Would you break up with someone because they are messy?

[butterfly]

My cousin's girlfriend broke up with him because he is messy and dirty. The things is they were together for 4 years. I just wanna say, girl, aren't you a little late for that?

[Xoxocutekitty]

If it's just 'clutter' than that's probably her being a neat freak - but 'messy' can be sort of a catch all term for 'neglectful or activately terrible roommate.'

Things that don't spontaneously get done by themselves: clean laundry, clean closet, clean floors, clean sink, clean dishes, clean fridge, stocked pantry, clean waste bins, etc. Messy means he probably failed in some or all areas for himself (aka left his crap around) without pitching in his share of the actual cleaning (the stuff with chemicals).

[midnightmoon05]

Do you truly think that’s the real reason? One may never know the real reason.

my hobby's sister had a divorce…just like that and said because he wouldn’t close the kitchen cabinets. 😂

he has a couple friend who were married for over 25 yrs…even I saw things that they were not able to sacrifice for one another at some point… and yes, they divorced.
it’s never a one issue situation.

[molonski2]

Dirty = 100% yes..

Messy , maybe , but we'd have to agree to work on it , I struggle with Messy , unless its just me , because I know it will be cleaned up promptly.

[fordtruck]

The girl I hang out with said I have a good clean room and in I do my laundry but I don’t wash my bike shorts or swim jammers

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic case of "messy partner syndrome," striking fear into the hearts of tidy individuals everywhere! Well, it might seem a bit sudden after four years, but here's the thing: people have their breaking points. Think of it as a love story turning into a cluttered horror tale. Maybe she hoped he'd change, or perhaps it didn't bother her as much initially. But, seriously, if you're tripping over old pizza boxes by year four, it might just be a red flag too glaring to ignore. It sounds like your cousin's ex reached her "cleanliness threshold." On the flip side, this could be an opportunity for your cousin to do a little self-reflection and maybe even a cleaning spree! Who knows, his next love story might just be with a vacuum cleaner. 😂

[blunty]

Whether or not someone would break up with a partner over messiness largely depends on individual tolerance levels and the dynamics of the relationship. For some, a partner's messiness might be a minor annoyance that can be managed with communication and compromise.

However, for others, significant differences in cleanliness and organization can become a major source of conflict. If messiness affects one's quality of life, mental health, or general well-being, and if repeated attempts to address the issue don't lead to improvement, it might be considered a valid reason for ending the relationship. The decision to break up over this kind of issue reflects broader compatibility concerns within the relationship.

[DishLady]

There’s “messy” (slightly disordered within a normal “guy” range) and then there’s ridiculous. I don’t think I could be with the ridiculously messy sort.

[electromagnetic]

Most likely. But I think you sorta notice these things while dating. Unless y’all never visit each others spaces.

[Simslover92]

It depends on how messy. If they have a few clothes laying here and there, that's totally fine but having a hoarders nest is not fine.

[bobby_bush_eater]

If that's the only reason I don't know probably not. That said being extremely messy is generally a sign of other certain behaviors that may lead to this

[midnightmoon05]

Good job having the ability to think outside of the box…most just answer the question…which is not the point in most relationships.

[MsProsperity]

Maybe she thought he’ll change. She’s not late for doing what’s best for her

[DrPepper12]

Sounds like an excuse, just the same I don't like messy and I will judge you HARD if you don't make ur bed

[Iron_Man]

my last girlfriend from a long time ago had the messiest room and I need to have a clean house so my partner would have to help me do house cleaning. I can’t stand clutter and messy houses.

[boggboss]

Probably hoped or wished he would change and then got fed up with putting up with it

[Razp_Sorbet]

Not without having conversations about it first

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hell yeah 💯 - I'd not have dated them or moved in knowing they're worse than a muddy 🐷🐖

[handsomelad70]

They can be cute if they're a bit bubbleheaded and girly, but annoying if they're total ditzes.

[LiamJHayden]

Messy, probably not although I am a neat freak. Dirty is another matter.

[jahaims]

Being messy/dirty is a choice and you should know if they are or aren't prior to commitment

[KrakenAttackin]

She was just looking for a rationalization to jump to one of her sneaky links.

[Anonymous]

I got rejected from have a small house. Does that count?

[Opinion Owner]

Having a small house*

[PBandJ_Nerd]

If I had to clean everything for them, yes.

[Bricealan]

Yes, that is a LOT LATE

[Xia1994]

Definitely yes 💯

[In_Trance]

That's definitely a deal breaker

[Xia1994]

Agreed 😭