Is being a virgin a turn off?

Question

Is being a virgin a turn off for guys.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

No, it wouldn't have any bearing at all if I like a woman.

I am intimate with those I am in a relationship with so I'm not planning on being with her one time and then splitting. Even if she were really awkward at first, I'd be in a relationship with her and she'd get a lot better as time went on.

Guys that are just looking for ONE NIGHT of wild sex I suppose might want someone more experienced to make that one night memorable.

If you are in a long term relationship with someone they are only a virgin that one time. You'll be with them many times as the months and years go by so to me it would be irrelevant with someone you had feelings for and wanted to be with long term.

AdmiralBailey · Accepted Answer

Not at all, Mandi

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

First of all its important to lose your virginity with the right guy or even having the goal to wait until marriage. For me I've been with 2 virgins. The first guy I was a virgin too so it was great learning about sex with him. And we are friends to this day. However the second guy was so awkward about it it wasn't a great experience. My point being is it's better when you're a virgin to be with someone who's also a virgin or has little experience. That way you can learn together and neither one of you has to feel pressure that you won't be good enough. For me by the time I was 20 years old and the experience I had I didn't want to be with a virgin.

soberxmemories · Accepted Answer

ok well i'm a female but i'll leave an answer here anyways because i hear a lot of my male friends talk about this topic!

so from the things i've heard they don't like being around a virgin or having sexual intercourse with a virgin for 3 reasons,
one being the fact that she will get easily attached. two being she will be a 'newbie' at sex (put in less work etc. or have to be taught during the process) and finally three, because they feel responsible for taking your *first time.*

i'm sure it varies with different men but this is the stuff i've heard around me! x

BitterSweetApplePie · Accepted Answer

To some people, it is. My current boyfriend explained that he had actively avoided certain girls because they were still virgins and would have done the same to me, despite being super interested in me.

He said it's because he's too old (25) to take someone's virginity and just feels weird about it. I think some guys also may do it to avoid the baggage or emotions that may come with losing one's virginity. Some guys also want a girl that knows what she's doing in bed, instead of just laying there trying to get comfortable with it and figure everything out.

PrincessPie · Answer

No, most guys, least the ones on here seem to think its a turn on.

784456 · Answer

It's most of the times a turn off for me. I wouldn't say major, though.

For some other guys, I think it's a major turn on. For me, it depends how long she lasts in bed. I had all-night virgins and 10 minute ones... I definitely hate the latter, but hey, to each his own.

The thing is, I always craved for a partner with experience (and I will to the end of my life, probably) and I don't know how 90% of my girlfriends were virgin... It's like I'm a fucking virgin magnet or something.

Everybody wants somebody with experience, I think. I even went to the stage I was asking girls point blank if they were virgin. Obviously they thought I'm a douchebag SEARCHING for VIRGIN girls instead... X_X

I didn't reject girls based on their experience. I taught the virgins and I think I did a pretty good job.

I mostly rejected girls based on their nutty behaviour. The thing is, some 50% of the virgin girls out there tend to be nuts. At least this was my case.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s very confusing for me. I’ve met a few men in my past that don’t want a virgin for one reason or another, yet they’re the same guys who call women sluts for having sexual experiences.

Shane_B · Answer

I'm a virgin...

But thats seems to be a turn off for girls in my age range, or slightly older, but I've never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl...

I guess I'm too late for it, or never gonna have the chance to prove myself...

Anonymous · Answer

Think about this. A scenario. A guy wants to date you. You tell him you are a virgin. He does not like it. Suggest to him you will go and have sex with someone else, so you are no longer a virgin. Then maybe you two can date. Can you imagine his reaction?

Something else. EVERY girl was once a virgin. So there ARE guys that are turned on by virgins!

VegetaSSB · Answer

Not, on the contrary i would love to be the first man of a lady, so for me being a virgin girl is actually a big turn on, and males, still nowadays, value being the first man of a lady more than you would think in general. The first time always leaves a mark, wanting to deny it or not.

IceQueen328 · Answer

I'm a girl, I'm also a virgin who asked the same question to one of my guy friends. He told me that to some men it's a turn on because it makes them feel more empowered when they know they are the first to a girl. To some men it's a turn off because they prefer wild fun sex not first time innocent sex.

