So I have been with this guy for 4.5 years he keeps saying he is ready for us to have a child. I asked him if he plans to take the next step and make us live together and he said he dosent know. I then asked him how can he not know after we have been together for such a good while and he said maybe now is just not the right time. It really made me feel bad like what should I do?
Ay yo that's some sketchy behavior from your boy right there. Red flags all over the place.
Wanting a baby but not committing to living together? That don't add up at all sis. Dude needs to get his priorities straight before you even think about kids.
Four years is more than enough time to know if he sees a future with you or not. "Maybe now's not the right time" is just an excuse, especially since he's pushing this baby talk. Total contradiction on his part.
I'd hit the brakes on the baby stuff until he gets real about your relationship. Make him put up or shut up - either he's all in on taking this to the next level with you or he ain't. Don't let him string you along no more, feel me?
You deserve better than some flakey boy playing games after all this time. Let him know the living together talk needs to happen before any babies do. And if he not tryna commit hard, might be time to bounce, you know? You got your whole life ahead, don't waste it for no funny dude. Keep it real with him boo, you'll see what's up then.
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In the 1950 musical "Guys And Dolls," Nathan Detroit has been engaged for 14 years to his fiancee, Adelaide. In the musical, that is a farce. . . but you are one-third of the way to 14 years. ¿Lo entiendes?
Every child deserves to be raised in a home with both a mother and a father. End of discussion.
Don't get pregnant until you and this dude got married. In the future nothing is guaranteed not thebsound like an old Karen but anything can happen what of he meets a new girl and decides to live you out of no where like cold turkey for a new girl. Just yhink about it im giving you a realistic answer. If the two of you aren't married Don't do it!
Having a baby definitely should not be on the list of things to do. You’ve been together 4.5 years and he’s unsure about living together? That’s very strange. And even stranger for him to want a baby, a lifelong commitment, yet he can’t commit to living with you..
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Don't try to force things right now. Maybe revisit the subject in 3-6 months.
I will tell you this as a parent- when that baby is right there in front of you, you're going to want to be around it as much as you can...Tell him that moving in is the step that comes before having a child, if the child won't see it's parents together and y'all aren't living as a family, y'all already stepped into parenting incorrectly.
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