If they aren't his own kids, it'd be easier for him to walk away when it doesn't work out, similarly to how if he doesn't marry you & you two fight big, he'll be able to walk away without any legal ties,
It's just easier and more convenient for him.
Now ask yourself, if you want marriage & kids, should you stay with him?
Give him a serious talk. You two have priorities and values you need to straighten out before deciding if you two should stay together or not.
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My cousin was the same way. Its because she got a sexually transmitted disease before she got married that left her infertile and she didn't tell her husband about it because she didn't want him to use it against her in an argument.
Maybe he doesn't want to add more kids to the world, but doesn't mind being a father to one that's already here.
Or maybe he has a disease or illness that runs in his family that he doesn't want to pass on.
Well I can't speak for him but mid 20s my best mate got his his ball cords cut haha, basically he has serious mental illness that runs in his family and doesn't want to pass it and likes being selfish so can't if he's a dad, though the lad is great with kids and did date a lady with 3 kids for a few months, could there be something that could be passed in his genetics he would worry about?
As an antinatalist this makes perfect sense to me. I don't think it's right to force life upon someone; if I had the choice I certainly wouldn't want to be born. But if I were to adopt I would be helping to deal with the problem rather than add to it.
Perhaps your boyfriend is an antinatalist, too.
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I don't know about why he doesn't want his own children. But maybe he can't have them because of something in his past. I was told after a certain thing that I would most likely never have children of my own. I had one now I want more but I have not found someone to have them with. Call it screwed up but I just kinda think at my age I screwed up waiting to long.
He probably wouldn't mind adopting a kid that was already out of it's toddler stage, the most difficult stage in raising a child.
Also he may not want to get married but that doesn't mean he doesn't believe in life partnership.I've met a few people in my lifetime that doesn't want any kids. It just seems like they had no wishes to have any offspring. Maybe they don't want to go through the process of having a baby and having to change diapers and the crying and what not.
The difference with kids your own, adopting, and dating a woman that already has them is that you can walk away. There is nothing complicated here, only your own projections clouding the mist. He simply does not want kids of his own.
Sounds as though he doesn't want to go through the pregnancy he might have some more selfish reasons like not wanting you to damage your body during the process. Doesn't want the stress of the pregnancy or baby phase.
Maybe he isn't fertile. There are many possibilities.Personally i dont want my own kids. I want my bloodline to die off. Adopting is different. Giving hope to those who weren't blessed in the beginning is the best thing one can do. Those are my reasons, can speak for him
obviously there might be an issue with him, did something happen in his childhood where he doesn't want kids? can he not physically have kids? its just a little weird because there has to be a reason it just doesn't make sense
I have absolutely no idea. If someone's up for adoption, but not having their own kids, maybe he has fertility issues that you don't know about? That's really the only justifiably reason I can think of.
Everything we do, everything we've evolved to be, has been designed to pass on our genes. In the past men fought and died for it. The fact that he doesn't want to but instead wants to raise someone else's just suggests that he's retarded.
Maybe he can't have children ane afraid of admiting it? I really dunno
maybe he doesn't want to see you in pain for 9 months
and for the adoption maybe he wants to help some childrenThat definitely means he wouldn't treat his adopted like his own
Bitches can't take him to court for child support if they aren't his blood. Smart thinking. 😂
He doesn’t want the responsibility or to have to pay the child support when he leaves her... I’d say dump him—he is afraid of commitment.
He's probably infertile. (Incapable of making kids)
that doesn't make no sense... can he make children? if not maybe that's why... but if yes his mental need fixing
children up bringing and area hav a lot to play in there thinking.
that in right dohCould be a latent fear of bad genes? Both his and yours
I was going to say financial responsibility but with the adoption part, I am lost as to why.
What is the question here? How on earth can we possibly answer that for you? You have to ask him.
For whatever reason he is probably unable to.
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