Rachkoki · Answer

Idont think so... I'm a proud virgin by choice and I'd be glad to offert it to my man someday.. this will definitely boost his ego.. that he took away my virginity.. i'm hoping to find someone like me but as I get older.. i guess most men gets sexually active...

Chaz269 · Answer

Some, maybe, but not all. Frankly, I'd rather be with a woman with enough experience to know what she likes and how to achieve it. That doesn't necessitate multiple sexual partners, or any really. If she's bold enough to explore her own body and intimate fantasies, and doesn't mind sharing with me, then that helps me to satisfy her when we're together.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m a virgin. In my experience, most men are okay with it. Sometimes they ask why I’m still a virgin out of curiosity. But I’ve also met some guys that don’t like virgins because they are inexperienced.

JangleKlown · Answer

To some, yes. Some guys don't like the fact that they would have to "train" a virgin or that they may cause them pain. To others, no. Being a virgin, to them, means that you are pure. Some guys get really hot thinking about the fact that he may take that puroty away.

Anonymous · Answer

my boyfriend says he prefers virgins because it shows him that the girl isn't one of those "here's my body males, do whatever you want with it whenever you want for however long"

so, i would say no, it's not a turn off... at least to my boyfriend (yes i am a virgin and i asked him this once)

Supermodel_Guy · Answer

I would only date a virgin so it's a turn on. If a girl is not a virgin, that's a turn off. I'm waiting until after the engagement or marriage, and I'm a virgin so I expect a girl to be a virgin.

Anonymous · Answer

I would LOVE the opportunity to smash out a virgin... providing she was old enough. I'm horny, not creepy. LOL

Anonymous · Answer

its about as important as saying you have never cut your own hair or tried holding your breath.

I can see how it would be a turn off for those unprepared guys, the type that are unprepared and are basically buckets of hormones looking for company and well the other thing

StarBus420 · Answer

I like virgins because I am a virgin so does my opinion really count?

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Not exactly. It just depends on what guys want from you.

If they want to just hook up they might be a bit turned off but some will still go through with it. (I highly recommend against that)

If a guy is dating you then not really a turn off.

fpmsn · Answer

Yes! Don't buy that religious shits of purity to make you more sheep than they are. We want somebody who knows how to pleasure us, no virgin can do that!

ShuvM · Answer

No. It just means you value other stuffs more than your own experiences like being true to your faith, or the old age formula of meeting the 'right guy'. Or you are too realistic to know that someday it will happen and there is nothing fancy in losing it.

Amethyst5 · Answer

For a small minority of guys, yes, but most guys like virgins. The reason, however, is why you should be cautious...

ImTheFMan · Answer

Yes and no... If I'm sexing them no. If I'm dating then yes. I assume if you're still a virgin then I probably won't Be able to find the combination to crack your safe either.

D4NTH3M4N217 · Answer

Absolutely not, a turn off is if you slept with a lot of men. At least for me

SebShaw82 · Answer

It depends. If it's on the basis of maintaining "purity" or some religious sensibility, I'd have no interest in dating them. If it's out of her being unlucky with men, her virginity wouldn't turn me off.

PeekABooItsMe · Answer

I'm a virgin, but i have done other things, just not sex.  I feel it's fine as i'm doing the whole "wait till marriage" and it's possible to do that, just have to find the right guy

chris1984 · Answer

can be but not necesarily. a girl with no experience can be fun to teach/stretch their boundaries with, but can also be frustrating if she really doesn't get sex or has no drive.

SG19981026 · Answer

Well no actually. Some guys prefer a virgin as to experience the first taste of purity. And for some it might be a turn off. Depends on thr guy you're dealing with.

BarbieLola · Answer

It will depend who you ask some guys think it’s gross some people think it’s a fetish if you watched porn you would probably find out about the fetish part

Dreezby · Answer

For me it doesn't matter, when the guy is still a virgin and the girl too then you can both learn together and you don't feel like amberessed because you think you're doing something 'wrong'. If the girl isn't and the guy is the guy can learn something from her... If the girl is the guy knows you're not just flirting all around with everyone...

