Do you think Chyianne should have given me a second chance?

[sherlin]

1. No her action is not justified , she found out she left you end of the story... she went over the top to do such things in public , may be she really liked you , she might have felt jealous seeing you with another girl
2. the situation was way too awkward for her to stay, it would have been better if all this things have came from you and not Mandy , you can still try explaining to her once if she is not ready then you should move on

[barryboi]

I agree. That had to be one of the most embarrassing experiences of my life.

[sherlin]

I know it's hard to forget it but you should... I'm sure no one else is thinking about that day what has happened till now it's just you.. everyone is super busy with their own problems so don't feel embarrassed know one is gonna remember.. instead try to focus on creating happy memories ...

[barryboi]

Thank you. It is hard to forget, even though I am trying. It is certainly not everyday that a guy has his thong panties revealed immediately after getting chocolate creme pie splatted in his face.

[sherlin]

I Know... that's true , you must be a nice guy for her to take advantage of you and go to that extent , still you need to leave it and wait for karma to get her back.. have a good day

[barryboi]

You are correct. I need to leave it behind. It was embarrassing, but it was not the only time she embarrassed me. I wonder if that embarrassment is karma on me for cheating on her?

[sherlin]

oh is it.. I don't think so , if I would have caught my boyfriend cheating even after asking him not to do I would have left him , scolded him that could be the max... I don't think , that's karma for what you did, you already said her about what you like to do but you tried to not to do it because of her but you couldn't hold back.. sometimes habits or desires are hard to control and takes time.. don't think like that it's not karma

[Cmasterson]

It's cheating when you go behind your partners back period and they don't now about it with another person sexually/romantically etc.
As shitty as you were to Mandy, but also you shouldn't have to change yourself if you truly don't want to for someone because you will end up keeping secrets etc. But anyway, both are wrong. and No i don't think Chyianne will give you another chance.

[barryboi]

Thanks for the comment.

[Anonymous]

No! Molly has nothing to do embarrassing u in public. If her life consist of being a bitch to u for the fact of showing ur close information to her as to ruin ur life, she must not have a life. Chyianne should of give a second chance to u since it was coming from a second opinion, if it was me, I'd slap her and probably be arrested for killing someone, no one has the right to be mean to u.

[barryboi]

Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

no problem, it is just narrow minded people, that's all

[fktheworld]

Don't they usually put deviants like you in psych wards. You're really disgusting and deserve all that