EnaJr · Answer

No. I'm only irritated when those who claim to be virgins kind of want to rub it in our faces. I'm like what the!!! Really! You just got a lot of catching up to do!

Pyrofox · Answer

Somewhat. It just means your a little more likely to be clingy and shy when it comes to the romantic stuff. OR you come off as too fast.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

For me it is when said person thinks they are better than other people because they are virgins. Otherwise I am neutral about it.

Cannuk22 · Answer

No not at all. I respect a girl that is waiting for be right person.

abond008 · Answer

For a guys who want to fuck then maybe for guys looking for a wife than no. But nothing wrong with you being a virgin and wanting to save it for marriage, best of look you are more than ok.

Mrstory11 · Answer

Not at all. 95% just think sex an fucking that pussy, virgin or not. I am not one of those. My wife was virgin an I was not. But it didn't change fact I loved her while we did it

taleswapper · Answer

Yes. Above about 19, I start to wonder why... Sex is a VERY common thing; so if you haven't had it, I start worrying about hurdles that need to be overcome.

nickyBBB · Answer

I think I would even rather being with a virgin guy who saves himself for one person, since I'm saving myself too.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

I'm only going to give my virginity to a virgin, and not unless we're married, like, sorry hun, I don't play games. You're all in or you're just too lax for my liking.

CutandDry · Answer

No... she obviously is selective about who she shares her body with.. if someone had a problem with this run!

retartedasdfgh · Answer

Personally I think it's a good thing, it means you are/were sensible in your teens and didn't go rushing into things because other people did.

verybusyguy · Answer

Not a turn off But most of the guy who are looking for one night stands or friends with benefits relationship Don't want a virgin girl as they ll have to do lot of work to get things done

abc3643 · Answer

No, not at all. I wanted to marry a virgin and she was 23 when she was last my girlfriend.

JaySmi · Answer

No. I'm a virgin myself and I would like to lose it to someone who still has theirs too if possible.  Not a turn off for me.

datgirl · Answer

No guy has ever stopped chasing me because of that fact lol.

Nathaniel2002 · Answer

Personally it's a turn on, but don't be worried about being a virgin it's completely normal so don't let others tell you different.

clampfan101 · Answer

It's not a turn on, but it's something I really really want my SO to be.

litty · Answer

Only if there is crying and screaming and not the good kind. A girl can make it memorable for herself by stretching herself out beforehand and doing lots of foreplay

rickbrown6032 · Answer

Who ever told you that was a big dumb ass nothing wrong with it beside it your body if you feel like saying no then do so.  Don't let peer pressure. You into anything

WhistleForTheChoir · Answer

No, most guys prefer that. Good men don't care. But I'm sure, due to the nature of irony, you're only ever going to fall for men who think it is.

KillerOne · Answer

actually that's nice little curious question.  I personally favor a girl that was fucked a hundred times before me... basically a cum dumpster... that's what I like.

Fukaroo · Answer

Society is the problem. Not the fact that someone's a virgin. Negative influence is the turn off.

shiv962 · Answer

I don't know about others but being a virgin is not an turn off for me rather it is good to be pure.

BR8KAR · Answer

Not a turn off but more like a red flag situation. A virgin is new to sex. So, you have to manage their expectations. A guy has to be extra cautious, if they want to not scar the said virgin for life. We were all virgins once.

Nadia1994 · Answer

It's actually the opposite. Most guys think it's a turn on.

Cryostatic · Answer

I wouldn't call it a turn off, but it definitely raises some concerns.

madhatters4 · Answer

no. everyone is a virgin at some point. no reason for it to be turn off in most cases

Pegases · Answer

If I want a long term relationship with the girl then it's a plus, not exactly a turn on.

Longlegs1979 · Answer

To some is turn on I talk to guy who got a “fetish” for virgin in other words he get them and dump but some also like idea of a “pure girl”

That1tallguy · Answer

Guys love when they hear a girls a virgin but girls hate when the guy is a virgin.

superbored17 · Answer

It can be. a lot of guys don't want to be the teacher. Though on the other hand a virgin has no others to base anything off of so the first is best by default.

slatyb · Answer

At 21? No. At 40 most guys will wonder if the woman has any sex drive.

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